Destroy LAZINESS By Doing This First Thing In The Morning! | Tony Robbins EP 895

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1:05your brain to do that every single day, then it'll do it on the more difficult and important things in life. I do 10 minutes and I pick 10 minutes because if I said do 20 minutes or 30, I don't have time. But if you don't have 10 minutes for your life, you don't have much of a life. But the essence of it is I change my body radically and I do three things to make sure that my brain is primed. And what I mean by primed is priming is a psychological principle where you think thoughts and you think they're yours, but very often they're created by the environment. So one example was Harvard has done multiple studies on this.

1:36And one of the studies they did was taking people, walking up to people. They hired two actors. They walked up to a hundred people. They had to do the exact same thing, men and women. And what they did is they'd walk up with a cup of coffee in their hand and they'd look at you and go, here, we're doing this for a second. And then look down and reach in their pocket to pull out their phone. And then they do what they're doing on the phone. They put it back in. They go, thank you so much. And they take their coffee back and they walk away. But then about 20 minutes later, if you're in a mall or a school campus or whatever, a person comes by with a clipboard and they give you$20 and they say, listen, I know this sounds crazy, but if you'll give me 30 seconds of your time, the$20 is yours.

2:13I need you to read two minutes of this, literally this little story and then just answer three questions for me. Half the people have a reaction, more than 80%, and half have a reaction 80 % difference. And here's the question. They read the same story, But half the people are handed hot coffee. Half the people are handed iced coffee. And the question they ask is, how would you describe the main character of the story? I have to read a few paragraphs. And the people who are handed hot coffee say the person is warm and genuine. 81 % of the people, 79 to 80, 79.8, it's almost, it's a 1 % difference.

2:49Who are given the iced coffee say the person is cold and uncaring. I could tell you 20 studies like that that would blow your mind how your brain is conditioned or primed by the environment. And think about all that's gone on with COVID over the last two years and how many people's brains live in fear. And so this experience of life that we have, most people just don't understand that you are being primed all the time. And unless you prime yourself, you're going to be primed by the environment. Most people understand that your brain right now is being conditioned and triggered whether you know it or not.

3:21If you're in any social network, it's being done continuously by algorithms. So I want to take control of my brain. So I do three quick things. One, I take three minutes of those 10 minutes after I've changed my body. And I focus on three different events in my life that I'm grateful for. I usually pick two big ones and one small one. It could be as simple as the smile on my daughter's face, the wind against my skin. And it changes your biochemistry. Now, it sounds pretty positive thinky. I'm going to be grateful. But there's a value to it because the two emotions that mess up your business, your life, your relationships are anger and fear.

3:55And you can't be angry and grateful simultaneously. And you can't be fearful and grateful simultaneously. So it literally teaches your body to go in that state. Because otherwise, the environment we're in right now, there's a whole lot of uncertainty and fear. Then real fast, I do this three-minute process. It's kind of like a blessing. And then three minutes, the last three minutes are called three to thrive. where I focus on three things I want to accomplish, but instead of thinking I want to accomplish, I see, feel, and experience it as done. I feel grateful. I celebrate it. And it trains your brain.

4:24So in 10 minutes, I'm done. Third thing that I'll do, I immediately send a message or a text or an audio message to somebody as a sincere compliment. And I don't go, dude, great job, or wow, you're cool. I say, listen, I saw you on Tuesday with those kids, and I saw you take that extra 20 minutes. No one else did. And I just want you to know, I saw that. And I thought that was incredible. So I'm always very specific. So they know it's not just some positive thinking call. It's sincerely doing it. It makes me constantly look for the good in the people I work with. And I also know that what is acknowledged tends to grow.

4:59So from the standpoint of that, I want them to feel that feeling of being appreciated. I want them to know I see what's happening behind the camera, so to speak. You know, it's like that's what matters. It's not how everybody else sees you. It's how you really are. And then it also deepens every relationship you have when you sincerely acknowledge somebody and you notice something other people don't notice. And so it deepens the connection. And to me, quality of life is a quality of two things, your emotions and your relationships. And, you know, if my emotions are terrible, my relationships are going to be terrible.

5:29But if I have great emotions and I can extend that out to help other people, then it just makes me feel more alive. So I do it for me and them. It's a virtuous cycle. The whole secret is most of us don't realize, depending on which research you buy into, somewhere between 45 and 55 % of what we do is habitual. And the great thing about habit is you don't have to think. So I don't know about you, but the first time I tried to drive a stick shift car when I was a little kid, it's like, I'm supposed to do this, this, this, watch the rear view mirror, it's too much. But once you learn it, most of driving, 99 % of it is habits, so now your brain is free to do other things.

6:04That's the value of making something habitual. The weakness of making it habitual is you don't grow, right? The weakness of making it habitual is you don't feel fully alive. So it's like you've got to find that balance in your life. But if you can create habits that make you do the right things for your mind, your body, your emotion, and for others, then let those take over.

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7:24Again, have an amazing day, and I'll see you tomorrow with another episode of the Daily Motivation Show.

7:39Thank you.