If You Live For Others' Approval, This Will Set You Free | Sage Robbins

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0:41Lewis Howes:What would you say then is a time that's been the hardest for you to overcome? I'd say younger years of the, where the external voice of wanting an external love, approval and acceptance, feeling like you need to be, or I needed to be something, even though there was nothing. But I, once again, I think that goes back to conditioning, the feeling of like holding up the energy. That's exhausting. That's exhausting. so I'd say one of the gifts of age I think is the falling away of you know just what feels maybe a little less authentic here now I find this stage of life and chapter much more it's just more natural yes and I'll look at versions of myself say when I was in my 20s and Physically, of course, it's like, wow, looking young.

1:37But I wouldn't change this version of who I am today with her.

1:43Lewis Howes:What do you have now that you didn't have in your 20s? Ease, a comfort within, lived wisdom. I think that's the gift of pain, is as pain rearranges us or pain decimates us. on the other side of that, I think we have a, or it's been my experience anyways, like just a stronger foundation, a stronger clarity and lived wisdom. Hindsight is always so beautiful to look back. And so I think that that's the gift that often isn't spoken about or the lens even of appreciation. Because, you know, you hear women or men turning 40 and it's like, what the heck, I'm freaking 40, you're turning 50. and, you know, the notion that life is over.

2:34And it's actually been my experience. It's just really a new beginning. But I would say comfort. I know that sounds crazy, just like an ease of being.

2:45Lewis Howes:Like an inner comfort. Yes. Yes, an inner comfort with myself differently when it felt, I don't even know if I was in my body for the first, you know, couple of two, three decades of life. And yes, that's probably been one of the biggest shifts. It's interesting you say that because I was talking to a younger woman recently who was in their early 20s. And I was asking them about what's the big thing that younger women struggle with. Yes. And she was saying really the external validation. Yes. You know, the social media of trying to look a certain way to get a certain type of validation. and the unspoken or spoken pressures to look prettier, to be perfect in your career, to be great in your relationship or to be in a beautiful relationship and look like it's thriving.

3:33Lewis Howes:Why do you think so many young women struggle with external validation as opposed to empowering that internal validation and having ease in their 20s and 30s? Well, I can only go back and reference, you know, who and what I was. It's funny, sometimes I'll, you know, look back at pictures and I'll think like, what on God's green earth was I wearing? Like, what was I, what was I thinking? What was I thinking? And I didn't have social media. I just joined social media a year ago. So I've never had that external, but I think, I mean, of the social media lens as well. But I think it's, I don't know.

4:10I think there's, that's possibly the illusion of life is the external dangles, like so much attention and focus. And so, and conditioning as well. You know, not even recognizing the imprinting of who we think we are supposed to be or look like or be like. And I was her, you know, like the one that was dressing for others, looking to please others. And ironically, that goodness was inside of me. It just, it exchanged fuels. You know, it comes from more of a natural way of being today rather than that forced kind of projected. I have compassion for that version of myself at this stage of my life.

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