If Failure Has Defined You, This Will Change Everything | Donald Hoffman

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0:42Donald Hoffman:You are the infinite already. You are, you already are everything that you want. That's the interesting thing is to recognize that you don't have to become anything at all. All you need to do is recognize that you are already so good that you're making this whole thing. You are rendering this world on the fly right now and it's effortless for you. That's who you really are. But how does someone understand, believe that who is broke, suffering, going through breakdown after breakdown in a relationship or career or health, and they're like, that doesn't feel true to me? I can understand that. Absolutely.

1:33Donald Hoffman:And, you know, when I'm in emotional pain, it feels like the emotional pain is the reality, the final reality. and if I feel like I've messed up, failed at something, then I feel like I am a failure. So I understand completely. I've been there. We all go through there. What I'm saying is you can step back and look at that feeling. You can just watch it and realize that it's just a story. It's just like looking at the kid in the sandbox whose toy has been stolen. It's that same kind of thing. Once you realize that, you realize, and this is a principle actually that spiritual traditions talk about, Jesus said, whatever you ask, whatever you want, just recognize that you've already got it, and it will be yours.

2:26Donald Hoffman:It's basically saying, if you want abundance, what you have to do is step back and realize who you were all the time. don't grasp for stuff that you think you need to become somebody. Step back and realize that you already are everything. And then it's not so important. I mean, then if it comes, great. Of course, if you're hungry right now, that's a story. You need to eat right now. But if you're trying to become very, very rich, because you think that that's what you need to do to be worthwhile, that you can step back from and say, I'm already infinitely beyond a trillionaire, infinitely beyond that.

3:13Donald Hoffman:Now the question is, in this sandbox, do I want to play that game? Do I want to be the world's richest person? Or would I rather just grow flowers? In other words, you have the freedom to choose whatever you want to do. And it's not so important. You can play the game, be sort of relaxed about it. And so that's, the ultimate thing is, you're never a failure. In fact, you're rendering this whole game right now. You're the author, not the failure. So when someone feels like they failed and they are a failure, and there is humiliation or shame that they feel, or maybe others are criticizing them, or they feel like a sense of loss, whatever it might be, how can they let go of the identity that they are a failure?

4:05And what should they reframe about that loss or breakdown instead?

4:13Donald Hoffman:Yes, it can be very hard sometimes. For example, you might have been raised in a family in which your talents were not recognized. and you were marginalized and made to feel unimportant and made to hide. And that can be extremely difficult to break out of. You could be brilliant, extremely talented, but convinced from your parental upbringing that you're worthless. That you're worthless, and it can be a horrendous, painful process of getting out of that, because it could have even been prenatal. And so you have this programming all through your life until you're out on your own. for someone like that it could be a very heartbreaking tough road to to step out and look at yourself and recognize no I am the infinite right because you were told something completely different you're nothing your talents are you're weird you're so you can that could happen so for someone like that they have been given an extremely tough path.

5:38Donald Hoffman:And that, I think, will be a lot of time alone, a lot of tears, a lot of time facing the emotions, being with them, watching them, and getting the distance. I think ultimately someone who's gone through that tough road will actually be tougher. They will have, like if you want to run a marathon, you don't sit around and eat hot dogs and you have to train. So those are the people who are really being trained ultimately to really understand that I am not this game. Yeah. Because this game was so painful and so not me that I woke up in tears, in agony, but I woke up and realized it's just a game.

6:33Donald Hoffman:For someone for whom the game is going very, very well, I was born rich. Parents love me. It's right. Everybody loves me. The game is going pretty well. It's sort of harder. So in some sense, it's harder for them to wake up. But for everybody, I would say, whether you had the hard road or the easy road, my own feeling is spending time alone in silence and just watching your emotions, watching your thoughts, and then returning to silence, I think is the way because that silence is you. That silence between thoughts and the silence that's able to watch an emotion without identifying with the emotion, that silence is you.

7:27And so when you realize that you transcend any description,

7:32Donald Hoffman:there is no word, there is no word, no doctrine, nothing. They get you. You transcend anything that can be said infinitely.

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