How To Find Your True Purpose | Jay Shetty EP 935

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0:49When I started this journey in my life of trying to make wisdom go viral and to share ideas and help people train their mind for peace and purpose every day there was a certain speed and pace that allowed me to figure out what I needed to do every 12 months and now I feel like I'm moving away from thinking about the next 12 months to thinking about the next 12 years and thinking about the next 20 years and thinking about the next 30 years and so I feel like I'm at an evolution and growth within my own life where a change of pace will be what I'm looking for. Because I found that up until now, I felt like I had to do lots of little things all the time to be able to establish what I'm doing today.

1:33And now I realize it's actually gonna take fewer bigger things that you can only get to if you've done this step before. As I was doing this work, I realized that often the blocks to love are not because you don't have the deep intention to love people, but it's that you are putting yourself under so much stress and pressure that you're too agitated and irritated to be present and actually share love. So I saw this study that talked about how you think you don't wake up early the next morning, even though you wanted to, because you're bad at waking up early. But the truth is it's because you're actually experiencing stress.

2:13And when you're experiencing stress, you can't implement a new habit. And so reducing stress allows you to be the person you want to be. If you think about when you say something you don't want to say, it's because you're irritated. Reactive. Yeah. When you do something you don't want to do, it's because you're stressed. When you react to someone in a way that you don't think is yourself, it's because you're agitated. So we act in unloving ways because we are putting ourselves under stress, irritation, agitation, or pressure. And so for me, what I've realized that if I want to be my best loving self and be present with each and every person and be conscious of that energy, I have to learn to not put myself under so much stress that I can't be present.

2:58So that's been a big lesson of love that you can't love while you're putting yourself under stress or pressure in any way. The people who need the most love ask for it in the most unloving ways. The commitment I've made to myself is I no longer want to ask for love in unloving ways. I no longer want to be snappy to feel loved. I no longer want to be demanding to experience love. I no longer want to make someone else feel a passive-aggressive comment to feel love. I want to communicate about the type of love I need in an open and honest way rather than trying to hope that someone else is going to figure it out because I'm sending subliminal messages or I'm being distant or I'm avoiding them.

3:46And so that was something deeply that I learned was that we just constantly keep asking even the people that love us the most, we keep requesting and demanding love in the most unloving ways. And if we can free ourselves of that, you can actually make a relationship really special and beautiful. And so we have to let go of that. Even though my work's been noticed publicly in the last five years or six years, there was a whole 10 to 11 years before that where I literally did this for whoever showed up. Five people. Literally. So like when I was 18, and of course in my first book, I tell the story of how I met monks.

4:26I had a society at university called Think Out Loud. What it was, was a community where I would put out flyers and posters myself and whoever wanted to come from my university would attend. And it was called Think Out Loud. I would dissect a movie based on philosophy, psychology, and spirituality. So I would take a movie like Inception and I would break it down. I'd take a movie like Notebook and break it down. I'd take a movie like The Butterfly Effect, Good Will Hunting. Like I'd take these incredible movies and I'd do these sessions. They'd be absolutely free. And I did it for the first year and five to 10 people came.

5:02Second year, maybe 25 people came. Third year, there were sometimes where 100 people were in the room. And I was just doing it because I loved it. Then I became a monk when I came back I did the same thing in the corporate world I had a event in London called conscious living. It was on a Friday night Literally five to ten people would show up once a month, but it would make me so happy to spend hours with them afterwards I would literally do a session I'd serve everyone food because we'd always sit down to break bread and then we'd sit down for two three hours And I would just answer people's questions and sit with them and I didn't have any followers I didn't have any platforms.

5:34I didn't have any audience, but I loved it And so I was already living the dream, in my opinion, because I was getting to do what I love on top of having a day job. And to me, that felt realistic. When I look at my happiness and joy now. Scale of one to ten. To be honest, there's days when it's a nine and there's days when it's a five. Really? Yeah, it oscillates. And it's because. Why is that? Well, I think it's because I've taken on so much more now to think about, to be in charge of, to lead. You have other people that you're responsible for. You have teams of all of these people that rely on you to do what you do best and take care of them and connect.

6:15And they're trying to help you out and build with you. And so the responsibility scale level is so much higher now. And so it's not that I don't feel peaceful in my purpose, but it's that you do deal with daily stress, daily challenges, daily pressure in a way that I didn't before because it was just about me. I find that a lot of my life today, I often say to people, like I think 75 % of my working week is in my discomfort zone. And so I really crave comfort in my relationships. I crave comfort on my weekends. Peace and home. Relax. Exactly, yeah. So I rely on my personal relationships to have some comfort and some stability as I take on discomfort in my service and purpose.

6:53And so I think that makes sense. And so I think you also just get better at understanding what growth looks like and what you need. I think if I just sat and lived that life forever, I don't think it would have stabilized. I don't think I would have stayed at a seven or an eight. That would have probably come down as well, but for different reasons. And so the reason that now it comes down are actually positive, healthy reasons or can be managed in a healthy way.

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