Let Go Of High Expectations That Are Actually Holding You Back | Emmanuel Acho EP 218

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation show.

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0:50More true as cure as phobia. The fear of ketchup. True thing. Sixth grade, I'm at my friend's house eating a burger. And his older brother walks in and he throws something at the table. My friend runs and hides behind the chair. I'm like, yo, what the heck just happened? I look at what his brothers do at the table and I see it was a ketchup packet. After checking on my friend, I bust a packet open. I finish eating my fries. And I was like, wait a second. I've rethought about that story and learned a lesson. We can't be afraid of other people's fears. And so often in life, we're afraid of other people's fears.

1:20Imagine if I would have ran and hid because of a ketchup packet like my friend did. Friend was afraid of ketchup, which was Q's phobia. I am not, but I'm not gonna hide because he was hiding. And I think what I've done at times is being afraid of other people's fears. It's what we all do. We're afraid of getting into a relationship because our friends are afraid of commitment. We're afraid of getting out of that toxic relationship because our friends are afraid of being single. Well, we've never left a small city in Texas. Our parents haven't, so we're not going to. And I think the only way to get rid of that is to let go of other people's fears, let go of other people's expectations because it's other people's expectations that kind of dictate the weight of our own.

2:02imagination. Absolutely. When you think about one-hit wonders in the music industry, they're one-hit wonders because we called them that. We called them a wonder and we said that song was a hit. I think it's a matter of not being afraid of other people's fears and letting go of other people's expectations which dictate our own. If you could go back the day before June 1st and have a conversation with yourself from where you are now to that day and you're about to go in and do this thing or maybe it's the morning of and you're about to put this video out that you've been thinking about. You didn't write the script.

2:34I think it was all off the cuff. But you've been organizing in your mind for a period of time and sit down. If you were going to literally stand face to face and have a conversation with yourself almost two years prior, what would you say before you jumped in and did this video? I would say two things. The first would be breathe. It's going to be okay. And then I would say buckle up. Your life is about to change forever. When I recorded that video, I lived in Austin, Texas. I now live in Los Angeles, California. I worked for another sports network. I've since switched. I had no team outside of a broadcasting agent.

3:08I now have a team of like five to ten people. When I recorded that video, I wasn't in partnership with Oprah. I now am. I would say, buckle up, man. Your life's about to change forever. And I'd say, prepare yourself. It's about to be a roller coaster of good and bad. What did you need to prepare yourself? How could you have prepared yourself more? I could have let go of my desire to please all people. Nobody prepares you, in my mind, for how to be well-known. And nobody prepares you for the constant opinions of other people, bro. It's hard. If you were sitting in front of yourself right now, older than today, what would you say to prepare you for these next two years?

3:50Enjoy the process. I think the biggest thing I've forgotten, And I think the biggest thing so many people can forget, we forget to enjoy the process. We forget to enjoy the journey. Yes. The fun isn't winning, but you can still find joy in the journey, win or lose. And at times I don't enjoy the process because I'm so focused on moving that I don't enjoy where I am. When you have an objective without limitations, it's all about movement, man. But you got to enjoy the journey. these conversations, enjoy them. Your third book. Dude, I'm the only person not named Oprah to have multiple books under the Oprah imprint.

4:30I didn't know Oprah 17 months ago. She walked right by me. I got three books. So enjoy the journey. Enjoy the process. My most important truth, love God, love others. I think I'll never flinch or waver on that. Love God, love Jesus, love others. I think my second biggest truth, you're worth getting to know, man. And I think that's hit me more now than ever, bro, is like people don't realize they're valued and people don't realize like you are worth getting to know. Absolutely. My third biggest truth, you have the ability to change the world. You truly do. And I just wish people would believe that.

5:09Changing the world looks different for different people. But you have the ability to change your world. my definition of greatness would be stepping out of the side of the box that others have built around you and constantly becoming the best version of yourself constantly evolving we have to constantly evolve and learn to fall in love with the evolutions of ourselves so now step outside of these boxes bro because there is a box there step outside of it let's evolve and let's just become the best version of ourselves

5:56Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of The Daily Motivation, and I hope you have an amazing rest of your day. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to click the link in the description. That will take you to the full episode of our main podcast on The School of Greatness. And if you are loving the daily motivation, please follow us over on Apple Podcasts and Spotify and leave us a review over on Apple Podcasts right now. And if you want more exclusive content and ad-free listening experience, make sure to subscribe to our Greatness Plus channel on Apple Podcasts right now. And if you want to get even more inspiration from our world-class guests and learn how to improve your life and take it to the next level, then make sure to sign up for the Greatness newsletter and get it delivered right to your inbox over at greatness.com slash newsletter.

6:46Again, have an amazing day, and I'll see you tomorrow with another episode of the Daily Motivation Show.

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