From #1 Hits to Rock Bottom - How She Overcame Crippling Loneliness and Found Self-Love | Rachel Platten EP 779

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11what do you think was i guess causing you the most overwhelm in terms of emotions or thoughts is it is it an anxiety feeling is it more of a depression feeling is it uh worry is it shame is it what is the fee the emotion or feeling that is causing the most stress yeah well i looked at I asked, I looked all the way in and I asked what is here underneath it all. And I found out that the fear, the primal fear for me, and we all have different primal fears, but mine is that I was alone, that ultimately I was alone. I wasn't loved by God. I was all alone in this world. And that was my primal fear. During this whole time of kind of stress and anxiety and depression.

0:57During the whole time, I think what was underneath all of it was that I'm alone in this world. And I have since learned how untrue that is, how deeply loved I am, how connected to God I am. And I just, but at the time that was what I was always most afraid of. Why do you think that was in your subconscious or in your body consistently? When you had, you have a family, your parents are here. You've got sports, teams, fans. Yes. Like millions of people. I could look online and look and how funny and ironic how empty that is. But listen, it is the most amazing thing to learn because it isn't going to fill you.

1:39No matter how many people are around you, you know this too. No matter how much love you receive, it's never going to be enough if you're not finding it within. And so I never was really learning to find it within. I was kind of like hungry, like a hungry ghost. Tara Brock says, I love her work. you know you're just like grabbing for more and more and more and scrolling for more and more and like I had two beautiful daughters who were healthy and I had a husband that loved me and family that was around me loving me and none of it was going to be enough ever really if I hadn't filled the well no because Lewis like I wasn't giving it to myself do you know what I mean why weren't you why don't any of us I don't know I hadn't learned how but I don't know how did you learn, when did you learn how to give it to yourself?

2:23And what are the things that make you feel that you've loved yourself and that you're not alone? Well, I can give you an example this morning. Even I am overwhelmed right now. My record's coming out in two and a half weeks. My daughter just started kindergarten. My three-year-old has decided she doesn't want to sleep anymore. I mean, like it's, it's crazy. You've got bills to pay. You've got all these things. Yeah. Like my husband's the president of our label. We're in it together. We have all our ducks on the, like, you know, everything's, what's the expression? All of the fires are on. Like, we're just, I have not nailed any of the expressions, but whatever we're, we're in it.

2:58This is it. This is it. This body of work that I love more than anything is about to come out. And, um, this morning I woke up, took Violet to kindergarten. She fly. So she cried and clung to me. She didn't want to go. It's new. She's having big feelings. My three-year-old cried I didn't like, you know, didn't want me to leave the house. I'm leaving for a rehearsal. Then I had a show and then I had a voice. And now I have this, like it's all stacked up. Right. So I'm overwhelmed. And I had a moment in the car this moment after this morning, after the gym. And I just felt just, I don't have anything left.

3:34I am depleted. I'm so exhausted. What am I going to do? How am I going to balance this all? How am I going to do okay today? These shows, these things, interviews. and I sat there and I remembered I put a hand on my heart. I have so many tools now. And I said, Rachie, what do you need? Like a mom to her daughter, what do you need, my love? What do you need right now? And I listened and I heard I need to cry and I held myself and I let myself cry and I mothered myself. I mothered myself. I loved myself and I just lovingly said to myself, you know, Rach, you don't have to be perfect. Just show up.

4:13God's going to do the rest today. You just show up today, baby, one interview at a time, one thing at a time, one breath at a time. It's going to be okay. I love you. You're allowed to fail. You're allowed to not be perfect. Who cares? And I was able to get on with the day with joy and with hope and feeling supported. And I just took it all a little bit less seriously. So those are the tools I'm using is like checking in with myself and reparenting myself. because it can feel like a like a lot is on the line you know it can feel like oh i've spent years building this yeah record and it's coming out it has to do well otherwise it's a failure i'm a failure all this money invested or whatever the opinions or thoughts are right the yeah or it's oh what if i never get back to where i was in the past i've worked through that one already really oh my god i don't care who cares i don't need to be where i was i don't who's ever gonna recreate like the number one song in the world.

5:10Magic in a bottle. That's like, come on. I'm not going to recreate it. So let me just enjoy what I'm doing now. I'm so proud of this work. Wherever it goes, it's not up to me. And I wrote a statement from my press release that I was so proud of and I like burst into tears. I was like, yes, I'm always crying basically. And I was like, and I wrote, I said, this album is already a triumph. Yes. Because it saved my life. Wow. And anything else that comes from it is gravy.

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