How To Set Boundaries Without Losing Yourself | Baya Voce

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:12if you know in your heart of hearts that no matter what happens you're going to be okay it will you'll be better able to set boundaries that's what i've been able to do yes yeah that's what i'm gonna do i'm just like no this is my boundary and if that doesn't work then we don't need to be together like if we're not it's not like i'm saying that non-stop but it's like we need to create agreements on alignment. And if there's something that's really crossing a boundary, I'm going to tell you, now that's a deal breaker for you, then maybe we can come to an agreement somehow, but it's like, I don't know.

0:46We just can't do this anymore. But for somebody who doesn't actually believe that they're going to be okay on their own, that their world literally will end, or truly some people have gotten themselves into situations where they are they are literally in danger if they leave of course or they're on reliance or they're in the children with this person or they're financially responsible all these things why people stay when they know they should leave yeah of course and and the when you're when you have a hook like any of those oh yeah it's tough it's really hard to set boundaries and to and to to, to speak the things that need to be spoken even kindly because.

1:28Because you're going to feel like. Your safety is literally on the line. That's true. That's a whole nother, that's a whole nother episode. So imagine hypothetically you live, you get to live for the rest of your life as long as you want, but it's the last day on earth for you as many years away as you want it to be. And you get to live the exact life you want, all the blessings and beautiful journey and creations you get to make and relationships you have. but at the end of the last day you have you can only leave behind three truths and everything that you've ever created has to go with you to the next place or we don't have access to your content or your videos or books or anything you ever create is gone what would those three truths three lessons that you've learned in life that you would leave behind bending over backwards in relationship is not love contorting and pretzeling is not the thing that will get you what you hope the love that you hope that's one another is

2:34friendship is one of the most important investments you'll ever make there's one of my favorite quotes and I don't know who to attribute it to I forgot but it's something along the lines of the tragedy of getting older is there's less time to make old friends and I have friends from when I was one I have friends from when I was five I have a group of friends from elementary and junior high and high school and we still are deeply connected it's uh they bring me back to myself in a way that is um it's so powerful so those you know um friendships are and and just to say as a caveat i think we're going to start hearing a lot more about friendship breakups and about how to navigate conflict in friendships i think it's starting boundaries and friendships Yeah.

3:29And it's, and it's really just the same thing, but, but I don't think we, we, I don't think we are prepared for friendship breakups in the way that we're, you know, we, oh man, this is a whole nother episode. I started doing this the last two years and went on, uh, I went with as many people as I could, where I was like, I need to create boundaries in a conscious way. And I realized, okay, this, some people would brought us stronger together. Some people was like, oh, we're just not meant for each other in this season of life. and that's okay. You know, it's like we can move on. You don't have to try to hold on to something that once was where we're at right now.

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