Do THIS To Rewire Your Mind To Manifest Success | John Assaraf EP 830

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11Can you teach discipline? The answer is yes. How? You have to have a willing participant. And if the participant's reason why is big enough, if they know I want to achieve X, and the reason why, the motive for their action, motivation, the motive for their action is a reason beyond just themselves, chances are they will do more. to achieve that success than if it was just left up to their own. But there are some people that are born with incredible drive. They just have this insatiable drive, and they'll just, I'll do whatever it takes for the things that I want. And there's other people that want things, but they just don't have this insatiable drive.

0:53And this is where, as much as I hated school, I love to use school as an analogy. In the game of life, whether it's health, wealth, relationships, career, business, spirituality, fun experiences, you have to decide what level of the game do I want to play at? Is it the grade school level, the kindergarten level, the high school level, the university level, the pro level? Because each one of those levels requires a totally different mindset and totally different skill set. They're building blocks on each other, but if you are extremely talented, but you're not prepared to practice and rehearse and drill and fall and fail forward to the next attempt, you will never make it as a pro.

1:30You will never make it as a pro business person. You'll never make it as a pro husband or wife or athlete or musician. You just never will. So just get used to that if you're not prepared to pay the price. If you are prepared to pay the price and you have the aptitude and the talent, now we're talking about there's some real potential here. And what we don't know is, you know, what's in your heart? Like what is the fire that stirs you that you wake up saying, I will do this even when I don't feel like it. I will do whatever it takes to overcome my temptation for mediocrity, my temptation for excuses, my temptation for reasons and circumstances to hold me back.

2:09I won't allow those to be in my way. And if you have that within you, you'll achieve whatever you choose. And so the question you asked before is how do you develop that? Start small. So if you don't have discipline, show yourself that you can give yourself one command and one follow through. Right now, I'm going to get up. I'm going to do two push-ups. Right now. Not like later. Now. Can you give yourself a simple command? One sit-up. Right now, I'm going to go get a glass of water. You start with something ridiculous. I learned many years ago, reduce it to the ridiculous. So for reduce it to the ridiculous, and I start, I say, can you do that?

2:47Great. Will you? Because that's the difference right there. That's the razor's edge. The people who can, will you? Great. When? Now. Now. Right? So if you develop that skill, and specifically from a brain plasticity, a neuroplasticity perspective, as soon as you do that, you give yourself a command and you take the action, you have just created a neural pattern that you can give yourself a command and take action. Now, that may just be one time. But what if you did that every hour by putting a little bell on your computer? And every hour, like if my computer was open, I'd have every hour it would say, it's 12 o 'clock, it's 1 o 'clock.

3:24And I take 60 seconds just to be in control of my mind. 60 seconds. I don't care where I am. Stop what you're doing. Stop, take six breaths. Breathe. Just get centered. Am I on track? Am I off track? Am I doing something I shouldn't be doing versus a high impact activity that I need to be doing? Every hour, I've trained myself to just reset. I didn't always do that. I just started with one a day, then two, then three. that it was working so well. I said, great, let's do this every hour. But more importantly is as soon as you become the person who believes in themselves, you see, everything you do or don't do leaves an imprint on your self-worth and self-esteem scale.

4:07And you know it. Absolutely. You know it. You're voting with every decision. You're disqualifying with every negative belief. You're qualifying with every positive. Same with behaviors. So you start getting aware of, am I qualifying myself to move forward or am I disqualifying myself to what I say I want and what I do or don't do over and over and over again? Because thought patterns become emotional patterns, become behavioral patterns. And our brains pick up on our thought, emotional, and behavioral patterns and says, hey, you know what, you've done that one enough. I'm just going to make that automatic for you.

4:45So all of a sudden, you know, if you're a person has lots of positive thoughts, but you suck at taking action, your brain says, let me make that a permanent pattern for you. So you don't have to think about it anymore. But I'm also going to create some neural tension. Now you're going to start talking to yourself about how you don't want to not take action, but you're still taking action. And this is where we have this conscious, non-conscious ping pong match going on all the time. Yeah, it's actually complex, but it's actually pretty easy to. I'm going to go back to one thing and say, great, let me move one thing forward.

5:19Why? Because that just changes the trajectory of the same pattern repeating itself. And as soon as you interrupt a pattern and then you repeatedly interrupt the pattern, it's like taking a detour. And as soon as you take a detour one day, you're like, okay, that was okay. Your tendency is to want to go back to what's comfortable. But if you take the detour two days, six days, seven days, we know from a neuroscience perspective, it takes about 66 days to create a solid enough neural pattern that it'll go from conscious effort and thinking about it to a non-conscious pattern that has the beginnings of automaticity happening without your involvement.

6:01Whenever I want to change something, whether it's a habit, whether it's a thought or emotion or behavior, I say I'm going to work on this for 100 days, Not 30 days, not 21 days, not 66, which is right around there. I say 100 days. And then I focus all of my energy just on that one thing for 100 days. Why? Can you give an example of something you've done? Sugar. I'm a sugar. Like if he was an alcoholic, I'm a sugar-a-holic. Right? Yeah. So I go like, you know, a week, two weeks, no sugar. Then a month, I eat dessert every night. So you take one thing, just one thing that you know may be a little challenging.

6:35100 days. 100 days. Just 100 days. So let's say you want to drink more water, 100 days, a glass a day, conscious effort to one a day, whatever you did before, you'll still do, but one glass a day. So, you know, I started that with my assistant. I said, I want to drink, you know, like four of these a day, you know, like, you know, 32 ounces, whatever the case is. And so every, we got a mug and it's on my desk every time I walk in. And then I have some support from her saying, Hey, remember to drink your water. So the first, you know, two, three weeks, I feel like I'm going to drown myself in so much water.

7:06but then it's like okay now i'm used to it now i'm drinking as much water as possible because the habit is there and one of the rules that i love to follow is the habit is more important than the intensity at first so don't worry about the intensity develop the habit so can you take one minute a day to focus on how you will achieve a goal just one minute a day can you take one minute a day to focus on your health yeah can you take one day to retrain your brain yeah can i take one day and you start off with something, you know, and reduce it down to just a minute or two minutes or one behavior.

7:42If you can get that behavior to be a habit, it's easy to stack. It's just like the foundation of a building. Once you have the foundation, if you build it right, you stack.

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