How To Change Your State Of Being | Tony Robbins EP 247

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0:51Sir John Templeton told me that he's never seen anyone tithe, which, you know, tithing is usually 10 % of what you earn, for at least a decade. He didn't become incredibly financially free. And I think the reason is I had a moment when my whole life changed. It was kind of twofold. I was really young, like yourself back then, right? Working my tail off, trying to build a business. Big goals, you know, you don't always succeed to start. We're just coming together, right? It was hard. And I remember I was so frustrated because I was working 18-hour days and nothing was working. And I was broke and I felt embarrassed, you know, I should be doing better than this.

1:23And so I was driving home from Orange County on the 57 freeway in San Gabriel Valley out near a place in Pomona, California. and probably just not anybody else, but I can remember it so vividly because it was almost midnight and I was at this breaking point and then I was like, why am I not, you know, doing better? And then I just pulled over the road and I used to keep these journals. I still have them, written journals. And I wrote in big lines, you know, the secret to living is giving. And I started to cry. And I realized I am so focused on what am I not getting? I'm not focusing on what I'm giving.

1:50So for six months, man, it turned me around. But then, you know, something else I get in your body. It was in my head, it was in my heart, but I had to get in there to stay. And I started getting through some really tough times. and I lost everything financially and I was mad at everything because like I loaned a friend a thousand bucks and you know I had them doing well and you don't even return my phone call and what changed me was I was down to I don't know 22, 23 bucks something like that I don't know it was$24 enough that I knew that I didn't have money for food for the next week clearly and I didn't have any prospects and I was living in Venice in this 400 square foot bachelor apartment feeling sorry for myself and I thought you know what I gotta eat so I'm not gonna drive my car because I'm not gonna spend the gas I'm not gonna pay for parking I'm gonna go to an all-you-can-eat place and load up for the winter, right?

2:31So I can get more, like, one meal a day. There's a place called Marina del Rey, not far from Venice, and it's a beautiful community, and it's right on the water. And there's a place called El Torito. It's still there. So I walked there for the three miles, and I go, okay, I'm going to go ahead and load up. And I was all about myself and getting through this. But this woman walked through the door, actually, very attractive lady, and I witnessed who her boyfriend is, and there's nobody up there. There's a little guy down here. It was obviously her son. And he's wearing this three-piece suit, you know, a little vest.

2:56He opens the door for her. He pulls out the chair for her. And it was just, I don't know what it was. It was something about him was just so moving. It was such a sweet, caring, loving young man. It was mother that moved me. I paid for my meal, put it back in my pocket, was left. Walked up this young man. I introduced myself. And I said, hi, I don't remember his name. I think he said his name was Ronnie. And I said, Ronnie, I said, you're a class actor. I saw you open the door for your lady. I saw you hold out the chair for your lady. And I said, so cool that you're taking her out to lunch like this.

3:21And he goes, well, I'm not really taking her out to lunch because I'm just 11. and I don't have a job, you know? I said, yes, you are. And I had no plan. Literally, I just reached in my pocket, took all the money he had, changed all the bills and threw it right there in front of him. You look at me like this, he goes, I can't take that. I said, sure you can. He said, well, why? I said, because I'm bigger than you are. And he got this big grin on his face, his eyes got this big, and I didn't, I just shook his hand. I didn't even look at his mom and I just walked out the door, but I had no car. I had no money.

3:48I was euphoric. I was like flying home. I was like, you know, I probably look like an idiot, probably skipping or something. I mean, I was just, I should have been like, what the hell did you just do? I don't know, meal, what are we going to eat? I went home that night, I laid out a plan and the plan was going to take me, you know, 10 days, two weeks. So I thought, well, people fast for a week. I could fast for a week, you know, that type of thing. And I have this great mindset about it. And I woke up the next morning and I get the old regular snail mail shows up. And it's this guy I've called a zillion times who wouldn't return my call.

4:14I open it up, there's a check, thousand bucks plus interest and an apology. So I'm sitting there and I started to cry, honestly. and I was just like, why did this happen, you know? And I don't know if it's true, but I decided that day this happened because I did the right thing. Because I didn't have a plan, it wasn't a strategy. I just felt this little soul beside me. I knew it was right, and I did it. And I didn't do it because I thought I could or I couldn't. I didn't even think about it. And that's the day I became a wealthy man. Because I didn't have any money, but scarcity left my body. And I had plenty of ups and downs since that time and various times in my life.

4:46But I never went back to that, oh my God, you know, how's it going to happen? It's like breathing. Do you stop and say, God, is there going to be the air before you take a breath? You know it's going to be there. You don't run your life by that aspect. And so that to me is what it's about, is showing people, if you won't give a dime out of a dollar, you'll never give a million out of 10 million or 10 million out of 100 million. It's just not going to happen. But if you can do that now, you don't ever get beyond scarcity. You start behind it. Every single day, you've got to feed and strengthen your mind.

5:13Until you do that, you're always going to be in fear. Because fear is automatic. The human brain is designed for survival. It's not designed for success. Your brain is not designed to make you happy. That's your job. And the only way you're going to do it is if you feed your mind. I used to go to the library because I was the only patient to go. And I would read biographies. I'd read people's lives. And it would make me go, wait a second. As bad as I think it is, the greatest people in the world had it worse. Sure. So there's something here. Read something that's a strategy. Read something that's going to change your life.

5:37And the second thing I tell people is feeding your mind is great. But you've got to also strengthen your body. Fear is physical. Right? You know where you feel it. And if you go work out, if you go lift, if you go run, even if you're out of shape, If you just go for an intense walk, that experience alone changes you. Like every day in my life, the first thing I do before I do my priming, I jump in some hot water for fun and then I jump in freezing water. And what it does is like it's teaching my brain. I tell my brain what to do and it doesn't. It doesn't feel like it. It doesn't want to do it.

6:03And every cell in your body is alive, right? So it doesn't have to be like two hours worth of something. It could be something to do for 30 seconds, but it's training your body to be strong because a strong body could strong mind and vice versa. The third thing I tell people is find a role model. It seems impossible until you see somebody's done it. So Ray Dalio is one of the greatest investors in history. The guy was a caddy, right? His dad was a jazz musician. His mom was a homemaker. He's worth$14 billion. He found someone to mentor him. He found multiple people to model. You don't always find a mentor, but you find somebody you can model.

6:37And when you start seeing that somebody else can do it, and you see they really did, you start to believe. You start to get certain. And then the fourth thing I tell people is it's massive action. and constantly change your approach. And then it's find somebody worse off than you are and help them. Because when you do that, it gets you out of yourself.

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8:09Thank you.