How to LEAD With COMPASSION | Javier "Chicharito" Hernández EP 460

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1:26create this process of like, I know every time that I play a match, regardless, we are going to talk about the things that you can improve, no matter what. What you could do better. So imagine, I'm going out, I can celebrate with my friends, but I know as soon as I step in the car or in my house or my parents are there, we're going to like, review their match, talk about it, and I learn how to battle my ego. When you're 17, 18 World Cups, you can score goals. Of course, you don't have those experiences you feel like you are on top of the world and you feel like already made everything and stuff and my family held me that sense of like always like which is the goal and they teach me something without the words but i think with actions about like nothing is going to be enough if you win a match you always want to win another one right you score one you always want to try right right if you play one world cup you want to play more if you score 100 goals now you want to score 200 So unconsciously, they teach me that, like always like, hey man, there's always better things to achieve or to work for.

2:29That's how I handle pressure. And then we can keep going on my story because, yeah, then imagine that was a pressure in my family, in my niche. But then, of course, when I was 21 years old, my life changed completely. And then the entire country knew about me. And then I was representing the country. Right. And it was like you explained it in the beginning, right? Sometimes if I don't score goals, it's like I let down my country. Literally. So then I played the World Cup. The World Cup was fine for me. And then I go to Manchester. And when I get to Manchester, I start seeing and learning that everyone doesn't see the life that you see.

3:07Because in my eyes, in my feelings, and in my brains, I don't understand still people when there's one guy being in the top of the top of the top, and regardless if you like him or not, that you feel proud that a Mexican is there. I don't understand. And it's not in my core. Like, if I see another guy doing great, I never feel threatened or less or whatever. It's the other way around. It's like, I want to learn. It's like, oh, what he's doing that is making him great, and it's like, he's or she's in their own path. Let me learn. So that was when I was realizing, like, man, I know things probably cannot go in the most successful way in the beginning, right?

3:45because I need to get used to it. I need to play more. I didn't play as much in the first six months. But I was reading and seeing people speaking like, yeah, look, he doesn't deserve to be this Mexican. Oh, wow. And things like that. People bring you down. He will never play there. Honestly, I was speaking with my family and he was like... Why is this happening? They weren't celebrating you. Exactly. And those supposed to be the people that I would love to feel the lifting of, the support of, like, no matter what, We support you. You will play. Be more positive in that sense, right? So I start learning of like, oh, this thing of like, nothing is going to be enough.

4:21And everyone has their opinion. I think there's a lot of people that they don't feel so secure and so happy with their life. And they are not at peace. Of course, they feel and they see lagness. So they want to see that in front of me. So imagine a Mexican, 22 years old, playing Manchester United. And the only thing that they could be seeing is like, he's sitting on the bench. That's the only thing they were talking about. Oh, wow. He cannot play. Instead of seeing the glass half full, they were seeing the glass half empty. But not because it was half empty. It's because when people speak about you, they're speaking more about themselves than yourself.

4:57There are people that probably you don't like what they do or how they do things. But that doesn't mean that they're doing the things wrong. If you don't like something, it doesn't mean that they have a bad taste or it's not great. Like, you cannot like something that is great. And it's fine. Why, like, discredit people just because probably you don't like it. It's fine to don't like me. But that doesn't take the fact that in the story of my life, I'm in Manchester, man. I'm the first, and so far, the only Mexican player that has been playing in the Manchester United history. Wow. And I'm the only Mexican player that have one Premier League and I want two.

5:41I'm the only Mexican player that was a Sir Alex Ferguson player. What was the biggest lesson that he taught you? Imagine in my 22 years of life in Mexico, not any manager or coach treat my family like Sir Alex Ferguson did. The way that Sir Alex Ferguson welcomed my family. Wow. Well, myself, obviously, but my family. Learning their names of my sister, my father, and my mother. Invite us to a lunch. He even said, we're not going to speak about football. We're going to speak about yourself and yours. Explain to me, I want to know about you. Wow. Doing that, like making yourself like you're human.

6:24Like, of course, he's good at what he does. But he's still a human, like us. In some areas, of course, he's greater than other people. But we're still humans, man. Luis, we're still human, we're still people. So that lesson. The other one that I'm going to take with me forever, because it's not even a lesson, but it's something that it brought me so much peace. And as well, he showed us, well, that humbleness he was. He said to me, when he retires, he brought me into his office to speak with me, no? And I thought he was like, okay, I don't know what he's going to say, but he's going to retire in the next season.

6:59It was like he retired like three months before the end of the season. I thought he was speaking with the players to say goodbye, etc. Right, right. So he invited me and I went to his office and we started talking and he said, like, small talk and everything and appreciate it. And then in the end he said, look, I want to finish this meeting with something that I want to tell you. There's been only in my whole career four players that I regret. I didn't give them more time and I took the decisions that I took already. I'm not regretting them because I thought it was the best for the team, always.

7:30But those four players, you mentioned the other three, you are in that category. I would have loved to give you more time because you deserve it because of the way that you are and the way that you work and the love that you have for this club. And I want to say that I'm sorry that you didn't get that time. And then, of course, the way that he treats, the way that he manages humans, he knew if Lewis needs probably a little bit of, like, I'm going to ignore you. You don't need to talk. There's others that they need to have a battle or something like that. and there are others that you need to a little bit be more hard on them.

8:03But he knew how to manage 25. But for that, he needs to know people and focus on people. He knew that the most important part of tactics and the sport is how I'm going to take the best out of my players. And that's why he stayed for 26 to 28 years being the manager, changing players and changing coaching stuff to through that time and keep winning. Wow, that's crazy. It's insane.

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9:53Thank you.