David Ghiyam: Breaking Free from Perfectionism to Unlock True Manifestation | EP 847

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:12What's the thing that's still hard for you to break through or sometimes you forget and you have to be reminded with a painful lesson? That's a great question. One of the things I've learned is it doesn't matter how long you've been spiritual or you've been working on something or what your past experience has been. every test you go through is sent to you by the universe that is exactly on your level. The challenge of your opponent is exactly equal to where you're at in order to get you to your next level. And the only reason the next level isn't comfortable is because it's not your current level.

0:53It's a level that you're not familiar with. So of course you don't see it. Of course it's illogical. Of course, it's dark. And so what I realized in this year, this has been probably one of my most transformational years, is that I am such a perfectionist. I'm sure maybe you can relate. You look perfect, man. You got perfect hair. You got perfect outfit. Everything's like put together, man. You look good. I am such a perfectionist that everything I do, I've always felt has to be the best. And this was the year I realized that part of why I'm trying to always be the best is I don't want to let other people down.

1:36I have to kind of give off this persona because I'm representing spirituality and I don't want to make spirituality look bad. So I have to have everything put together. Plus you've got a big business. You want to make sure your employees, your team, your investors, whatever it might be, customers feel like you're credible as well. Correct. Correct. It's a sloppy human being walking around. Correct. I can't be sloppy externally or internally. But what I realized was that what that was causing was a lot of guilt and shame every time I fell short of the mark I needed to be at or the expectations I put on myself.

2:11And then what was happening was the guilt and the shame was creating much more negativity than all the things I was trying to perfect. So guilt and shame lowers your vibration more than any other mistake you make. People make mistakes like, I don't know, let's say you're in a relationship and you say something to your spouse or to your girlfriend or boyfriend that hurts them or upsets them and you feel bad about it. That was one moment in time where you created a little negative energy. But the guilt and shame that we carry after making a mistake is a million times the negative energy because it's constant.

2:45Every second you hold on to guilt and shame is another moment you're injecting negative energy. So the test isn't the mistake you make. It's the guilt and shame you have afterwards. So how do you remedy that? And this was my biggest lesson. It was taking the pressure off of myself of trying to appear as someone that's perfect and spiritual. And allowing myself just to be myself everywhere I went. And I can't tell you how freeing that was. But at the same time, it created so much instability in other people. Because everyone's like, wait a minute. This was the David we knew. and now what's this?

3:22I said, no, this is today a little bit more of the real me. And now I'm actually building a new foundation in my life that's much more authentic to who I am. How so? There are people whose approval I wanted so badly and I would, I know, I mean, look, I connected with your energy and I feel like we share so many similar qualities. I know exactly what somebody needs to hear to feel comfortable. I know what buttons to stay away from. I know how to talk to them in a way that can just make them feel really good and comfortable. And I learned that many times I'm killing myself or sacrificing myself or I'm being inauthentic to just make them feel comfortable.

4:02So now I'm just learning to be me and still be a giver, but to be in the way that maybe makes them uncomfortable in the moment, but I'm being true to myself. And these examples have been happening more and more. It happens with my parents, happens with my friends. It happens with business partners and colleagues. I'm just learning to just show up as me versus who I think they want me to be. It's beautiful. What do you think people are getting wrong about manifestation today? What are people getting wrong about manifestation today? I think there's a prevailing belief system that we need to suffer to be successful.

4:45And that's incorrect. I think there's so much grind culture that's being thrown out there. And by the way, you do have to work hard and you do have to work consistently. But 99 % of it is your belief system about what it takes to manifest. If you believe you must suffer to be successful, then that is the destiny you are creating. You will be successful, but you will only do it after you suffer. Elon Musk has the same hours in the day as we do. He thinks it's easy to colonize Mars. He thinks it's as easy to colonize Mars as we do, you know, maybe preparing a cup of coffee. Sure. Because he thinks it's easy to colonize Mars, that consciousness creates a vessel that draws in the right engineers, that draws in the right ideas, that draws in the right lawmakers to change the laws to satisfy him.

5:36Of course there are challenges, but he's loving even the challenges to an extent where it all seems easy. If I think something is hard or impossible, then I literally call in the entire universe to create a movie for me that makes it hard and impossible. There are people who every relationship they're in is a drama. It's difficult. It's hard. Every city I go to, I ask them, is dating hard in this city? They all say yes. They say, I say, which city is the hardest? They say, oh my God, I'm in New York. It's so hard to date here. I'm sure it's easier in Los Angeles. People in Los Angeles? say it's impossible to date here.

6:13I'm sure it's easier in New York. Everyone always says it's harder wherever they're at. Why is that? Because they haven't been successful yet in their own city. They haven't been successful in their own city. And if I say it's hard to date, then I don't have, it doesn't reflect poorly upon me the fact that I'm single. So I will tell everybody this narrative it's hard to date so that they don't judge me and I don't judge myself that I can't find a man or a woman. It's not me. It's everyone else. It's everyone else. It's the city. It's the energy here. Everyone in LA is so superficial. But the truth is, even if everyone in LA was superficial, if you earned your soulmate, that one person would appear right at your door.

6:59Think about it. There are serial killers in prison who are married. Crazy. They found their soulmate. If someone in a maximum security prison who has a reputation of a serial killer can find their soulmate, I'm sure you can to the Los Angeles. Yeah. Yeah. It was millions of men or women here. Exactly. It's funny. You just got to know where to go. You just got to try new things and you've got to change. You got to transform on the inside out.

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