How To Build Self-Awareness That Actually Works | Gary Vaynerchuk

0:00Gary Vaynerchuk:Walmart Express Delivery can get what you need delivered in as fast as an hour. Whether it's baby formula when you're down to the last scoop, pet food before the bowl runs empty, batteries for a dead remote, or a last-minute gift, it is handled. Try Walmart Express Delivery today and get free delivery with promo code EXPRESS. Promotion valid for first Express Delivery order. $50 minimum. Subject to availability. Restrictions apply. Hi, my name is Lewis Howes, and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.

0:39How do you develop more self-awareness? I've thought about that a lot. I actually think it's about communication around your inner circle to let them feel safe to tell you the truth. Wow. It's a wild one. But tell me what? Tell me what my strengths are, what my weaknesses are. I'm going to give it to you right now. because I just can feel the listener on the other side. Hey, everyone, real talk. If you're like, oh, this is hitting me, I've got a big one for you because I said this in my last book and I've got a lot of reach out on this. Just pick the two or three people, probably your sister and your brother, probably your mom or dad, definitely your best friend, definitely your best friend, and maybe like an epic person you work with, like your favorite boss ever or current, and literally invite them to a dinner.

1:24Literally, I'm not joking, and say, this is going to be a weird, fun dinner. I'll surprise you when we get there because you don't want them to overthink. When you get there, you're going to say, you'll never believe this. I was listening to Lewis's podcast, Gary Vee was on. I'm really not joking. I don't, this is a very important part of this little narrative thing that I'm telling you. You're going to say to them, it's unlikely you'll be able to deliver on what I'm about to ask right this second. But if you're wondering why my best friends here and my boss that none of you have ever met and my sister and my aunt are here.

1:56Let me tell you why. Oh, bring them all together in one. Yes. Wow. Because what you want to do is suffocate. It's kind of like posting your weight on the internet and like you want to suffocate yourself. Correct. You're saying, I want to be more self-aware. I need all of you to tell me the full truth. All of you are the people I deem that I think love me the most, which means it's going to be hard for you to say, but I'm bringing you all together to say what I need is this and you don't have to do it now because boss you might feel weird saying it in front of my mom the first time you've ever met her but I need it ASAP.

2:32Tomorrow's fine one-on-one and every family and things will open up every circle's gonna be different. Every circle's gonna be different. This is like almost creating a self-intervention. Correct. Most people aren't willing to do that. Correct. This is if this again I think three to eleven people listening right now and I know a lot of people are gonna listen between both of our platforms I think only three to eleven people are gonna do this. And they should send us a message after they do. It's going to be amazing. And so that would be how you find self-awareness because someone's going to, like if I had done that, either my mom who struggles with it as well, my dad who recognizes it, Brandon Warnicke, my best friend who runs Wine Library and Wine Text, also struggles with it.

3:11So he might have not even been able to say it. My brother might have been able to come through. My sister now would have been able to see it more than 10 years. But if I had done it, somebody in that circle might have been like, you're too foolish you're too nice wow somebody might have if i did if i did what i'm saying here which is like say it it's okay i know you don't believe me and you're even and i was very i was a challenge for people always because i was always providing so much emotional and financial values yeah i'm a real piece of work for most people because it is very common for me to be either and often both the emotional and financial values in the relationship.

3:52They don't want to ruin the relationship. Of course. Yeah, yeah. Like it's, you know, it's a vulnerability for me. It's my coping mechanism. I always have the leverage. You can take care of people, yeah. I just always have the leverage. I mean, those are the two things on earth. Emotional and financial, that's the game. Yeah. And I'm good at both and generous with both. Wow, okay. so that's number one uh self-awareness number two gratitude gorilla i think if you can learn and this is just killing people on earth you would be flabbergasted what would happen and i've seen it with people around me recently where you just decide right now on this podcast that instead of waking up in the morning which so many people do being all upset and having all of their perspective and energy towards what's not good.

4:48I should be making more money. I don't like my job. This person I just woke up next to, I don't like him anymore. Like all the tough stuff. Instead, deciding to be like, I'm glad I woke up and didn't die last night. Simplicity. Gratitude comes from simplicity. Like it's like, you know, back to your point, like everyone's like, Gary, social media is up. Everybody, they think they need this stuff. I'm like, do you understand that I grew up watching Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous? Right. Like, have you heard of MTV Cribs? Everybody saw that. Everyone's showing the over the top of it. Like, if you had a$400 used car, that felt...

5:29Yes. This is not a new phenomenon. Like, as if, what, you didn't go to school and one of the kids was the richest kid in school? Yeah, yeah. You didn't have envy that they had a brand new BMW and you had to walk to school? get the f*** out of here with envy and jealousy it's as old as time so gratitude what do you have again I said something to somebody who was complaining in my inner circle about 3-4 years ago and they were just like but you to me and then to other stuff right and I finally said I said x person let's bump this dinner because this is not like fun instead of telling me like why I have it better and this is somebody I really know why this person has it better, why your older brother has it better.

6:13This is the real example. I'm like, for the next 20 minutes while we eat this chicken, can you please tell me hand it to us perfectly. You're going to like this. I said, can you tell me who you have it better than? And it was a really interesting moment and I know that person's smiling right now and I'll probably get a text. I think it really had an impact on them. Because I suffocated it. They're like, no, no. Just appease me. We're here. Who do you have it better than? And then he went into like all our common people, which he definitely had it better than. And then I went into my and I'm like, OK.

6:51And what about everybody who is in Africa right now in concentration and the people in China? Like, like, like people like what about real? What about somebody who during this dinner got diagnosed with terminal cancer and during this dinner? looked down at their phone real quick and got into a car accident that took their life? And what about the two 14-year-old twin daughters that lost their mom in that picture I just painted? Since we've been sitting here, I just don't understand how people don't understand what's going on. Since you and I have been sitting, recording this podcast, of the 8 billion people on Earth, thousands have not only died, correct, but have gotten devastating news.

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9:23Gary Vaynerchuk:Walmart Express Delivery can get what you need delivered in as fast as an hour. Whether it's baby formula when you're down to the last scoop, pet food before the bowl runs empty, batteries for a dead remote, or a last-minute gift. It is handled. Try Walmart Express Delivery today and get free delivery with promo code EXPRESS. Promotion valid for first express delivery order. $50 minimum. Subject to availability. Restrictions apply.