How The LAW Of ATTRACTION Really Works | Mel Robbins EP 344

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1:15What's your thoughts about the law of attraction on how to apply it the right way or? Yeah, I think, well, I think the law of attraction and manifesting are the same thing. So law of attraction for everybody who has not read The Secret is simply your thoughts become things. And it's true. We've talked all about how when you have a negative self-talk, it tends to draw more of that to you. I think about it like lint in a dryer. Once negative stuff starts collecting, it collects a lot more. So here's what everybody gets wrong about manifesting. Everybody, at least kind of in the mass market, what you're trained to think about when you think about manifesting is vision boards.

1:54And when you hear the word vision boards, you think about the big stuff. Should you have big dreams? Of course you should. Should you dream of building a mansion on the ocean if that's your thing? Yes. Should you dream of the log cabin? Yes. If you want a Lamborghini or the new Ford Bronco, should you buy? Yeah. Yes, yes, yes. If you want the family, if you want the body, should you think about? Yeah, absolutely. Here's where everybody goes wrong. You dream about the end. you make this gorgeous collage of all this stuff that has nothing to do with your current life that literally as you're sitting in your studio apartment with the cat box that hasn't been changed in two weeks no food in the fridge no food in the fridge and you're looking for a job and you're staring at a mansion going someday it's going to make you feel like a loser because the gap between where you are and where you want to go it seems insurmountable and so what happens based on the research is when you only visualize the end game lewis it's demotivating at first it's really fun to like have a bottle of wine and make your like collage i'm gonna visualize i'm gonna slap this up there's my vision board it's fabulous law of attraction baby come on i'm gonna think about it it's gonna come to me the way to visualize properly is to visualize the bridge between where you are and where you need to go, and particularly the horrible stuff.

3:19So let's use your example of the marathon. The vision board would be Lewis crossing the medal. The high fives. High fives. Yes, I did it. Exactly. That will not help you. Because when you hit mile 13 on the actual race, and it is sleeting rain. You're saying, why am I doing this? Yes. and it feels nothing like that thing on your vision board, you're going to start a negative dialogue. I can't do this. My knees hurt. This is not what I thought it was going to be. I'm not ready for this. I didn't train for this. I'm running New York. I trained in LA. Are you running in New York? LA. Okay, good. Well, then at least you're trained in the right weather.

3:56So on and on and on. And you are going to tank yourself. What you do by visualizing the bridge is you train your nervous system and your mind to do the hard work. so you should visualize not crossing the finish line but what is it like to be at mile 12 when your batteries run out on your earbuds and you keep going what's it like when your shoelace breaks and now your heel is lifting and you're starting to get a blood blister at mile 17 what's it feel like when you wake up and it is pouring rain and you visualize yourself running anyway. That way, when you visualize the work, you are preparing your body for it, so you're not resistant to it when it comes.

4:41A story that I had, George St. Pierre, who's one of the greatest UFC fighters of all time, he said that he always puts himself in the most uncomfortable situations in practice leading up to the fight. You know, the hardest situations to get himself out of. Where his arms are behind his back and he's facing against the mat in between the fence and he's just getting punched in the face. He's like, how do I get out of this? Right, right. He's like, visualize that and seeing how can I get through this? Yeah, yeah, exactly. Where it seems like I just want to tap out. Yes. Instead of tapping out, what's the process for figuring out how to get through it?

5:18Yeah. To then raise my hand at the end victorious. Totally. And so you You are literally building up almost like this resilience and this muscle inside of you to do the work to get the thing. So, yeah, create the vision board, but make sure in addition to crossing the finish line, you have somebody running in the rain.

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