7 Simple Steps To Attracting Your SOULMATE | Lewis Howes EP 530

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0:31Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:42When I was a kid, I really didn't feel connected to too many people. I was the youngest of four. My parents were working extremely hard in their jobs, but also trying their best to parent us. I was always struggling with friendships. I didn't really feel like I had a lot of friends growing up. I felt like I was more picked on and kind of the kid in the back of the class who was just struggling in school and really just got made fun of a lot. And that was the memories, or at least the stories I tell myself. And I remember in middle school, high school, college, starting to observe people a lot and seeing how do people work in relationship dynamics?

1:17What makes people attracted to another person? What makes them interested? What makes them laugh? I started to observe people and really just study human dynamics, human behavior, and social situations. And I started to experiment a lot. I started to try to build deeper relationships. I tried to be a funny human being. I tried to act intelligent. I tried to jump in quickly in conversation. I tried to show off and show a big ego of what I could accomplish in my successes in sports and things like that. I learned the hard way about how to not do relationships from multiple failed intimate relationships that I've had since I was 16 until I was about 38.

1:59I don't believe that this world and this life is supposed to be sad and suffering and a constant situation where you just feel like I'm never going to be able to have a happy relationship, a fulfilled, thriving relationship. I truly believe that we are meant to overcome the adversities and the stories and the beliefs that hold us back from the things that may have happened to us and write a new story and create a new relationship with ourselves in the world. and ultimately attracting an incredible partner for yourself so that you can have a love story, a life full of a lot of love, and you can think about every single night the gratitude and appreciation you have for this relationship.

2:51I truly believe it's possible. One, because I never thought it was possible from all of the stressful, struggling, failed relationships I experienced. They felt like a ton of work. They felt like we were never in alignment and we were always off in some way. And I don't blame any of the people that I was in relationships with. I didn't know how to choose out of really these seven different things we're going to talk about. I didn't know how to choose from a place of wholeness and a journey of healing. I was choosing out of a place of anxiousness, avoidant, being emotionally unattached at certain times or whatever it might have been out of fear, really.

3:29I was choosing out of fear. and the goal is to choose from a place of faith and love. Knowing that the relationship is never gonna be this perfect thing. You're never gonna find the perfect person who never makes a mistake or who isn't flawed. And if that's what you're thinking right now, it's just not going to happen. But through these seven keys that we're gonna talk about in this episode, you can really set yourself up for a lot of success in your relationship. And when I think of success, I don't mean you've picked a partner that looks good on paper and that your parents approve of and your friends admire.

4:06I'm talking about success in the terms of you feel a sense of peace, gratitude, and harmony inside of you. And your environment is full of love. Again, it doesn't mean you're not going to have challenging conversations or struggle from time to time or face adversity together. But the goal is to create harmony. and create a peaceful, thriving relationship with harmony, not with stress, not with explosive emotions and chaotic energy. That is not a thriving relationship. That might be fun and interesting for a short amount of time, but over a long-lasting relationship, that is unsustainable. It will burn you out and it will bring you to your knees and make you feel like the world is crumbling against you.

4:56Your goal is not to create that relationship, but to create one that supports you in becoming your greatest self, the highest version of you, where you can actualize your talents, your gifts and dreams, and manifest those into the world in service through the relationship. That's what this is all about.

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