If You're Going Through Hell Right Now, This Will Change Everything | Lewis Howes

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0:35Once you're able to process some of your emotions in a challenging moment, once you're able to sit in it, experience it, feel the sadness, feel the lows, feel all the pain that you're experiencing, and we've all had moments like that, even if it's not the most devastating thing in the world, sometimes a breakup feels like it. Sometimes getting fired from a job is exactly what you needed to create something new in your life. But it still can feel devastating. It still can feel like, oh, my world is ending. Because that's all you've known for so long. That relationship, that partner, that career, that friendship, whatever it might be.

1:12And now it's over. And it feels like a massive loss. Because your body is truly going through sadness. Once you're able to process it, and maybe it takes days, weeks, months, maybe years for some of these things. Once you're able to process it a little bit and have enough to be able to have normal conversations, still feeling sadness, still feeling a little down, but having normal conversations, you can start to create distance and perspective from the pain. And when I was going through a challenging time, probably about seven years ago, I had my podcast, I still had some interviews. So I kept showing up, but I could, my energy was pretty low, but I was consistent with doing the show every single week.

1:55And I had a guest on named Robin Sharma. Some of you might know Robin Sharma. He's created the 5am club. He's the monk who sold his Ferrari. He sold tens of millions copies of his books and he's a very inspiring leader. And I'm meeting Robin for the first time. And I'm a fan of his, right? This is seven, seven or eight years ago. I'm a fan of his. I'm meeting him for the first time. And I'm like, ah, should I reschedule this? No, I'm going to do it. But my energy is low. I'm like a three out of a 10 energy. I'm struggling. I'm going through some sadness, some frustration, all these different things.

2:29We sit down and start doing the interview. Within five minutes, I'm like, Robin, I just want to let you know, I'm kind of going through some stuff right now. And so if I'm not my best in this interview, I'm going to give you my best. But if I'm not my best, just know it's I'm going through some stuff right now in my personal life. And he said, Robin's, I don't know, he's probably 10, 15, 20 years wiser than me. And he said, a bad day for the ego is a great day for the soul. And whatever reason, he said it at the right timing for me. He said, a bad day for the ego is a great day for the soul. That doesn't mean it diminishes the pain and you're still not going to have to go through what you need to go through on your own journey.

3:13but I was like you're right and he goes listen Lewis I've been through three or four different personal challenges I've been in this career this industry for 30 plus years I've had breakups I've had people steal from me I've done things that I'm not proud of and I've had these different moments and every moment has been painful, has been hard, has been a lesson. But a bad day for the ego is a great day for the soul. And this season of life, whether it's weeks, months, or a year, you're going to learn about who your friends are. You're going to learn about who you are. You're going to learn about who's really there for you.

3:58and it's going to help you purge people, things in your life that no longer need to be in the next season, in the next chapter of your life. And you're going to go through a spiritual cleansing as well. And it's not going to be fun or enjoyable. There's going to be some challenges and pain, but you're going to go through a spiritual cleansing and you're going to go through a physical purging of relationships, people, environments, things that no longer are needed in the future self that's meant to do something greater than where you're at right now. And in that moment, when Robin was talking to me, I was literally like, oh, it's kind of like future hindsight.

4:39Not about having hindsight as 2020, but if we can just remove ourselves a little bit from the pain and create perspective and just a little bit of distance. And if we could time travel to the future, two years, five years, 10 years. And then if we can look back to this moment, 10 years in the distance, and we create that a little bit of distance from the pain, I'm going to look back and say, oh, this is exactly what I needed. It doesn't mean there's a reason or something in that moment, but this is exactly what was needed in my future. And every time I look back at all the painful things, breaking my wrist, going through breakups, my dad going through a traumatic brain accident, my brother going to prison for many years, all these different things that the sexual abuse that I went through when I was a kid, all these different moments and memories that caused a lot of pain, breakups, and sadness and trauma, all the mess.

5:42If I can look back now with hindsight, man, I see the reason because I've created the meaning out of it. There's no reason until you create meaning and that usually takes time, space and healing.

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