CREATE LASTING RESULTS For The Rest Of Your Life | Jay Shetty EP 447

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation show.

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0:50How do you figure out what you are and how do you know if you're trying to be like something else that you're not? Two processes. One is personal excavation. the more you observe yourself in different situations the more you observe yourself when you're around certain people the more you observe yourself when you're experimenting and testing and trying new things out the more you get a sense for how you feel about it versus how someone feels that you feel about it and that's our constant disconnect we're validating or verifying everyone through even a small question like how do i look in this we're letting someone else's opinion define how we feel about ourselves, even if we feel totally uncomfortable.

1:28So we only get to that point when we start observing ourselves and testing and experimenting with multiple things so that you can see yourself in different scenarios and different situations. How do you help people with ADD being in the moment focus on what they want to do and just get forward and not getting distracted all the time? I think one of the biggest challenges with change is too much pressure, especially when someone has other challenges that affect the challenge of distraction. And I would look at small incremental changes, small changes, but a big priority in their life. The challenge I find is that too many of us are trying to change too many things all at the same time.

2:06It's like we want to wake up early and start going to the gym and eat right all in the same week. It's impossible. Right? It's impossible. Like no one can do that, right? I've tried. Yeah, I've tried too. And it kills you. Like it breaks you. Like no one can do that. Small step, big priority. Try and change one small thing, but make it the biggest priority of the week. What we do, we try and make big steps and make them all small priorities. And so we want to shift that, right? Shift it the other way around. So help that person find a small little baby step that they can take, but help them focus just on that.

2:35If you see a child, a child doesn't start learning how to eat proper food and walk at the same time. The children have moments in their life where certain things start evolving for them. That's how we're built. That's how we're wired. So allowing that to happen continuously, even when we grow older, makes it easier for that person as well. Is there something you've tried to change that's worked for you in the last year that you've done this? Yeah, so my health was a big thing for me this year because as a monk, you literally go to the edge. Like I've tested my body to every one of its limits. And when I did that, I broke parts of my body and needed to be healed.

3:09And this year, one of my biggest focuses was my health. So I made that my top priority in my personal life, not in my professional goals, but my personal goals. And that included getting a personal trainer, included getting a healer, included getting people to work with me who are experts. But it became a big priority and a small step. So I wasn't trying to change my eating habits and my health habits. It was just me taking care of my exercise and physical body. What's your advice or your takeaway for anyone here that's struggling with something of the past that we dealt with maybe as a kid or from 10 years old, 11 years old?

3:40It's not as easy as changing your story. Yes, we can change our story and aim to change our mindset. but what are some tips or tricks or advice that you have for that? After I finished being a monk for three years, a lot of my memory prior to that was wiped out. Really? So I actually would sit down with a friend from like 16 years old and they'd be like, Jay, do you remember we did this? And I'd be like, oh yeah, but it would take me a moment. There's so much cleansing and my experience of that cleansing was slight loss of memory. Not legitimately losing memory, just seeing something drift into the past because it's been dealt with.

4:09So it goes into the back of your mind. So that healing and cleansing. So I really believe in journaling is a great cleansing process. I think being able to journal, write, just get it out on a piece of paper, being able to move away from being in our heads and being able to learn to articulate things well. There's a beautiful statement by Einstein where he said, if you can't explain something simply, you don't understand it well enough. And so if you can't explain what you went through simply, you don't understand it well enough. It's a brilliant test to know whether you've healed or cleansed.

4:40So keep articulating yourself to people who care, to a healer, to the page, with a pen, whatever it takes to continue that cleansing process so that you can get to a point where you can explain how you went through, what you went through. And it's effortless. It's simple. It's easy. So I think healing is what we need, not burying and not broadcasting, but healing. And healing kind of exists between the two. Some people just broadcast their pain and some people bury their pain. And the real challenge is to heal it. And that healing comes through journaling, sharing, articulating. And that takes time.

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6:19Again, have an amazing day, and I'll see you tomorrow with another episode of the Daily Motivation Show.

6:35Thank you.