How To Break Through Your Limits | Mark Manson EP 245

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0:51One of the cool things about hanging out with Will, you know, he's been in the entertainment biz since he was 17. And he's been at the top of music, TV, film, everything. I remember one time he was telling me, after they did Bad Boys, he said that the studios were really unsure if it would sell well internationally. And so Will went to the studio and he was like, hey man, any country you want me to go to, like, I'm in, let me know. And so the studio started sending him, you know, to London, to Germany, to Russia, to South Africa. And he'd do every trip, you know, he'd hop on the plane, fly to London, do a premiere, do like 20 interviews, hop back on the jet, fly back to LA.

1:31He'd do that on the weekends while filming Fresh Prince. Wow. And he said that Martin Lawrence didn't want to do the traveling. And then he said that what he noticed when it came time to do the next movie, studios started giving him much nicer offers and giving him a lot more attention. And he said that what he learned is he said that it's being an actor, the job isn't the movie. He said the movie is only half of your job as an actor. The other half is you got to go out and sell it to people. I really took that to heart. It's the same way in publishing. As an author. Totally. And there's so many authors out there who spend two years on their book, and then they're like, well, okay, I'll post it on Twitter, but why should I have to do anything?

2:12You know, you guys should go do it. My attitude this time around has completely changed. It's like, this is part of the job. This is part of why they're paying me. Typical Will style. I got an email from his manager saying, hey, you want to do a trip with Will next week? And I'm like, yeah, of course. Where are we going? And she's like, India. And then Dubai. Oh, and he's going to race F1 cars. And I was like, okay. I'm in. All right. On five days' notice, I end up on this two-week trip with Will to India and Dubai. I'm doing Will's book. I'm finishing my book. I'm doing this project for Audible.

2:49I'm doing an Audible original. and I'm running a website with 2 million readers. And I'm in the middle of India with Will. And I'm jet-lagged out of my mind. There was a few months this fall where I was probably the most stressed I've been since I started my business. Like, just not sleeping, constant anxiety, just working insane hours. And so I'm like this huge ball of stress and I get on this plane and I'm in the middle of India with Will. And we were talking about his career in the 90s. So he would film Fresh Prince during the week, fly somewhere to do some promotional thing on the weekends.

3:24And then during breaks and between the seasons is when he would film his next movie. So, I mean, he's just basically going seven days a week. Oh, and he's like recording music, Big Willie style and the soundtrack to Men in Black and like all this stuff. So I asked him, I kind of told him the situation I was in. I told him, I said, I feel like I'm in kind of like one of those situations where I've got like movie TV show and album going on at the same time. Except for me, it's book, book, audiobook, all at the same time. I was like, how do you do it? And he just kind of laughed and he's like, you know what the trick is?

3:59What you do is you just bite off more than you can chew. He said, agree to do more than you think is possible. And then you just go do it. And it sounds so simple, but it was like one of those moments where just like a switch clicked in my brain. And I'm like, wow, that's crazy because we all know we're capable of doing so much more than we actually do. but the only way you can really tap into that is to just over commit like just over commit yourself and you find a way like you just find a way to do it and so he's like yeah man you just bite off more than you can chew and start chewing it i was up at 4 a.m writing my book for six hours before meeting up with him and then spending the afternoon with him when i would go back to my hotel at night my team in the U.S.

4:44was waking up. So I would check in with them on the website and then I'd go to bed. And then I'd wake up at four, crank on my book for six hours, go meet up with Will, work with him for a few hours, go back to the hotel, check in with my team. And I did that the entire trip. If you had asked me, like if I was capable of doing that two years ago, I would have been like, are you insane? But it's just when I'm with him, I see him do it, you know? Like he'll go film all day and then he'll come back to the house and meet with his social media team and plan videos for that month until like 10 o 'clock.

5:20And then he'll go to bed and he'll be up at five working out. And it's like he's been doing that for 30 years. It's a machine, man. For 30 years. What about someone who's listening who says, well, it doesn't sound like a very balanced life and that's going to create overwhelm and burnout and stress that is going to ruin everything. When you hear people talk about delegation, or like, oh yeah, you should, anything that you're not great at, you should like hire somebody who is. And it's like, that's fine. He said the same thing, but he talked about it in like a moral way. Like he basically said, he's like, I'm world-class at a couple things.

5:56And so if I'm doing things. Anything else. If I'm doing anything else, then I am ethically, like it is an ethical problem. It's like hurting the world. Exactly. He's depriving the world of the thing that he's world-class at. And he said, if I'm not hiring somebody who's world-class at the thing I'm bad at, I'm doing the world a disservice by them not doing what they're world-class. That is powerful.

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7:23Again, have an amazing day and I'll see you tomorrow with another episode of the daily motivation show.

7:38Thank you.