How To Break The Chaos Cycle And Find Peace | Melissa Wood-Tepperberg

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation show.

0:13I called my friend and asked for her therapist number. I was like, I need help. I need your therapist. And like, that was like the start. But I lied to me. I mean, I like lied to my therapist. I was taking Adderall. You know, I, I like, I did want help, but it is really hard to break the cycle. Sure. Yeah. and to break the patterns and i was lying and she would she was strong she was like the mother that i always kind of like needed to anchor me and call me out on me tough love super tough love so you know i would come in i'll like adderall out and i was like buying out or it was just it was like i got rid of one thing and i was just looking for the next you said you wanted help but really inside of you you're like yeah i still can do this myself and i'm not going to give everyone the full picture and i think i did really want help but when you are so used to attaching yourself to to chaotic things to keep moving forward it like it takes time well it doesn't feel safe to be in a safe space because you know you're not familiar with it don't even know what that so harmony doesn't feel safe right peace doesn't feel safe no because you're like what's going to happen.

1:32Something's about to happen. Yeah. Where's the chaos? Oh yeah. You're always looking for it because you're so used to it. It's familiar. So when safe isn't safe and you don't know how to feel calm in harmony, you're always looking to recreate chaos, whether it be in a relationship or whether it be in your own life or addictions or whatever it might be. Oh, and I was very good at if the chaos wasn't there, I will bring it. Isn't that interesting? Oh my God. And relationships, things with friends, work, like being able to really self-reflect and see where you are just a disaster in disguise. Like it is hard work.

2:14And I will be so honest with you today. Like I still, to this day, wake up and my first thought first from the moment I wake my eyes after doing this work for so many years goes to a dark place. Really? Yes. But I now know how to get myself out. And it's just, it's, I think when it's so embedded in your nervous system, it, it takes so much time to, to get yourself out of that place. And I know now, I know when I'm, I know when I'm bringing it. I know when I'm being self-destructive and I'm definitely so far from that part of me, but she's in there. Let me tell you, great access to her if I need her, but which is also a good thing, which I've learned to really embrace and love and be like, you are one fiery pistol.

3:18God knows if we need it, it's there and the access is quick, but I don't, I'm just being honest. I mean, you know, What is the first thought that comes to you on a daily basis when you wake up or on a typical day? Where does that dark thought go to? It's like the overwhelm. It's just like, oh my God. You know, it's just, it's that immediate almost like being on that wheel of anxiety. But I step off now and I'm like, no, no, you know, and this is where I've cultivated this practice. and this connection with source and knowing that I can connect at any moment in any time. And that is what helps me see like the light of day.

4:05And I, you know, I shared this once on, I was doing a Q &A and I shared this and it was the most viewed thing I had. And I realized that there is still that part of me, right. That wants to like make things look really pretty with a bow. And of course I've cracked myself open, but there's still so much. And I think that is where I'm at right now today, where I'm like, I am so done just like ripping off these masks and really just being so radically transparent it with myself, but also with people who are ready to do it for themselves too. Cause it's not just for me. And I think that's where this work has fueled something in me that I've always known was in there since I was a little girl, but it's, it's this choice every single day, like to this day, it's like I'm choosing, I'm choosing to stay devoted to myself.

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