Balance Masculine & Feminine Energy in RELATIONSHIPS: How to Nurture DEEP CONNECTION & RESPECT | Gabby Bernstein

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11What's your definition of masculinity in general now? There's so much great about being in the masculine, right? For me, it was sort of the embodiment of creation and confidence and speaking up and having a voice. Not that that's not feminine too, but in a sort of loud and proud way, right? Sort of owning my circumstances and not being afraid to show up. You can do that from a feminine place, of course. Sure. But there's a fierceness around being in that masculine energy, which is, you know, most of my contemporaries that are women, some of which are on your wall, the key to their successes was being in that masculine.

0:53But I think the key to their greatest successes will be merging that masculine with their feminine. When you're in a marriage and the female is being masculine a majority of the time, is it possible for the man to be just as masculine? Or do they have to kind of default into their feminine to be able to just function? I think couples can dance between both. So my husband can be very masculine and take care of business. My house runs on a full tight ship because that man is so... He's getting his contractor's license. He is legit. Yeah, he's amazing. And then also like legal, he's a lawyer, so he runs legal.

1:30He's going to run shit, you know? But then at the same time, he can move into the space of the feminine and like let me nurture and take care of him in that sort of feminine, softer, gentler place. So I think that learning the dance and learning like these areas are when it's great when I'm in my masculine and these areas are great when he's in his feminine and vice versa. And I don't think there's anything wrong with slipping in and out as long as you go in and out and you don't just stay in these two head-butting places. Yeah. It's extremely important that we as women make a commitment to being our feminine because you guys need it.

2:06Like you... If you're masculine, we don't know what to do, right? Yeah. It's like... Yeah. Your makeup... And there's a beautiful book by Luann Brizendine, the book on the female brain. And she talks about how like the male brain like just needs to help and support and serve. And there's a lot of bodies that work on this, you know. So Allison Armstrong, all this great work on the male brain. The man is like hardwired to support, to fix, to make things. And so the woman's constantly doing that. I'm not letting a man do his job. If you're constantly fixing everything. Let them show up. Let them make the reservation.

2:40It's part time sometimes, right? Yes. Majority time, whatever. Yes. Yes. Interesting. It's crucial. So you've seen a huge shift in your relationship because of this. Much deeper connection. Yeah. and respect for one another. And I've fallen in love with him again in a different way. And I believe it's the same for him. Did you ever feel like the relationship, maybe I'm getting too personal here, but did you ever feel like the relationship was going to not work out in your marriage? No, I always had a lot of faith in a relationship because even in the darkest times, we were willing to do the work.

3:09Yeah. And so I think that - You've been committed. Yeah, but rather than just beyond commitment and having a ring, I think if two people are willing to like do the spiritual and personal growth work around being in a relationship, it can work. Yeah. What's it mean to have a spiritual practice? What does that mean and look like? Does that mean praying every day? What it means, what you want it to mean. I mean, this book, these books I write are helping people establish a spiritual relationship and practice of their own understanding. And so for me, what it means is having daily devotion to connecting to the universe, to source, to love, right?

3:45To God, to a million ways of calling it. I call it all, right? I'll call it God, I'll call it the universe, I'll call it spirit, or alignment. But having daily devotion to that alignment. Is that considered meditation or just a period of time? Prayer, meditation, devoting time. And sometimes that time may only be five minutes in the morning. But for me, I make a commitment at least 20 to just really listen. I live in a constant prayer. You know, every moment there's like some shit that's thrown at me. And I'm like, how can I see this differently? Help me change my mind about this. I think that like one of my special skills is like prayer giver.

4:20Like I just like to give prayer. and I love to like channel prayers. Just like, it's just like one of my favorite things to do. What's one you're channeling right now? All throughout the book, there's tons of prayers on surrender. And so that's probably one that I'm living in right now is thank you universe for taking this from me, helping me see this with love. Something very simple, right? You just say that over in your mind or you say it out loud? In my mind, if I'm with someone that's highly spiritual that wants to go there, I'll say it out loud. Right, right. But just being in that conscious communication and being in connection spiritually is a conversation.

4:57It's constantly bridging your lower vibe self to your higher self through prayer.

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