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The Daily Motivation Show - Episode 805 Summary
Episode Title Finding Love's Voice in Life's Darkest Hours | Liz Gilbert
Host Lewis Howes
Guest Liz Gilbert, Bestselling Author
Episode Description In this episode, Liz Gilbert shares her profound insights into the nature of love, especially in the context of personal loss and healing. After losing her partner Rhea seven years ago, Liz embarked on a spiritual journey, learning to differentiate between the divine mystery of God and the constant companionship of love. Her insights provide listeners with a new perspective on unconditional love, presence, and navigating through life's toughest challenges.
Key Concepts
Love vs. God
- Distinction: Liz explores the difference between the concept of God and the essence of love.
- Love is a constant presence, while God represents a greater mystery.
- Love can offer comfort but does not provide answers to life's uncertainties.
Love in Crisis
- Love is described as a companion that remains present during dark times.
- It emphasizes the importance of not facing crises alone, regardless of external circumstances.
Unconditional Love
- Liz discusses how unconditional love can transform the experience of loss and grief.
- Encourages embracing love’s presence as a means of personal growth and healing.
Key Takeaways
- Vulnerability and Honesty: Liz's willingness to share her personal journey emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in healing.
- The Role of Presence: Love’s primary function is to provide companionship and support rather than concrete answers or solutions.
- Healing Journey: Both Liz and Lewis reflect on their healing processes and the significance of reconnecting with their inner child.
- Inner Child Work: Emphasizes the importance of nurturing and supporting one's inner self for healing.
- Trust: A recurring theme in the discussion, highlighting the necessity of trusting oneself and the process of healing.
Discussion Points
- Lewis Howes' Reflection: Shares his own healing journey, emphasizing the importance of integrating and loving all parts of oneself.
- Personal Connection: Both speakers illustrate how their experiences of love and loss have shaped their understanding of relationships and personal growth.
- Audience Engagement: Encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences with love and loss, and how they can cultivate a deeper understanding of their own inner voice.
Conclusion The episode ends with a call to action for listeners to explore deeper connections with their own experiences of love and healing. Lewis Howes encourages audience engagement through feedback and subscription to the podcast for more insights.
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Transcript
Automatic transcript. May contain errors.0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes, and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.
0:11What is love? I think we know it when we hear it. I think there have been times when I've asked that voice, are you God? And it has said, no, I'm love. I'm included in God. And I've said to that voice sometimes, are you Raya, my partner who died seven years ago? And it says, no, I'm love. I was included in Raya but I'm not Raya God is bigger than that God I think is more than just love I think God is the great mystery that's beyond the beyond the beyond but love is something else and I think a lot of times I've tried to sort of game I've tried to sort of game it by treating it like it is God and saying like especially when I'm in the midst of a terrible crisis or a horrible dilemma saying to it, what's going to happen?
1:06How is this going to end? Like, what does the future hold? But love can't answer that. No, it's not. And love has said to me very directly, that's not my department. I'm not God. It's not my department. I don't know. I have no idea what the future holds. But I know that I'll be with you through it. Like you won't, whatever's coming, you won't go through it alone. Even if everyone else leaves. Even if you end up living under a bridge, wearing a plastic bag, and spitting at people who walk by, I'll be with you in that. So whatever happens, no matter how disastrous it'll be. And I remember one time in a moment of terrible crisis, saying to love on the page, when will this end and how will it end?
1:47And love was like, I don't have any more of an idea than you do, but I'm with you. And I remember in my anger saying, if you can't tell me how this is going to end, and you can't tell me when this is going to end, and you can't tell me what to do, what use are you? And love said, I am company and comfort in your darkest hour so that you don't have to go through this alone. And I've learned so much about how to be present to people when they are in their darkest hour through the way that unconditional love speaks to me. I can now sit with somebody when they're in their deepest emergency and they're asking those questions.
2:25Why is this happening? When is this going to end? What am I supposed to do? And instead of leaping into my codependent advice giving, which is always driven by panic on my part, I can actually access that voice that says, I actually don't know. I don't know what's going to happen. I don't know when this is going to end. But I'm here with you. Yeah, I'm here for you right now. I'm here with you. Yeah. Yeah. Wow. It's interesting. What's coming up for me is two things as you're saying all this. I grew up in a Christian religion that on the wall just said God is love. So every time I went to church, I just saw God as love just right in front constantly.
3:03And what I'm hearing you say, God might be love, but love doesn't mean it's God, right? It's part of God. Yeah. God is in a lot of things. Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. Including a big question mark. Yeah, exactly, right. And love is a very specific thing. Yeah, exactly. And another thing that's coming up for me is about three and a half, four years ago, I started doing my own healing journey. I've been on a healing journey for 10 years really, but three and a half, four years ago, I went on a deeper journey to really heal the inner child inside of me. The parts of me that I thought I'd done the healing work because I started opening up about sexual abuse when, you know, 10 years ago and I thought I'd done the work, but I hadn't really done it.
3:43And weekly, I was seeing a coach and a therapist to support the journey for me to heal about three and a half, four years ago. And after about six months, she had me do an exercise where I was alone, you know, in my bed and I was reconnecting literally with the five-year-old in me right in front of me. Like I put myself in a spiritual ceremony to see, you know, five-year-old Lewis and all the fears and insecurities and doubts and uncertainties that he had, therefore I had, have. and I created a new relationship with him to where I said, I've got you. I'm here for you. Even if we're alone in the side of a bridge, spinning at people as an adult in this relationship, I am now here for you.
4:35I've got your back. Whereas I've been carrying this child inside of me and just, he was still wounded and afraid, but I didn't have his back. And I started to learn how to heal, man, create meaning to where I was able to integrate him in me and love him fully. And I think most of my life, I was angry at the past. And it doesn't mean I still don't like things that happened, but I've learned to love all the parts of me, which created more peace inside of me. And that's just something that was coming up for me, those two things as you were speaking about this. You know, even if we're alone, like love is going to be there.
5:13And I think, how have you learned to cultivate the love so that you can actually receive it and know that you are loved? The word I'm hearing right now, and I love that you share this with people, especially for the men who follow you. It's so important. And the word I'm hearing is trust. and when I met my own inner wounded child and did a very similar kind of work and looked into her eyes she had the stare of a like three tours of duty soldier. Wow. Very traumatized. Very. And worse, hopeless.
6:05Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of The Daily Motivation. And I hope you have an amazing rest of your day. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to click the link in the description. That will take you to the full episode of our main podcast on the School of Greatness. And if you are loving The Daily Motivation, please follow us over on Apple Podcasts and Spotify and leave us a review over on Apple Podcasts right now. And if you want more exclusive content and ad-free listening experience, make sure to subscribe to our Greatness Plus channel on Apple Podcast right now. And if you want to get even more inspiration from our world-class guests and learn how to improve your life and take it to the next level, then make sure to sign up for the Greatness newsletter and get it delivered right to your inbox over at greatness.com slash newsletter.
6:55Again, have an amazing day and I'll see you tomorrow with another episode of the Daily Motivation Show.
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"Love said to me, 'I am company and comfort in your darkest hour, so that you don't have to go through this alone.'" - Liz Gilbert
In this deeply moving conversation, bestselling author Liz Gilbert opens up about her profound understanding of love's presence in our lives, sharing intimate revelations about her spiritual connection and personal loss. After the death of her partner Rhea seven years ago, Liz embarked on a transformative journey that led her to distinguish between God's infinite mystery and love's constant companionship. Through her raw honesty and vulnerability, she reveals how this understanding has shaped her approach to both personal healing and supporting others through crisis.
Gilbert's insights on the nature of unconditional love challenge conventional wisdom, offering listeners a fresh perspective on presence, healing, and the courage to sit with uncertainty. Her wisdom particularly resonates with those navigating life transitions, grief, or seeking deeper spiritual connection, demonstrating how embracing love's presence can transform our darkest moments into opportunities for profound growth.
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