Heal THIS Inner Part for Effortless Success | Gabby Bernstein

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0:38Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.

0:51If you can create a harmonious relationship from the higher self of you to the wounded itself parts of you, then things are going to start to flow better in your life. Oh, well, yeah. In every area. Well, because think about it like this, like my controller part, I've done so much work with her. You can gender these parts of you. They have no gender. They could have the opposite gender. It doesn't like sort of whatever is intuitive for you. My parts are female. So I have that controller part that you knew for so long or the anxiety part, right? Even to think about where we were maybe 10 years ago in these conversations to where I am with you right now and how much more self-energy you feel in this moment.

1:29It's going to make me cry. It means so much to me that you've been there with me. It's been like, what, 13, 14 years? 14 years. 15 years maybe since I've met you. 2008, I met you. And when you first met me, I was like parts on fire, right? Like literally on fire. I was a workaholic. Both of us, yeah. Really extreme. Really extreme. I was sober, but like workaholism. I was just extreme anxiety. Didn't know that I had trauma, so I was living in hypervigilance. I was so scared all the time. I was so controlling. It was just like I was doing, you can still be going through hard things and do beautiful things in the world.

2:02Yeah, you still get results in life. Yeah, and do good. But you might be having a lot of struggle, right? And so as a result of this model and what I'm going to teach everybody today and living this and developing this and practicing this and every day being, checking in with these parts of me, checking in with these parts of me, I've unburdened them. And so it's not that they go away, it's that they're not extreme anymore. Interesting. So the parts that were wounded are still inside of you. They're no longer wounded. You feel them. They're in their beautifully developed chrysalis. They're new, for instance.

2:38The part of me that was a controller, I mean, that part did good things, right? She wrote 10 books in 14 years, right? Took action, got things done. Yes. But now she can be in the flow, right? Like now she can be like, I don't have to force my way to get this thing to there. I'm like, oh, you know what, Louis? I'm going to be in LA. Does that work? I'll be there. I can show up with an energy. She's on top, but she's trusting. She's not forcing. Not forcing anything. She's just relaxed in the presence. So it's still like, so it's like a really great quality to have that control part present because she gets things done, but without craziness, right?

3:18Yeah, right, right. Right. Chaos. So these parts of us that once controlled us or hurt us to try to protect us because they all had an intention to serve us, but they didn't help the self really at our highest self. They're blocking self. They're blocking self, but they're an attempt to try to protect us. Totally. These parts of us, when we can have a relationship, a harmonious relationship with them through healing and mending those wounds, then we can use them for good. That's correct. Yeah. You're so great at like digesting and bringing it back. Yeah, it's beautiful. That self right there in action, clarity.

3:55Clarity is one of those qualities of self. So you have such a good job of listening, thinking, pulling it together and bringing it back. And it sounds like we could, you know, by doing this self-help work and by following this four-step process that we're to cover in a second and just going through the book, it sounds like when we can start to have a different relationship with these parts of us that have caused us pain and suffering, but also try to protect us. if we can start to have a new relationship by mending those relationships, it can get a lot better. But it doesn't mean those things can come back at some point if we don't keep having a relationship with them in a healthy way.

4:29So you might be six months, I feel better, but then something triggers you and you go back to the wounded part of you that says, I don't feel safe. You need to control this. You need to protect this. You need to be a perfectionist in this moment, whatever it is, hypervigilance. And so it's a constant relationship and a conversation of checking in sounds like it's called the check-in process okay all right here we go and i like that because everybody has a few minutes to check in right or a few seconds to check in throughout the day and the simplicity of it being this four steps of checking in with the part makes it such that you can have this relationship to the part rather than why are you doing this?

5:12It's with why the pain, right? That's like what Gabor Manta always says, like not why the addiction, why the pain. And so by every moment when you notice a trigger or you have this space in your body to like see, oh, you know, I'm out of alignment right now. In those moments checking in are these these moment to moment experiences of presence with bringing self to these parts.

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