Evy Poumpouras: Trust Your Instincts & The Hidden Power of First Impressions | EP 840

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:12What is it you think that is in someone when we meet them at an event or someone's partner or whatever it might be, that we feel like something is off inside of them? What is it that energy that is off that we're reading? It's the signal is something is off with this person. Boom, right there. That's it. I got it. Now it's you trying to figure out what it is. if you want to sit and figure out what it is. Usually you can tell. And you just gave me examples because you felt it. You've met somebody and you felt the energies off. And maybe in a scenario there, you're thinking you're talking to them and they're clearly at some like big agent event or something or big event.

0:51And they're sizing up the room to see who else they can talk to instead of really building a connection with you. So you already know. Most people, we don't trust ourselves. and this is where respect comes in and trust comes in how about you trust yourself we're so focused on the outside world trust comes within so if it feels off trust yourself that i feel off for a reason and pay attention they're going to show you what it is yeah they're going to show you what it is there's a saying from greek mythology was from odysseus and he said don't listen to your opponent, look at them. It will tell you everything.

1:32Just sit back and watch the behavior. I can't tell you how many people I've come across. And not that they've done anything, but I'm like, no. Really? Sure. It doesn't mean they're bad. It doesn't mean they're a narcissist. It doesn't mean they're so... It means they're not for me. And it also means like, look, I'm trying to align myself to be a certain way. And you and I were speaking about that earlier, that you're trying to find people and environments to be in alignment in where you're going. Yes. And I do the same thing. And so I try to feel, is this person aligned with wherever I'm going?

2:07Because if they're not aligned with me and I'm trying to go this way, when I bring in that misaligned person, what are they going to do? And then I get pissed at them. Right. Right. If you're meeting someone, every time... Should I just come with you to these parties? Tell me, what do you think? You've always been, you know, you've always been put together. Your body language, your physical appearance, what you're wearing. Like, you've always been put together when I've seen you. I'm not saying that's the way you are all the time, 24-7. But when you show up, I'm assuming when you were working in Secret Service, you were showing up in a professional setting with the way you appeared.

2:47in what ways do you think our physical appearance impacts our ability to enroll people in our vision and life in our in what we want to create and partnerships and opportunities the way we physically healthy look or don't look the clothes we're wearing the makeup the hair position everything how much does our physical package impact our ability to enroll people in our life and our vision. It impacts a lot. Really? And a lot of people don't like it because it's like, we want to know what's inside. But when people don't know what's inside and all they have to judge you by is what they see on the outside, it's going to create an impact and an impression.

3:28Wow. So I will tell you this unequivocally. It was drilled in us in the U.S. Secret Service that our parents mattered. So for example, watch next time you see the president. Every agent's wearing a dark suit. It was either there was a rule. It wasn't like a, it was an informal policy. Dark suits, dark gray, navy, black. You're not going to see anybody in that. You couldn't wear that, huh? No, I could not. Why couldn't you wear white? Because it's what it's projecting. What's white projecting? This doesn't project lethality. It doesn't. Spiritual warmth, you know. This is like, hey, I'm the Loose House podcast.

4:03I've got my mug. Yeah, yeah. Let's talk about warmth here and connecting with people. With the Hamptons hanging out. Yeah, yeah. Hey, I'm in L.A. No, this doesn't project that. But if I wore my black suit, if I wore my dress shirt, again, even the guys, you'll see them either in a white shirt or a light blue shirt. Because it's what that image projects. Dark colors project. Even just having your suit, our shoes had to be shined. Like the boss will look at your feet and he'll be like, go shine those things. Don't walk around like that. because if I'm put together, then the bad guy who's looking to do something, he's going to be like, she looks put together, he looks put together, they all look put together.

4:44Maybe I should think twice about this. There might be consequences to my actions. They look like they're put together. And if I look like I'm put together, people are less likely to want to cross you, challenge you. They also see you as competent and having authority. It means this person woke up, they ironed their suit, they combed their hair, they shined their shoes, They've got it together. They're ready to go. Yes. That image matters. So we actually, that image was actually a very important thing because if I look like a disheveled mess, then it looked like my security plan was going to be a disheveled mess.

5:19Wow. And my colleagues were, and it sent a clear signal to everybody else. Come on, take a shot. We obviously can't even put ourselves together, so why don't you go for it? Wow.

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