How To Turn FAILURE Into SUCCESS & Achieve Your Dreams! | Marie Forleo EP 315

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1:13How do you stay on track with a connected, loving relationship as a female entrepreneur when you're putting so much energy into your business and the culture and the team and your customers and I made so many mistakes I mean let's just be real like I worked so hard to get my business off the ground and I was often working seven days a week you know not just coaching like that was a portion of what I did but to keep a roof over my head it was bartending it was waiting tables it was like being a personal assistant cleaning people's toilets whatever I needed to do in order to pay my rent, you know, put food on the table and actually continue to grow the business.

1:50So I basically developed a habit of working nonstop. Performery TV. Oh, yeah. Like getting the business off the ground. Like I was a Nike elite dance athlete. I, you know, taught anywhere from like three to seven classes a week at Crunch Fitness. Some of them were choreographed. Some of them were basic fitness. I had the coaching clients. I was doing the content and I was bartending and waiting tables. So I had developed this habit of nonstop work because that was what was necessary at that time. But as Josh and I got together and eventually when I let go of the bartending and the waiting tables and even the dance and fitness as a revenue stream, I didn't let go of the habit of working nonstop.

2:29And that created some real problems in the relationship where it was to the point that him and I had been together for seven years and never taken a vacation together. Like we had traveled because either he had something for his work or I had something for my work But it was always work related. So it wasn't actual just Together time just him and I and our relationship was almost over like he was kind of done with me Wow, because you were just I want to work. I got to build my business. You don't understand me. This is my dream I was operating too out of a lot of scarcity and a lot of just habit Like feeling like if I didn't work constantly that it was all gonna fall apart.

3:08So So my stepson, Zane, came into my life when he was seven. So the year that Josh and I kind of, you know, one of the times we've had many bumps along the road. We've been together for 16 years. Any couple that's been together that long, it's not all unicorns and rainbows. No, absolutely not. Relationships are so difficult. But at that particular juncture, Zane was going off to college, which that was a really big thing in terms of Josh processing that, you know, having your kid go off after you raise them. and then me working all the time. There was this confluence of stressors that put us in couples therapy and I had to really change a lot about how I was living, what I was believing, and really putting things back into perspective, which, you know, saved our relationship.

3:54What were you believing? Well, I was believing that if I didn't work constantly, that I wasn't a worthy person, that I wasn't doing enough to make my business successful, that I was perhaps letting people down. And so I had to really shift that and understand that, you know, I come from a background. I don't come from a wealthy background. So the work ethic in my nuclear family is very strong. Like my dad owned a small business. My mom, although she stayed home with us, she was constantly doing stuff, constantly working, constantly fixing things, constantly doing things that took care of the family.

4:32so that's the kind of DNA I grew up with was like no if something needs to get done you get it done it's not like you sit around all day and eating bonbons and watching tv so so that's kind of how I got there but then I really I had to readjust if I actually wanted to not only have a successful business but have a successful life

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