How to DISCOVER Your Life's PURPOSE: The 5-7 Year Journey to MASTERING Your Passion & BECOMING Your TRUE Self | Rob Dial EP 612

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11What have you discovered about how to find your purpose at this stage of life? And is there a formula you teach people? The thing that I hear more than anything else is that most people don't know what their passions are. They don't know what their purpose is. More than I hear that I have too many of them. I heard a couple of that last night when I was live. And some people said that they did have too many things that they could do. But majority of people are like, I don't know what my passion is. I don't know what my purpose is. And then I ask them, I'm like, well, how often do you do something new?

0:39And they're like, not very often. So here's the key to it is it's okay right now if someone's listening not to know what their purpose is. It's okay to not know what their passion is. But it is not okay to not wake up every single day and not be in constant pursuit to find what that passion is if you don't know what it is. And that takes trying new things. Of course. You have to try a ton of new things. and try things and be like, oh, that didn't work. I don't like that at all. And the other thing that's important to know about passion and purpose is that your passion doesn't have to be your paycheck.

1:10You can look at people and see like, I'm lucky enough, you're lucky enough that we're so passionate about this and we happen to be paid for it. That's amazing. Like that's, by the grace of God, the best thing that's ever happened to me, right? But there's other things where it's like, some people are like, I really enjoy riding horses and how do I make money off of horses? How do I make them my passion? I was like, you don't necessarily have to make money off of it, but maybe you start going, well, you know what I would like to do? I like to take my horses and I like to teach people that are in the inner city how to ride horses.

1:35Or I like to teach people who have maybe psychological symptoms and they have anxiety or bipolar. And I've learned that horses end up calming them down in some sort of way. And you decide that you want to help them. It doesn't mean you have to make money off of it. But I always say, if you found something that you love so much, why don't you try to spend as much of your time doing it? And so if it is this horses thing, and maybe you make like five grand a year of horses, or maybe it costs you more money, Can you have a job that you at least somewhat enjoy? Not hate, but you somewhat enjoy, but it gives you enough free time to do the thing that actually makes you feel alive.

2:09And so people always say like, well, how do I find those things? My personal belief is I think that God, the universe speaks to you through energy, of the energy that we feel doing something. Like when I get done with this podcast, I am going to 100 % have more energy than when we first started the podcast. Because this is what actually makes me feel alive. Like I feel the most alive doing this. And so I think a lot of people need to think like, Where's the most energy for me? Where do I have the most curiosity to try to learn something? What would I do even if it didn't make me any money? I mean, for years, I didn't make money off of the podcast or anything, but I did.

2:39Hundreds of podcast episodes before I made a dollar off of it, right? Just because I love learning about people. I'm obsessed with neurology. I'm obsessed with learning about like sitting down with someone and be like, why is Lewis way that he is? I want to know about his mom. I want to know about his dad. I want to make connections and put this puzzle piece together of this person. And so it's like, it gives me energy to meet people and find out what's going on and where they come from and how they became that. I found that for the majority of people who I've met that have become like something big and they've been able to do something very successful, it takes at least five years.

3:09Five to seven is pretty average before it like really starts to take off. I don't know if it's like the universe testing us to be like, do you actually want this? Because you better keep on this path. But I think the path of mastery is something that I like really love. Like my first tattoo is the Roman numeral for 10 ,000 because I love the 10 ,000 hour rule. It's on my wrist right here so I see it every single day. I just love the idea of mastering something. And I think that if we just, we find something that we're kind of interested in, that seems interesting, that seems fun, and we start putting energy into it, we start getting better at it.

3:38It's like Tony Robbins always says, progress equals happiness. When you feel like you're progressing towards something, not making money, but just progressing towards something, it makes you feel good and you want to keep doing it. And you fast forward five years or seven years and you've become one of the masters of that thing. That's usually when people can write a book about something, they can start a podcast, they can grow a following on it, And that's usually where they can start to monetize. Yeah, you've got to have some type of skill set or some type of mastery. Maybe you're not the master, but you've mastered a part of it.

4:05And you'll start to attract more financial opportunities that way. One of the things I feel like holds people back from discovering their purpose, tapping into their purpose, taking action on their purpose, is the old character they've been playing for so long. They've been holding on to an identity that has been developed for them that isn't in their highest, best way, right? It's been the way society wants, parents, kids, whatever it might be. How can we get the courage to eventually kill off the parts of ourselves that are no longer serving us for our highest sense of purpose? Have you ever seen the documentary Jim and Andy on Jim Carrey?

4:45Yes. Incredible. It is incredible, right? So everyone should watch it. Jim Carrey is amazing. He did the movie The Man on the Moon like in 1999. Andy Kaufman, right? He was playing Andy Kaufman, right? So he was playing Andy Kaufman, and he's a method actor, which means that he had to literally become him, and he had to play him all day long for three or four months straight, to the point where even his driver said when he would pick him up in Hollywood and drive him home, he would still be Andy Kaufman in the car. On the way home, he'd be Andy Kaufman on the way to go and shoot every single day.

5:14The crazy part about it, though, is that Andy Kaufman also played other characters. So Andy Kaufman was also Tony Clifton, which is a whole other character. and so he would if if they stopped shooting and he was Tony Clifton he would go home and be Tony Clifton and so he was Andy Kaufman some days he was Tony Clifton some days he was never Jim Carrey in those three or four months it's really interesting when you watch it because the people who are like they were in taxi with him and they they were on the show were like he was almost indistinguishable like he was the closest thing to Andy Kaufman I've seen since Andy Kaufman to the point where even his daughter Andy Kaufman's daughter went and did sessions like almost like mini therapy sessions, sitting down with Jim Carrey as Andy Kaufman as being her dad.

5:53That's crazy. Crazy, right? And so what's crazy about it though is that when it ended, he said he forgot who Jim Carrey was. There was that song, I think it was REM did the song Man on the Moon. They're like, you know, we're going to shoot the video, the music video for it. Can you be Andy Kaufman? And he's like, I don't think I can. He's like, because I lost myself so much in that role that when it ended, I forgot what I liked. I forgot what I didn't like. I forgot my belief systems. I forgot everything about who Jim Carrey was and he realized it was just another character that he was playing in his life He was waking up and unconsciously every morning deciding to be Jim Carrey And it shows you that it's like our identity is just something we're choosing to be every single day And we can look at parts of ourselves and we can say do I like this aspect of myself?

6:34Do I not like this aspect of myself? So the only other tattoo that I have is a tattoo on my arm when I was first starting the podcast I was really nervous. And when I left my job where I was making like a quarter million dollars a year, and I was like, I'm going to do this thing. I don't know why, it just feels right. Like the feelings felt right. I was really fearful, and I was like, I might go back to work for someone else. I went home. I was back for Thanksgiving in 2015, the year I started the podcast. And she goes, hey, have you ever seen this box from dad of dad's stuff? And I was like, no.

7:03And my dad had passed away, you know, 14 years ago at that point. There were these, you know, it was like a t-shirt of his. There was his glasses, and there was these letters. My dad was in jail for a little while and he wrote letters to us. And he wrote a letter to my sister on her 20th birthday, which was a year before he passed away. And the very end of the letter, it says, I hope you live your life with courage, love, and laughter. And I read it and I was like, this is actually speaking to me. Because I'm in so much fear right now that I'm going to go back to work for someone else and literally throw my passion away.

7:31And I took my dad's handwriting, exact handwriting, it's on the inside of my arm right here. So it says, live your life with courage, love, and laughter. I was in so much fear that I was about to give up my entire passion and everything that I felt like I was born to do because I just wanted to go back to what was safe. And I think everybody feels it.

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