Change Your Thought Patterns & Upgrade Your Life | Gabby Bernstein EP 264

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation show.

0:10I firmly believe that taking charge of your mindset allows you to be in the driver's seat of your life and unlock your potential. And that's why I'm thrilled to share that my new book is out right now. It's called The Greatness Mindset. In it, you'll learn how to build a plan for greatness through powerful exercises and toolkits designed to propel your life forward. This is the book that I wish I had 20 years ago. It's everything I've learned in the last decade with the research and the science to help you unlock your mind. Make sure to go to lewishouse.com slash 2023mindset to pick up your copy of my book, The Greatness Mindset, today.

0:51I believe that we all have guides, ancestors, family members, teachers, light beings, energy beings that are supporting us in a form that is able to step in, able to channel through us when we write books, able to be there in those darkest moments, pick us up off the floor and hold us in discomfort and guide us to business opportunities or babies or whatever it is that we're looking for. And it's always available to us, that guidance, but we just, we cut it off. We block it. Why do we block the guidance? Fear is the reason we block it. Fear of what? It's not even fear. It's that false-based perception that we've built up around ourselves from those traumatic events, right?

1:27So we have these traumatic events early in life and they continue to build and build and build. We build up a world of false perceptions. I am this body. I am Gabby Bernstein. I am Lewis Howes. I've got the School of Greatness. I'm a New York Times bestseller. I can't trust people. We create these beliefs. And you believe you're separate from others. You believe you're better than or less than or not good enough. And all those stories, all those false pretenses are what many spiritual practices call the ego. And that fear-based perception of yourself is misaligned. When you clear and undo those patterns of fear and start to claim the pattern of love, that's when you are hooked up, super attractor, doors unstoppable, invisible doors open for you.

2:10It doesn't matter how low you are when you're starting this, you will go way further than you could possibly have imagined. And I am standing behind that subtitle, Methods for Manifesting, A Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams. What's the difference between between spiritual guides or guides and intuition? You could call it the same thing. Your guides are your bridge from your fear-based thoughts back to your love, right? So if you pray and say, God, guide, higher self. Angels, whatever. I give this to you. Figure it out. I don't know how I'm going to get through this time, but I give it to you. That's how we surrender.

2:46People are like, I don't know how to surrender. I don't want to let it go. I don't know how to. Through prayer. Okay, prayer is the conduit. And then when we say that prayer or that intention, whatever you want to call it, and we allow ourselves to give it over to a higher power of our own understanding, a guide, God, spirit, grandma, whoever, we're taking that difficult experience. We're handing it over and then we relax because we think, okay, it's not on my shoulders anymore. It's like taking our ego out of ourself and putting it over here and saying someone else is going to handle it. Help me undo this.

3:13And then their job is to pay attention. What's going to show up for us? How do we pay attention? Just be aware, stay calm, and stay chill. right? And be conscious of how things start to speed up or the synchronicities that begin to happen around you. So when we reflect our judgment on someone else, we don't like something, we're angry at them. How can we shift that to see the good in them? When we are in judgment of somebody else, what's happening is that we're projecting onto them our own wounds. And so the second step of judgment detox is to, well, the first step is to honor your wounds. But when I judge, I don't believe in it.

3:48And I get out of it quickly. So what do you say when you're judging someone else? I witness my judgment without judgment. Step one, I honor the wound. Okay. Oh, I'm judging them because I'm feeling insecure. I'm judging them because they're triggering something. Right. And then I continue on the journey of the judgment detox, which, you know, just releasing and forgiving and seeing someone for the first time, choosing to see them through the lens of love. Two weeks before I was meant to conceive, my doctor, who's like a very conservative Yale trained physician in my little tiny country town, I just turned 39.

4:23I was 38 when I was pregnant. I just turned 39. So he considered me 40. And he's like, we believe that you need to deliver 40, 40, 40 weeks when you're 40 years old. And I was resisting and resisting. And I was like, I'm not 40. And I don't want to be induced. And I don't want to force the baby out. I don't want to have that kind of thing. I was so torn up because he was so nervous and that was infiltrating my fears. So I was in his office and I was like, okay, universe, I can't make a decision. I need a sign. I said, show me a sign if following this path is the right move. And he walked in the door and he was wearing this necktie.

4:55And I said, Howie, what's on your tie? And he said, it's a cardinal. And I said, okay, in my head, that's my sign. It's a cardinal. And so the next day I had to make a decision if I wanted to get booked. So I didn't have an opportunity to see my cardinal before I made that quote, that decision, because I had to book him in the schedule. And he was leaving the next week. It was a mess. So I made the decision without seeing the sign to be induced to schedule an induction. It's not what I wanted. And so I made that decision. I was in my bath. I texted my girlfriend. I said, okay, I'm going to be induced.

5:25This is happening. And she writes back to me. That's a great decision. I feel really good about it. And I know it's good for you because I saw a cardinal land on my window just now. No way. Did you tell her the sign? She had no idea what it's saying. Wow. But here's the thing. So I got my cardinal. It gave me the guidance that I was on the right path. I was meant to be induced on a Wednesday. On a Monday, I'm lying in my bed and finishing the finishing touches of the book because I wanted to deliver the book before I delivered the baby. I stand up to go to the bathroom and my water breaks. No way.

5:56And here I am. And I have the most epic Beyonce birth. Like, there was nobody at the hospital. I had, like, rolling hills out my window. And, like, so the whole point is that my sign was saying, yeah, you're on the right track. Make the decision so that I could relax. Because if I hadn't made that decision, I wouldn't have relaxed. My water wouldn't have broke because I would have been too freaked out and tense.

6:32Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of The Daily Motivation, and I hope you have an amazing rest of your day. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to click the link in the description. That will take you to the full episode of our main podcast on The School of Greatness. And if you are loving The Daily Motivation, please follow us over on Apple Podcasts and Spotify and leave us a review over on Apple Podcasts right now. And if you want more exclusive content and ad-free listening experience, make sure to subscribe to our Greatness Plus channel on Apple Podcast right now. And if you want to get even more inspiration from our world-class guests and learn how to improve your life and take it to the next level, then make sure to sign up for the Greatness newsletter and get it delivered right to your inbox over at greatness.com slash newsletter.

7:22Again, have an amazing day, and I'll see you tomorrow with another episode of the Daily Motivation Show.