How To Give Yourself A Fresh Start In Life | EP 853

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

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1:08How do we find and do work that nourishes us, that makes us come alive? For me, it's like five things. It's meaningful, it's excitement, enthusiasm, expressed potential, it's flow. You become absorbed in the activity and lose It's a sense of time and sense of actually you being apart from the activity. And it's a broader sense of purpose in life. So how do we find a new work that gives us that feeling? Like all five of those things weaving in and out of the way that we experience work. A couple of years ago, I came to believe something I never would have thought that I would believe. And that is that we all have a unique impulse for effort that gives us that feeling of coming alive.

1:50effort, you can just use the work instead. Like we're all wired in a certain way where there's, if we invest ourselves, if we do a certain type of thing, then we get a lot closer to that feeling. Once I started to feel this in me, I'm not talking about a job or a title or a company or a role or an industry. I'm talking really, really, really granular. I'm talking about like DNA level. You know, like, so when I invest myself in a particular way, I feel alive. And then I started wondering is this just me or is this everybody and then are there a mappable set of imprints because if there are and we can identify them and then somehow create ideas and tools that would let people understand what that is for you relatively easily a whole lot of angst would go away and fundamentally if you know like I want to make things that move the needle in people's lives that's what I want to do and that has literally been my devotion and then helping people figure out like what is that thing?

2:50So we found these 10 impulses, these 10 imprints for work. It also became really clear that each one of these kind of comes with its own behaviors, tendencies, and preferences that are really common. They're fairly universal for each one of them. But this was still my idea and I needed larger scale validation. So we built an assessment over a period of a year. We've now had about 500 ,000 people complete the assessment, 25 million data points and gotten some really powerful validation from what started as an observation years ago. So there's what I call the primary sparketype. Think of that as your strongest impulse for work that makes you come alive.

3:26The art that you do on the side because you just can't not do it because of the feeling that it gives you. It's really nice when you can make it the thing that you wake up in the morning, spend eight to 10 hours a day and get paid for it. That's awesome when you can do it. You can't always do it, but a lot of times you can get way closer than you thought you could once you realize what that thing is. So the primary sparkotype is your strongest impulse. Then we have what I call the shadow. And that's not like the dark side. I call it the shadow because it lives in the shadow of the primary. Okay.

3:58And you can look at that one of two ways, right? You can either say, well, it's like the runner up. We've had a much more nuanced relationship over the years, and that is this. most people do the work of their shadow in order to be able to do the work of their primary better right and then there's a third piece of the profile and that's what i call your anti-spark type if you have to do it it's just it's emptying you'll literally do everything you can do to not have to do this when you do it you know it takes the greatest amount of recovery and the thing is for a lot of us in everyday life and in our jobs we do have to do some of that work of course it is what it is.

4:35But knowing that there's something deeper that makes you feel this way, it helps you frame it in a way where you understand what's really happening, where you don't picture yourself as lazy or just not devoted or incompetent. You actually understand there's something deeper going on. And on a team basis, when you're working with other people, when everyone understands the impulses at both ends of the spectrum, it becomes an experience where you can really optimize. And also there's a lot of forgiveness and shame loss that becomes a part of this, because you don't feel a sense of shame for not rising up because there's something else going on.

5:06You may still have to do it. There's a more forgiving emotion wrapped around it. We started doing a fair amount of work with this body of working in organizations in the context of leadership and engagement and team dynamics. And I've been asked, like, is this a hiring tool? Like, should we use this to hire people? And my answer is actually no. Like, I don't think this or really any of the other of the mainstream assessments that are on the market for organizations right now are really well used that way. My take is it's a great tool to look at the people you have, who you love, who are a good culture fit and figure out, OK, so how do we navigate what they're doing?

5:41How do we give them a set of tools and some insights to contribute to their role, to their work, to the organization, to their lives in a way which is going to be most nourishing for them?

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