How to Reinvent Yourself | Sukhinder Singh Cassidy EP 281

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0:52I see a lot of people who think about, like, what I do is different from who I am. And I have a very hard time separating the two, obviously. Explain that more. Like, your job is not who you are. Yes, your job is not who you are, right? So if you think about like you spend who you are at work and how you express your gift is as important. You know, think about spending 10, 12 hours a day at something, finding a passion at work that expresses who you are. And as I keep coming back to your unique gift and strength for impact. Yeah, I think that's very purposeful. And I think a lot of people think like, oh, there's my day job and how I make money.

1:27And then there's, you know, what I care about. Why can't they be integrated? Why shouldn't they be integrated? Right. But I think it's all a reflection. Where they're like, well, this is my job, and then I come home and I live my authentic life. Yes, exactly. But what if you could live your authentic life all the time? All the time. And by the way, we all look. And there's going to be things you don't enjoy doing about your work or your job. Yeah, absolutely. Just like everyone. But if you could be yourself and use most of your gifts in that role, that's powerful. It would be great, right? That's powerful.

1:52Yeah, and of course. And you know, we live in an era where most people want to go to work and feel even more so than ever that who they are is welcome and that they're included and what their values are fit. And I want the same thing. But this is not to suggest, by the way, I live some perfectly integrated life. Right, right, right, right, right. I'm like, this is making, you know, this has a risk of people thinking, I'm really good at this. What I would say is this is my intention and this is my worldview. So as I said, I'm pretty convinced that the way I'm meant to express my gifts is through business and that that's totally okay and more than okay.

2:26Yes. How do you express your gifts in business? When you're leading a company, how are you expressing your gifts? Well, I try and bring three things to any situation. Number one, I wake up most days feeling pretty grateful for the amazingly talented people I get to work with. Yes, your team. And so I guess whatever, when I work as CEO, I think of like both leverage and my gift is making other people able to be even more successful and think of themselves and accelerate their journey. Yes. Right? So I think I have that gift because I don't think I wake up every day thinking I'm the best person in the room.

2:58I think I wake up every day going like, wow, these are really talented people. And so what I know I can do for people is give them energy and excitement and passion and help, you know, help them maybe drive faster than they thought they could go. So I think that's one of my unique gifts. That's great. Number two, again, not that I think I'm so smart, but I love consuming information. And so I like to think that maybe a conversation with me is one where people learn faster and where I learn faster. Like that's a very so it's not just my gift. Right. It's what I enjoy. So I love interactions where you and I like we have this interaction.

3:29We both leave and it's like a super rewarding interaction, right? I consume a lot of information. I can give you insight. You can give me insight and off we both go. And so I think I'm pretty good at consuming information and helping people give insight and gain insight by just asking lots of questions. So I think I process information. That's a gift, I think. But it's a gift to be used, right? To help accelerate outcomes for people and for businesses. Those are probably the two big ones. It's processing power and, you know, passion, energy, ability to get people excited and make them realize that they're capable of more.

4:04What are the three most interesting questions you think we should be asking other human beings? I think these are, well, I think the questions to ask yourself, first and foremost, I think everybody should ask themselves, what are my unique gifts? It's a question I would ask you, but it's a question I think you should ask yourself, right? Like, what are my unique gifts? Because I think that when we can articulate what those are, it's not like we're full of ourselves in a bad way. we understand how maybe we can have the most impact. And we seek out environments where that impact can be known, seen, practiced, and realized.

4:34So I think that is the number one question people should ask themselves. Is, you know, what are my most authentic gifts? Number two, and of course, and about others, I believe people should deeply know what they're not great at. And not just like what are my unique vulnerabilities, the areas that will always be my work to improve. What are your unique vulnerabilities? Well, they all are the downsides of my edges, right? I would wish that like my father, I could make people feel, I know I can make people feel energized, but that same energy makes people feel pretty nervous, right? It has a dark side where it's like people can feel like, well, am I not enough?

5:09Like, what do I do to keep up with Sukhinder? Like, that's not really the point, right? I'm not here to make you feel less of yourself. I'm here, like, so I speed people up. I start talking, I start talking, people are going faster, faster. So I'm pretty impatient. so like if you have high energy and it's always trying to be deployed you're pretty impatient right you may not wait for somebody to finish their sentence you make some make somebody else feel nervous so like that will always be my work right and that is the downside of being like a highly energized person like controlling that energy and that passion right so it's always at its most productive edge that is it by a mile that is like that will be my work and i have lots of other vulnerabilities but when we you and i both agree vulnerability is a good word so i hate using network.

5:48I have lots of other areas for development. Areas for growth. Areas for growth. But I would say like what I'm aware of in myself is that one vein sprouts so many. Okay. And then the third question we should ask. And the third question I would say that people should ask themselves. I think it's maybe not a question you ask once. It's a question you ask many, many times, which is what's possible now. In just any area of life. If you stopped and said like, what's possible now that I'm not doing? People think the possibility is in big acts. Right. And I think possibilities in small acts. So if I see it, it's like, what's possible today?

6:21Maybe that's the question. What's possible today? If I wanted to find more joy in a certain area, if I wanted to find more joy at work, what's possible today? But I do think that there's a lot of power in small acts. And starting now, right? And to your point, getting in that imperfect motion, right? Versus waiting for the day where every possibility will be perfect. That day never comes. Never. It never comes. So I think if you ask yourself, what's possible today? you probably unlock something today. I do know the power that comes from unlocking even one possibility.

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