How to Break Free from Your Parents' Programming & Rebuild Authentically | Jerry Wise EP 931

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0:38Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.

0:50Parents parent you, you parent you, and that we continue on. And you parent your kids. And then you parent your kids and then adjust. So if you can get your insides straightened out, generations will be grateful to you. And I literally mean generations. Because it probably took about five generations to get to here. That's dysfunctional. Probably five to get here. You can change the world if you change you. And even now, I still work on my self-differentiation. I have a 39-year-old son. And I do that because I want to have as good a relationship as I can have with him. Because whatever issues I leave unresolved for me, who gets to resolve them?

1:44Him. Wow. I saw a clip of an interview online of someone, a really successful billionaire entrepreneur, probably in his 70s. And he said the key to success in life was having adult children that still want to hang out with you, not because of your money or your success. But because you're a good guy. Yeah, exactly. Good person. Yeah. Yeah. And and that's why. Right. It's not about this is my property as the kids. They're not my property. And I would like to have a relationship where now whenever when I hug Andrew, I can give him a kiss on the on the neck. And I even ask him, I told him, if you don't want me to do that, I won't.

2:31You're an adult. Yeah. I don't want to embarrass you. He said, my friends just think it's fabulous. us. They wish their dad would do that. Right, right. And so, because I felt that's what I wanted to do, but I would give him permission to be him. I mean, I'm not going to do something you don't want me to do. Wow. What I'm hearing you say is that the key, the key to setting up your family legacy to have the best or the healthiest lives they can have is to start by healing the child within you healing the child within you and self differentiating the adult within you so we have both those works okay let's let's break down going on what what would be the and and healing the child with you in you is not a an overnight thing what would be the keys to whether someone says ah i don't need to work on my inner child that seems like baloney or just It's not, ah, it's not for me.

3:33I do a lot of my own work already. I don't need to dive deeper into this stuff. It seems like whatever. But if they were like, ah, let me listen to this and just see what he's talking about. What would be the first three keys or steps to addressing how to heal the inner child within us? Well, and if they would say, I don't need to work on my inner child. I would say, now you've already told me what you don't know. because if you don't understand that or work that way, you're going to be blinded, which is your right. I mean, live life how you want. You don't have to do any inner child work. I'm just telling you the way human beings function, you know, and that while it is a construct or a metaphor, you know, the inner child, it is that.

4:25But it truly is a part. We are biological. We are biological creatures. And so we have that part of us. I'm never not the seventh grader. I'm never not the third grader. I'm never not the 50 year old. I'm all of those. And so, but particularly in childhood is where we get a lot of that programming going on that carries over to older ages. And so when we think about, would you know if your inner child wanted you to do something? And if you don't know, do you think that could be problematic? Probably, yeah. And many people will go, I don't think I want to work on inner child stuff. That's all psychological mumbo-jumbo.

5:18Okay, well, that's fine. You don't have to. However, when you are hypercritical of yourself and very down on yourself, who are you down on? The adult self? The inner child? Probably more likely the inner child. Because you're going to act like your parents to the child. Man. that's just what we do. And so knowing that can be helpful because if you become a collaborator with your inner child, it stabilizes you. If you're not, then you're always fighting yourself in business, in success, in money, in jobs, in marriages, in relationships. You're always going to be fighting yourself. And if we talk long enough, I'll prove that to you.

6:18You know, I would prove that to you. Sure, sure, sure. How that's what's happening.

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