A Daily Guide To Building Unshakable Confidence | Emmanuel Acho EP 239

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0:53What would you say people can do to build self-confidence if they're doubting themselves? What are some things, if it's not setting and accomplishing goals, what can we do to build it? Self-confidence starts with self. I will tell, I will share, I believe you and I have had this conversation either on or off the record. June 9th, 2020, get that call from Oprah. Well, okay, true story, let me not lie to you. I missed the call. Oprah's right-hand woman rushes in. Hey, great job, Emmanuel, but I think Oprah called you. I scurried to call her back. I call her. This is what she says. You have the thing, my friend.

1:28you have the thing and coming from someone who had the thing and has the thing you my friend you have the thing so what is the thing she said you have an ability to communicate with people difficult truth and they still want to hear you so what would my advice be to people who are trying to get that confidence without setting goals i would tell them what oprah told me you have the thing the question is what is the thing what is the ability that you are uniquely skilled gifted and or excel at. We all have it. I promise you, you have it because we all do. Your thing might be an incredible painter.

2:01Your thing might be simply being a servant, a great listener. Your thing might be being great with kids. Your thing might be being great with animals. You might be great with secretarial tasks. You might be a skilled mathematician, but you have the thing. So for those that are lacking confidence, you don't need to set a goal to know that you're skilled. You just need to believe that you're skilled and you need to figure out what is it that you are skilled at. I shared this story today on my social media, but you're my boy. Let me share it now. Yes. 2014, I'd been released by the Eagles for the fifth time.

2:35By them or by the Eagles? Holy cow. How do they keep bringing you back? They cut me. They would sign me back. They cut me. They would sign me back. Oh my gosh, man. They cut me, bro. My coach, Southern Draw Accent, he said this. He called me E. He said, E? I wish I could buy stock in your future. I said, coach, you wish you could buy stock in my future? You all just released me for the fifth time. That's crazy. In the last two years, and I'm not even 25. Fast forward seven years, eight years. I realized what he was saying. He saw in me what I hadn't even seen in myself, not as a football player, but as a person.

3:15My coach texted me about three months ago, and he said, stock price is too high. What I would just tell people is like, man, I wish I could buy stock in your future. Because my coach saw in me what I didn't see in myself. And I think sometimes it's our job to see in people what they don't even see in themselves. You know, what's interesting is we should be reinvesting in our own stock daily. And like pouring back into ourselves, buying into ourselves so that we appreciate over time. The more we do that by acquiring skills or learning how to heal traumas of the past or mending friendships or forgiving people or being consistent with the habits that help us live a better life, we will ultimately be more valuable in the future.

3:59Correct. So start investing now. Investing in yourself and learn to fall in love with yourself. Absolutely. On a scale of one to 10, 10 being the highest form of self-love, one being the lowest form of self-love, where are you on that scale? A six and a half. Where were you two years ago? Huh. An eight. Okay, so you loved yourself more before you love yourself now. Why? I believe that expectations minus reality equals disappointment. Before Uncomfortable, there was no expectations. Not by the world. I had my own expectations, but the world had no expectation of me. Now, my expectations are freaking through the roof.

4:42Now you're number one bestseller. You've won an Emmy. you gotta show, sit down with you. Expectations are through the roof. So now I've gotten harder on myself because it's so hard to maintain excellence. And that is why I'd say it's at a six and a half because I'm just hard on myself now and I'm hard on everybody around me. Now, I believe that the fun isn't winning. You know, my coach told me the fun isn't winning. I've never met too many happy people that don't win. And so it's at a six and a half because I'm just, but you're winning. You're winning more than two years ago. You've got three books in two years, an Emmy, massive press over the world, massive social media following.

5:27You're changing lives. You're impacting people. You're spreading your voice to the world. The biggest fear, and you love yourself less. The biggest fear, dude, isn't in non-attaining and not attaining. the biggest fear is in having it and losing it. What you're saying is with success, you love yourself less. I would say that my highs are high and my lows are low. My highs are significantly higher and my lows are lower. Two and a half years ago, just chilling. Not much good, not much better. Just here. Now, Emmy. There's more at stake. Solitude. Number one bestseller. Isolation. Oh, man. There's a dichotomy of success.

6:07Mm-hmm. and I love what Oprah says and I believe she says it best. You can have everything, but you can't have it all at once. Like my all right now is significance. People say, Emmanuel, how'd you get so successful? I don't care about success. I care about significance. What does that mean? Impact. When I think of significance, it's me being significant as opposed to being of service and creating significance in the world. I say they're the same. Why would I say they're the same? Is you being of service is significant to you. My desire is to inspire those to go higher, past or acquired, so those they admire can also admire whom they inspire before they expire.

6:48Dude, I just want to inspire people to be a better version of themselves. Yes. So that the people who admire me, I can admire them before I get up out of here.

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