How To Manifest A New Vision For Your Life | Jenna Kutcher EP 213

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0:54What was the biggest identity foreclosure you've had in the last few years? Getting rid of my Abercrombie jeans from when I was 18. Truly. I remember how expensive those suckers were and how I saved every pretty penny. And I told myself someday they'll fit again. And guess what? They don't. And they're not even in style anymore. But I literally, no, I mean, that was part of it. But I think for me, moving back home, which is something I never thought I'd move back home. And I had this vision. after our second loss, I like hired someone to like help me unpack my grief because I was like, I'm angry.

1:35I hate my body. I don't know what to do. And she like led me through this exercise and we were like sitting together and we would get on the phone once a week. And every time I wanted to like hit ignore, you know, like I was just like, didn't want to do the call. Yeah. Cause I was just like, I know this is going to suck. And we're like on the phone and she's like okay we're gonna do a little exercise and I want for you to close your eyes and like breathe so she's like having me breathe and she's like I want for you to envision like the most vibrant version of yourself like you are happy and energized and alive and she said this line and it was like like a dial on a stereo I want for you to turn your intuition up and turn the noise of the world down and I was like envisioning all this and in the vision I saw this little girl and pancakes and a Persian rug and I was wearing jeans and a white linen shirt and I opened my eyes after the vision I was like bawling and I said to her she goes you know what came up for you and I was like I think we have to move and she was like what do you mean and I was like I love the house we're in but there's this bedroom and it was always going to be our baby's bedroom i get so emotional but and i'm like every time i walk by it i just think about but it hasn't happened yeah and i was like i just this vision of like this long table and like this rug and this baby and like i see it that day because i'm a quick action taker you're like looking at houses you're like i get on zillow and i type in duluth minnesota and drew and i had never talked about moving home like it was like a maybe we'll move to minneapolis someday like you know kind of stay Where were you living at this time?

3:21We were in a really small town in Wisconsin called Fort Atkinson. And we had great friends and stuff, but we didn't have the support of a family. And I found this house on Zillow. And I text my family text thread as a joke and say, maybe this will be the Kutcher Craftsman. Like, it was this beautiful home in Minnesota. We had never talked about it. Drew was out on a run. And his phone starts blowing up because my family's like, move home, move home, come home. He's like, what? We never talked about this. Yeah. He gets home. He's like, what is going on in your family text thread? Like, it's going crazy.

3:53And I was like, did you see the listing? He's like, what listing? And I was like, I saw this house in Minnesota. And I thought he would be like, you know, maybe three years from now. And he was like, oh, we could do that. And I was like, what? And, you know, it's crazy because I didn't necessarily move because of the vision. But it was like the first thing where I was like, where we are is not working for me. The craziest part is this, Louis. We didn't move for like seven, eight months. The day after we moved in, I took a positive pregnancy test. Wow. It was literally, I always say, it's like I had to move home and be grounded at home.

4:35It just felt like this crazy moment where it was like, I'm home and I'm ready and this is it. And that next day you moved in, that's crazy. And here's the thing that's so wild about my journey. because you know one in four women experiences pregnancy loss is that when you're in it I mean it is dark I can imagine and I often think about it's like if you were like walking through like a warehouse and it's just like pitch black and you're literally just like inching step by step like you don't know where you're going and it's like you just you have a flashlight so you can only see like directly in front of you and once you get through it it's like somebody turned the lights on and you see where you were and why you were there and i hate the line like everything happens for a reason because when you are in it there is zero reason yeah there's no reason why that happened but our like three-year waiting season i can see now with hindsight was required for me to build a life that supported what i was waiting for really when i first was pregnant with my first pregnancy.

5:44I was shooting 25 weddings a year. I remember we were in Hawaii and I looked up the due date and I was like, I can't be due then. I have like four more weddings. I mean, I like have to cancel on these. Like I literally was like, like you were sabotaging your body. It was like, I didn't know how I would do it. You know what I mean? Like body's like, we're not gonna let you do it then. Yeah. Like it's crazy. And then the second time around was a huge wake-up call because I found out that I had lost the baby but my body was still pregnant and I had to show up and shoot a wedding the next day and so when I look at those losses they were massive teachers in my life but by the time I was pregnant for the third time I had built a life where I was able to move and I wasn't tied to anything and I had no clients to answer to and I had built that and so there's this quote that I heard from a preacher and it's like sometimes the season of waiting is just as important as what it is that we're waiting for.

6:43I think a lot of people find themselves in seasons of waiting and it's really easy to want to like twiddle your thumbs and just sit there, right? I worked while I waited and I don't mean like I hustled. I worked towards the life I wanted for when the time came and it was so evident when it happened.

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