Empowering Change from Anxiety to Peace | Dr. John Delony

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1:00how bad it is, gives you awareness to then take action. Anxiety is not about bad things aren't coming. Anxiety is about your body realized you're in the backseat of your own life. Yes. You get in the driver's seat and the alarm stops. I'm driving. I'm driving right in the middle of four years of no going to a restaurant because me and my wife are paying all our debts off. I'm going right into the middle of them, I have to get fired, and I'm going to have to start applying for jobs. But you're not anxious. You have to solve a problem. It's going to be hard. You're going to be angry. You're going to be frustrated.

1:28but your body's going to let you sleep. Your body's going to let you do what it needs to do, right? So it's about going straight into that store. I love the idea of taking inventory because how many people listening or watching know how much money they have in every account? You know, as a general, like, I have this much in savings, I have this much in my insurance, I have this much in debt or whatever it might be, and just have inventory of it. Most people are afraid to look at their finances on a monthly basis, you know, just to be like, all right, this month, here's my information. Pull your three credit reports for free.

2:00Get a yellow pad and write in order of greatest debt to smallest. Who do you owe money to? Who is telling you what you're going to do tomorrow? Because you're not. Because the bank is. Because if you don't, they're going to take your house. They're going to take your car. They're going to take your groceries. Millions of people listening to this are like, must be nice. Must be nice. This isn't easy. It's hard. It takes time. Very sacrificial. It takes energy. You give up all of, yes. No concerts. Yes, don't go to a restaurant. What you're solving for, one of the next ones is freedom. Choose freedom.

2:34Who has a say in your life? Is it a political group? Really? They're going to tell you who you're going to hate and who you're going to love? Is that how we're going to do it? Does your mother-in-law still tell you what you're going to do for holidays? Doesn't matter if you can afford that trip. Doesn't matter if you've got time for it. Y 'all are coming to Christmas in Nebraska. Who's running your life? This is probably the most upstream action because we've outsourced everything. We outsource our food and our water and our relationships. I remember walking out of La La Land. I loved the movie.

3:03But I remember walking out of that movie holding my wife's hand, and I stopped in the parking lot. She goes, what are you doing? And I said, I just paid two beautiful people to dance for two hours at jazz clubs. I paid them to do it. I should have taken you dancing at a jazz club. We outsource our lives. We outsource our romance. We outsource everything. So there's something about who's running your life. and then you got to deal with the ugly reality that a lot of people are and so how do you just slowly call that back in a couple of generations we've gotten very arrogant that we are the center of the universe additionally you take the great psychological theories they all end in what you solve for this you solve for this you solve for this they solve for self-actualization if you go back and read Freud you go back and read some of Jung's work we're here we are self-actualized we have everything and we are falling apart at the seams.

3:58The self was never intended to hold up the universe ever. And so to create a non-anxious life, you have to choose belief in something bigger than yourself. I'm a Christian guy. That's what that's the belief system my family and I follow. I'm not prescriptive. I've got friends who are amazing folks. Our kids play together. I love them like brothers and sisters, and they are as atheists as the day is long. And they are fully dialed into birth and life and death and the cycle of nature and resurrection. I'm a part of something bigger than me. This place goes on without me, right? Whatever it is, you have to believe in something bigger than yourself because the self can't hold it all up.

4:38We are wired for worship. That's who we are. That's over centuries. We are creatures who worship. You will worship beauty, and you'll never be beautiful enough. You will worship money and you'll never have enough. You will worship shiny things and they'll never be shiny enough. And ultimately you end up worshiping how you feel. And then you expect the world to bend to how you feel. And that's our world, right? So I have to step back and say, I'm not in charge of the cosmos. Please reign. Belief isn't about holding things super tight. It's about opening your hands up and letting go. If you choose belief, if you choose to take yourself out of the center of the universe and be a part of something bigger than you.

5:17If you choose health and healing, you choose mindfulness, you choose freedom, connection, you choose to, on a regular basis, take inventory. How is my finances? How's my marriage? How are my kids? How's my job? How's my community? How's my neighbor? Your body won't be sounding the alarms all the time. It's almost to take inventory and do these things, then let go of control. you'll have more control. Peace. You'll have more peace because you can control what you can control. That's right. That's right. It's like you'll have more peace when you let go but you're following these habits and these beliefs and taking inventory on your life knowing you have no control over what might happen but you'll have more peace.

6:03And peace doesn't mean that you don't feel bad. Right. Peace doesn't mean that you and your wife aren't in a big spat. Peace doesn't mean that your kids are always happy. No. It still might be very uncomfortable. Right. Right, right, right. We've gotten really good at numbing discomfort as opposed to saying, life is uncomfortable, let me lean into it. So I just become better at it. So every time that news station comes on and you feel anxious, what if instead of flipping the channel, what if instead of watching it and getting angry and going to their social media account and bombing it, what if you just asked yourself, what is my body trying to tell me?

6:37Why is it trying to get my attention?

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