How To Destroy Self-Doubt And Start Manifesting Your Dreams | Dr. Tara Swart

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0:35What is the ultimate mantra to start manifesting more of what you want? And do you need to believe you're worthy of manifesting first before you can achieve it? Yeah. So I'll pick up on that second point because it's a really important factor in why people don't achieve the things they say they want because deep down they don't believe. Yeah. And if you bypass the belief, can you still manifest? I don't think so. Or not as well, let's put it that way. So let's, I'll give you an example of visualization and vision boards. So you know I call vision boards action boards. I love that. And that's to do with you going out into the real world and, you know, doing the actions that will bring your goals nearer to you, not just sitting at home and fantasizing about things.

1:21but I have come across quite a few people who say I've been through the magazines I've cut out the pictures I know exactly what I want I can't bring myself to glue them onto the board why well the first time someone said that I challenged them really strongly and I said I think that's because you don't believe you deserve them so we had a whole conversation about that and it turned out to be true so a couple of times again when I've heard people say that or I I check more now I'm Like, have you actually stuck them down and put it somewhere prominent? Because putting it somewhere prominent is a risk as well.

1:54I don't know if you recall that my first one was in the bathroom of my apartment and I was in a one bedroom, well, I was in a studio apartment at the time. You see it every moment, yeah. But also anyone that came to my house could see it. Oh, wow. You know, it's slightly uncomfortable, particularly in Britain, to be putting, this is how much money I want to earn. Right, this is the house I want, the dreams, the relationship. Exactly. The status, all of it, yeah. But I said to myself, if you, you know, obviously only my close friends were coming to my apartment. If you can't even show it to them, how can you tell yourself that that's what you really want?

2:27And that you're going to go out into the world and say, this is what I want. And what was really lovely was actually my best friend's husband came over once. And he obviously looked at it when he was in the bathroom and he said, oh, actually, I've got someone I could introduce you to about, you know, one of the things. So it already helped me that I let other people see it. Yeah, I've heard different research of like, don't tell anyone your goals, because when you tell someone you get a false sense of accomplishment of like excitement and joy that it's like, so you don't actually have to go make it happen because you're talking about it.

2:58And then I've seen the other side where it's like, let people know about your goals so that they can support you in accomplishing them. yeah I mean I think letting people know so they can support you is one thing but talking about it does not necessarily mean that you don't have to go and do something you can talk about it and go and do something yes and because the brain doesn't like uncertainty you may have some fear around actually grasping opportunities that are related to the things that you want but if you've done the visualization if you've talked about it if you've felt in all your senses what it feels like for it to be true and you've given gratitude for that you have set your brain up to be in the love trust end of the emotional spectrum with oxytocin flowing around your blood making you much more willing to take a healthy risk to collaborate to think outside of the box and reducing because it's kind of a seesaw effect the cortisol the stress hormone that will drive your amygdala and hippocampus the emotional and memory centers of your brain in fear in fear or stress what what happens is that your brain will bring to the front of your mind every single time you ask that girl out and she said no and it will say don't don't go and ask anyone out because you remember what happened when you were that geeky teenager you got rejected yeah exactly um so we have to really set our brains up to override that because that's kind of a survival safety mechanism.

4:31So gratitude moves us from cortisol to oxytocin. And talking passionately about what you want moves you from cortisol to oxytocin. Yeah. Is there ever too much gratitude someone can express where it actually hurts you or doesn't benefit you? I don't think so. Can you give me an example of that? I mean, I feel like it's one of those things that is just always good for you, isn't it? Well, yeah, that's why I'm asking. is because I feel like I'm incorporating gratitude throughout my entire day from the moment I wake up to after activities to when I see people that I'm talking to or in person I'm expressing it feeling it and when people say how's your day I say I'm very grateful I'm just constantly trying to focus on that emotional state because I know the more gratitude that I focus on the more abundance comes my way I truly believe that gratitude is the gateway to abundance It's the gateway to peace, to health, to freedom, emotional freedom.

5:30And it creates a lot of perspective. If I'm not grateful, it means something's lacking. It means something's off. It means something's negative. Or it's neutral, which I guess is fine too. And so it doesn't mean I should bypass spiritually when something is broken or when something is off or I'm being emotionally triggered or abused or a boundary is being crossed. You don't just say, ah, la-di-da, everything's okay. But it is reflecting on those painful moments and saying, oh, those were challenging and hard moments, but I'm grateful for the lessons and the wisdom now. So it's finding the meaning in the mess as well.

6:09I'm just going to say exactly the same thing.

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