Manifest Love & Abundance Today | Sadhguru EP 261

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0:51Why is it so hard for people to feel that type of love, that unity love, the conscious love in a relationship, an intimate relationship? See, this is because they're interested in the fruit, not in the root. The fruit, not the root. What's the root? Say right now, you want to experience love. So what will we do? Like people are going about chanting this mantra, I love you, you love me, you love me, I love you, throughout the day. Because you know if you don't say it for two days, it may go away. Love does not happen because you say it. Love does not happen because you're attracted to somebody.

1:27Yes, you may feel it at certain moments. When you like something, you may also begin to love it, all right? When you have very sweet emotions, that's called love, isn't it? If I have nasty emotions, that's called hate, that's called whatever. So sweetness of your emotion, why is it that you have tied it to something that you like to eat? I love ice cream. I love this man or woman. I love this. I love that. I love car. I love Ford. I love Chevy. You know, people are talking this everywhere. Or I love God. That's the safest thing to do. Because you can always claim God loves you. But if you claim this person loves me, tomorrow the guy when it goes away, you can't say anything.

2:09This is a safe thing to do, all right? People have found various ways. I am not saying there is anything wrong with that. It's okay. You use whatever means you want to feel the sweetness of your emotion. But you must understand, it's the sweetness of your emotion. I am asking you, what happens within you? Why is it determined by somebody else? what happens within you if it's determined by somebody else. This is the worst form of slavery, isn't it? When love is determined by someone else. Not only love, your happiness, your joy, your peacefulness, your love, anything that happens within you, when your inner experience is determined by something or somebody, that is the worst form of slavery.

2:52When people are in a relationship and there seems to be a wave of joy and love and acceptance, and then other days, maybe it's anger or resentment or frustration. How do we move out of that and more into acceptance and conscious love as opposed to control and manipulation or, well, you need to do this to make me happy? How do we expand beyond that? First of all, you must decide, is your life in pursuit of happiness or is it an expression of joy? Is it in the pursuit of happiness or expression of joy? Tell me in your life, when you're expressing your joy, was that the best moment? Or when you're pursuing happiness, was that the best moment?

3:34The joy. Yes. So why is it that you have not done that? Because you still believe there is joy in this tree and you can squeeze it out. There is joy in this man or woman that you can squeeze it out. You bring them and then you expect relationship to be great. It will not be. You're bringing them out so that juice of joy will come to you or love will come to you. No. No, love is not something that you do. Love is something that you can become. It's your quality. If your mind is in a certain way, it's joyful. If your emotions are in a certain way, it's loving. If your body becomes sweet and pleasant, it's called health and pleasure.

4:11If your mind becomes very pleasant, it's called peacefulness and joyfulness. If your emotions become pleasant, it's called love and compassion. if your very life energy becomes pleasant, it is called blissfulness and ecstasy. Only if your surroundings become pleasant, it's called success. Only to achieve success, you need competence, you need cooperation, you need help from other people. All right? Because without all of them cooperating, there will be no success. Right now, these guys must cooperate. Otherwise, this shoot is not going to go well. All right? But even if these guys don't shoot well, we can still be joyful.

4:52They cannot stop us. No, we can be joyful, yeah. Yes, they cannot stop us. But for the shoot to go well, they need to cooperate. If they don't cooperate, the situation will not go well. For the success of this situation, you need the cooperation of all these people. But for my body, for my mind, for my emotion and my energies to feel pleasant, I don't need anybody's cooperation. This is 100 % my business. So right now to experience love within you, you're asking somebody to be in a certain way. Oh, all the best. You're going to have a trip. Is that why you think most marriages go through divorce?

5:29Because it's more of needing the other person to support you in feeling a certain way? Suppose you cannot walk without a crutch. Crutch. Without a crutch, you cannot walk. Right. Then next moment you go and say to somebody, some pretty woman, I cannot live without you. Between the crutch and her, what is the difference I must say? One is a physical crutch, another is an emotional and psychological crutch, isn't it? So essentially you have crippled yourself. This life is a complete life by itself. If this is a complete life, it's joyful, loving, wonderful by its own nature.

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