How To Turn Your Wounded Parts Into Your Greatest Strengths | Gabby Bernstein

0:00We just confirmed that Andrew Huberman is coming to the Summit of Greatness, along with some other amazing speakers. We've got Dr. Tara Sward, Brendon Burchard, Gabby Bernstein, Amy Purdy, and some huge entertainers and performers. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Summit of Greatness is happening September 12th and 13th here in Hollywood. I can't wait to see you there. Hi, my name is Lewis Howes, and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.

0:36You say that the hard truth is that although we can make surface level adjustments to our actions, true change can only happen when we heal from within and address the core beliefs that block us from manifesting the life we desire. So I guess, would this four-step process help us address the core beliefs that are blocking us in manifesting what we want? Exactly. And if so, then what is that process? Okay. So first of all, 100%, that's exactly the answer. This is the four-step process. The other thing is, is how many personal development programs have we sat in where someone's like, oh, you have limiting beliefs and the limiting beliefs are blocking you.

1:14Then you're like, how the do I get rid of these limiting beliefs? Right? Like there, you never leave and you're like, okay, I know the playbook, right? For changing. Maybe you have a little tip here or manifesting tool there. And look, you know, I've, I've written, this is my 10th book. So I have nine other books with other practices, which are all work, all are valuable, all have their own purpose, right? Particularly spiritual practices in these other books. And they all are bringing you to self for sure. But this is addressing the actual neural redirection in the brain. Because when you practice this four-step method, What's happening is you're rewiring your experience and your relationship to these parts of who you are.

2:00So you're connecting higher self currently to the self that was destructive or harmed or the manager. To the parts. The parts. Yeah. The manager or firefighter parts of you. That's correct, baby. That cause stress or anxiety or control or perfectionism or whatever it might be. You're taking all these little people inside of you that have these belief systems that are holding you back, and you're bringing the internal parent of self to them to help them. So it's almost like we have these, we have multiple personalities or memories or people in us, which is weird to say. We don't even have to say it.

2:31They're just parts of us. Multiple parts of who we are. And there are some parts that are wounded that we get to heal. And the more of those parts that we can have a higher relationship with, a more harmonious relationship with. Harmonious is the word. That's right. If you can create a harmonious relationship from the higher self of you to the wounded self parts of you, then things are going to start to flow better in your life. Oh, well, yeah. In every area. Well, because think about it like this. Like my controller part, I've done so much work with her. You can gender these parts of you. They have no gender.

3:07They could have the opposite gender. It doesn't like sort of whatever is intuitive for you. My parts are female. So I have that controller part that you knew for so long, or the anxiety part, right? Even to think about where we were maybe 10 years ago in these conversations to where I am with you right now and how much more self-energy you feel in this moment. It's going to make me cry. It means so much to me that you've been there with me. It's been like, what, 13, 14 years? 14 years. 15 years maybe since I've met you. 2008, I met you. And when you first met me, I was like parts on fire, right?

3:37Like literally on fire. I was a workaholic. Both of us, yeah. Really extreme. I was sober, but like workaholism. I was just extreme anxiety. Didn't know that I had trauma, so I was living in hypervigilance. I was so scared all the time. I was so controlling. It was just like I was doing—you can still be going through hard things and do beautiful things in the world. Yeah, you still get results in life. Yeah, and do good. But you might be having a lot of struggle, right? And so as a result of this model and what I'm going to teach everybody today, and living this and developing this and practicing this and every day checking in with these parts of me, checking in with these parts of me, I've unburdened them.

4:19And so it's not that they go away, it's that they're not extreme anymore. Interesting. So the parts that were wounded are still inside of you. They're no longer wounded. they're in their beautifully developed chrysalis their new, for instance the part of me that was a controller I mean that part did good things, right? She wrote 10 books in 14 years, right? Took action, got things done Yes, but now she can be in the flow, right? Like now she can be like I don't have to force my way to like get this thing to there I'm like, oh, you know what, Louis? Like, I'm gonna be in LA like, does that work?

4:53I'll be there like, I can show up with an energy she's on top but she's, but she's trusting. She's not forcing. Not forcing anything. She's just relaxed, like in the presence. And so these parts of us that once controlled us or hurt us to try to protect us, because they all had an intention to serve us, but they didn't help the self really at our highest self. Our blocking self. Our blocking self, but they're an attempt to try to protect us. these parts of us, when we can have a relationship, a harmonious relationship with them through healing and mending those wounds, then we can use them for good.

5:34That's correct. Yeah. You're so great at like digesting and bringing it back. Yeah. It's beautiful. That, that self right there in action, clarity, clarity is one of those qualities of self. So you have such a good job of listening, thinking, pulling it together and bringing it back. And it sounds like we, we could, you know, by doing the self-help work and by following this four-step process that we're to cover in a second and just going through the book. It sounds like when we can start to have a different relationship with these parts of us that have caused us pain and suffering, but also try to protect us, if we can start to have a new relationship by mending those relationships, it can get a lot better.

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