Live a Life of Gratitude With These Guidelines | Matthew McConaughey EP 294

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0:53So if you're ready to learn, heal, and grow alongside other incredible individuals in the greatness community, then you can learn more at lewishouse.com slash summit 2023. Make sure to grab your ticket, invite your friends, and I'll see you there. How do we become thankful for more things we have around us in our life? The more we give thanks for, we give more value to that thing or that person or that place that is. You give more value to it. It means more to us. If something means more to us, we tend it. We take care of it. When you take care of something, something grows. So it scales. So actually gratitude is the root of generosity.

1:35Coming in and going. And it's a self-serving thing. It's not just a self less serving. It is self-serving. I applaud that it is. And if you're going to give gratitude out for selfish reasons, I say bravo. You know, because it will reciprocate the same way back out. You know, in our foundation, we have these young kids that we give them a safe place to go after school. They learn nutrition. They make a physical goal, and they do community service. These are Title I schools. And at the end of every one of those classes, they often sit around in a circle and share something out loud they're thankful for.

2:07And these are high school students. It ain't cool to say thank you for stopping you in high school, right? Well, when they first started saying thank you, they were like, I'm thankful for the Just Good Live validation. I'm thankful. And they all repeat themselves. They're like, no, no, no, no, no, guys. You're thinking, you're feeling like this is too serious. So one day it got to me and I was like, I'm thankful. I got a kiss from my wife this morning before I got out of bed. And they all started hooting and hollering. I was like, see, you can be thankful for fun stuff, too. So they all started saying thankful.

2:34Thankful Halloween's coming. I'm thankful. I'm looking so sharp. What that led to was then people started to feel free to go. I'm thankful my mom is out of the hospital. I'm thankful my sister got into that college. I'm thankful my dad got a job. And when we asked them, what's your favorite thing about the graduating circle? This is the coolest answer. They started coming up to us and saying, well, my favorite thing about it is that I'm for the first time hearing peers of mine say thank you for something in their lives that I have in mind that I've always taken regret. We have to be more than just happy to be here.

3:09We can't just all run around going, just so great, just so happy to be alive. We want to be more than that. I mean, again, have some discernment, make a choice, have some idea, define what you want more of, and what you want more value of in your life, and set goals, and go after things, create things. So we have to be more than just happy to be here. But that doesn't mean that if we are ambitious that we quit respecting and giving gratitude for the fact that, I'm happy I'm here. I respect this situation. I respect the position I'm in, this table to talk to you, that we're here to talk to everyone here to set up the camera, that we're able to do this.

3:45I'm not in jail right now. There's a whole list of long things I'm happy I'm not, you know? When we do that, we're going to give more, again, more meaning to this, more value to it. I'm going to be more generous. It's going to work not only for me, it's going to work better for you. It's a win-win-win. Yeah. It's a win for us, it's a win for others in the world. Gratitude epidemic is not being a delusional optimist. Don't be a fool. You know, I'm not running around going, no, nothing's ever hard. Everything's always great. No, it's not. No, I'm always happy. No, you're not. Maybe you're not digging deep enough because you're always happy.

4:16Are you really chasing the things that have meaning in your life? Because things that have meaning take maintenance. They break down. It hurts. It sucks. We get bruised. It doesn't always work. It takes maintenance. We talk about a midlife crisis. is one bravo way to go you're turning the page you're wanting to do more you want to find more something different bravo way to make it hard on yourself at the right way at the right time after you usually have already accomplished quite a bit but don't forgive this let's go back to gratitude and this is where a lot of people i think get hung up in the midlife crisis wanting to do more and something different it's great but not at the expense of disrespecting what you've already done and too many of us discount.

4:59Oh, I've done nothing. Oh, that's not worth anything. Oh, what's the stuff I've built? When usually, no, that is something. And when I say give yourself credit for that, that doesn't mean trust that you're not going to go, oh, okay then. I actually don't want to do more new stuff. I'm cool. It's not like you're going to go just retire and go to the beach or play golf or quit doing anything, but it doesn't cancel that at your ambitions out, but we need to give more respect to what we've already built. And then we'll take on our male life crisis, which I'm going to return that something. You can be ambitious and have an entrepreneur spirit to want to go change things in your life while still respecting.

5:35I think we actually think you'll find more and do more of what you want to do the best way for yourself when you do have a respect and a connection to your lineage of what you actually have built. This next story is connected to that one. All right, then that's not a new book. It's the same book. It's this new chapter we're looking for, right? Those stories are connected. It's the same hardcover. We don't start over in our lives and start a new book. Start a new chapter, maybe. And those things that we like to tell ourselves, oh, it's a new chapter. They're usually just commas. It's just a new chapter in the same book.

6:06We only get one book. What is your thoughts on fame that you want people to know, whether in their youth or at any state of life, on what it is, what it isn't, and how to manage it when you got it? Sure. Before you go, I want to be famous. It's a great ambition. it's the access it's given me it's definitely in the black it comes with its harder mature challenging things like loss of anonymity I don't meet strangers anymore I do something say something it's out there I can feel the energy of the world whether it's pro or con if they think about it whether it's true or whether it's not before you say I want to be famous that's fine table let's scoot that over for what?

6:49what do you want to do really well what do you want to do you have an innate ability for that you're willing to work for that maybe you can become an expert on them maybe you can maybe you're just really good at winging it but what do you want to do that could give you fame but fame without an understanding of a structure of a competence of a skill in my experience is real sort of vapid mirage of a moving target because there are fads that come in and out all the time that are very ceasefire that may not be lasting. And when you are going to do something that you think, oh, this is going to get me more likes or give me some fame, just check in with yourself and go, well, if that goes out of fashion, or if in 10 years, as far as you can project, 20 years, 30 years, 40 years, am I going to still feel like I will stand by that?

7:42Just measure yourself. Give yourself a little projection because we can do stuff right now to get famous that we will absolutely regret tomorrow. Have a little sense of delayed gratification and project forward of what the possible consequences of what you're doing to get attention and fame will be. And bet on yourself. Just bet on yourself because the best way, if we can, is to build something and be confident in something where even if it goes out of style, it will be looked back and like, that person did that really well. That's what they were known for. and even though we don't do that anymore, things have changed or the medium has changed.

8:21When that was happening, that person was doing it well. So ask that because we're tempted and we're rewarded for a lot of things that can make us famous that are going to give us a proverbial hangover one day. Check in with those things.

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