If You Care What Others Think, Do The OPPOSITE Of This | Gary Vee

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0:38Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.

0:50What you just said right here, I think is one of the biggest things that holds people back, whether that's creating content online, starting a business, or putting themselves out there in any endeavor is people care so much what other people think about them. How do people overcome the opinions and judgments of others with their craft, business, or art? Therapy, positive consumption, new friends, exercise, psychedelics, true in work that is starting with do you understand that that's what is actually happening I believe that that is a blind spot to everyone they don't realize why they wear designer clothes you know for so many people it's attracting the opposite sex because they're looking for that closing of the gap of love right so of course alpha guys like I gotta get a you know think about all the trends we see right like these girls won't like me if I'm not rich right like but it's all like deeper than that that's the surface level like pizzazz it's like they're looking for love and love is important as and and so because they're looking for that they believe they need the proxies to get it without realizing that's often going to attract not the clean version of love you're actually looking for It's a whole, you know, it's funny.

2:21I said something to Nick, one of my key executives at VaynerMedia. He came from Saatchi and Saatchi, a very classic, you know, Mad Men era, right? And about six months in, I could see he had it and all this. And then he was like doing a bunch of stuff. And I kind of recognized what was happening. And I sat him down and I said, Nick, I want you for the next year in this company, if you want to grow, do the opposite of everything you intuitively think you want to do what was he doing he would do like uh for example at vaynor what i try to teach people i talk about the irony about what i'm saying so it's be candid be candid give me your hand this is so crazy i launched you know dustin uh we just launched something called elephant meetings let's get the elephant out oh that's good it's saving our company bro and when i say saving our retention is going to explode because of this.

3:15So what he and every advertising person, I'm laughing right now because I know every single ad agency, marketing agency, social media agency person is about to smile. Whether they consciously or subconsciously do it, everything is based on save the customer. Which means you're just eating, like you're just yesing them to death even though they're wrong. Like I'll give you an example on social media. Lewis, I want you to post on my space. That's what we need to be. And you're like, Yes, sir, Gary, we will. And you know that's not what you should do today. And so just like classic stuff or like putting a television commercial on a pedestal versus a social media post, which is my whole thesis.

3:54So there was just a lot of stuff. He was coming with a lot of baggage. Anyway, I know he's going to smile right now because I know it's been a big factor in his life. And it's kind of what I want to say to everyone right now. it's almost like if you're not happy as you're listening right now if you're anxious if you feel a lot of pressure the answer is ironically you have to start doing the opposite of everything you naturally want to do so right so you naturally want to be at night dealing with this and you're all stressed so what you want to naturally do is go grab another bottle of vodka what you're supposed to do is not do that and wake up tomorrow morning and go to the gym like like you know like Like, I do think the other thing is, let's talk about, people like to say the toxic people around you.

4:39I'm going to give you a different one. What about the enablers? Right. What about the people like your mom or dad or brother and sister or best friends who are letting you get away with your bad behavior because they have my flaw. They don't have candor. So what people understand is like. They're not going to give you tough love or tough communication or just challenging communication. It's really crazy, right? Like, it's like in my real life, in the Gary Vee part of it, all the admiration comes from like, you're the one that told me like, shut up. Right? To the public. But in real life, I'm very fortunate.

5:17I have a pretty stable, epic family situation where it's like, we don't have any like off the reservation family members. We're like, but like friends and stuff like that. Like, I was taught and it's ingrained in me to be the superhero. I want to fix. but that's what gets parents in a bad place of paying for their kids and all that. So these are complicated things but I would say to people, pay attention to your circle because it's everything. You know, it's a cliche, it's not like I'm inventing a saying. The five people you're around, you know, all that. It's real. It's real. I really watch that and I'm like, that's real life stuff.

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