Fall In Love With Yourself & Heal the World | Brené Brown EP 368

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0:52How do we find out who we are? That's the life's work, right? Do you know who you are? Yeah, I do. Who are you? In what way? If someone just said, who are you, Brene, what would you say? Mom, partner, researcher, storyteller, Texan. When we ask people who they are and we want to know, we'd like those really easy files to put them in. Yeah, of course. But I'm a complicated person. Are you? Yeah. What makes you complicated? I don't know if I'm complicated, but I'm complex. What makes me complex is, I think what makes everyone complex, is the paradoxical nature of people. I speak in public. I love doing that, but I'm incredibly introverted.

1:28I'm kind of a traditionalist around things. My kids say yes, ma 'am, no, ma 'am. But I also raise them to challenge authority every time they get the opportunity to do that. But to be really polite when they're doing it. Sure, sure. Yeah. I'm unapologetically earnest. Like, I believe in the goodness of people. But I believe it's hard work to stay out of fear and stay good. Yeah. I understand people. I think I have a lot of empathy, but I'm also not afraid of discomfort. Yeah. So I think there's just a lot of push and pull. Sure. And I think that's true of all of us. I do not like to be defined.

2:02I think that's you. I was going to say, I feel like my entire life, I didn't want to be defined as well. They were like, you're going to be this jock in college. You're going to be like this alcoholic. You're going to be in the frats. Yeah. All my siblings said this to me. And I was like, no, I'm not. I made a bet with each one of my siblings, a hundred dollars each that I want to have one sip of alcohol in college. Cause I was like, I'm going to go against everything you think I'm going to be. Yeah. I joined the school musical because they were like, you're just going to do sports. I sang, I played guitar, I salsa dance.

2:30I was like, I'm going to do everything different than what people would expect of a tall white man. Right. That's awesome. I was like, I want to be different. Yeah. And I think in that process, I was like trying to discover who I really was, what I liked, my dreams, what, you know, what was fun for me. Yeah. As opposed to just trying to fit the box and the mold of everyone else, because you can lose yourself in that fitting in. I think you can lose yourself in the fitting in and you can lose yourself in the rebuttal to the fitting in. It's true. Trying to go against it. Yeah. Braving the Wilderness is all about this, starts with this quote from Maya Angelou.

3:00We're never free until we belong everywhere, which is nowhere, which is no place at all, which I thought was a terrible quote for many years. And she says, the cost is high, but the reward is great. I think that's the thing that I feel like I belong everywhere I go, no matter where it is or who I'm with, as long as I never betray myself. And the minute I become who you want me to be in order to fit in and make sure people like me is the moment I no longer belong anywhere. And that is hard. Yeah. I mean, that's a hard practice. That's an everyday practice.

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