Overcome The Fear Of Failure | Phil Heath EP 811

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:12Individually, I had to look at life like a space shuttle. It's big when it starts and it blows off. When it gets to the moon and comes back, it's very small. I'm halfway through right now. Parts have fallen off. They fell off. Those are people. And I have to be okay with that because they were necessary. And I was necessary for them too. But I have to accept that. So that best friend or that business partner that screws you over, that person, whatever, that ex-wife, whatever, it's still going somewhere. They've fallen off and they got their own stuff. It just taught me that life's not finished, man.

0:45Don't go in a downward spiral because you're so emotionally raw because you felt like you gave it everything you got. Did you give it everything? Yes. Did you get hurt? Yes. Are you the first person to ever get hurt? No. Shaquille O 'Neal hit me up the night of. He came to the show and I was very thankful for the words that he said. And, you know, he's basically saying, like, sucks, happens, unfortunately. You know, you just come back and if you want to come back. That's what he said. You know, he's like, you just, that's what you do. Recover, heal, come back, come back stronger. Dave Bautista hit me up, told me that, hey, this is big bro hitting you up and maybe stay off Twitter for a little bit.

1:23You know? Yeah, of course. And Isaiah Washington, the actor, he hit me up. And he said, you're too emotionally raw right now to deal with the world. You need to give yourself some time to process. So maybe hold off some interviews. Let me say the wrong thing. Did I listen to that? Halfway. I probably did some interviews I probably shouldn't have done. No one taught me how to be a champion during the social media era either. I didn't have a publicist. I didn't have PR. The whole industry doesn't have that. No one was willing to do it because they didn't know how to digest it themselves. else there was no one from the league office that was like hey phil like i know this sucked i didn't really get a phone call for i got text messages i had to rely on the fact that i did have instead of focusing on the people that didn't show up focus on the people who did you got three people that have definitely gone through some certain things individually in their careers write down your feelings challenge yourself to write down these honest feelings you don't have to share them with the world because see you know what happens with social media is we're gonna pull that phone out we're gonna say something and we're gonna look back and say that sounded stupid it.

2:25I gave everything. And I felt like it was taken away. And I'm trying to understand, even writing to God, like, what does this mean? I don't know if I can do this anymore. I could do it, but like at what level? To my standard. The standard that everybody else has for me, I've already surpassed that. They didn't think I was going to win more than two. But my standard, why does everybody else get to have this moment? They're not even half as good as me. This is my thought process. And people even go watch it now and be like, that's crazy. no i knew how good i was because i was creating so much distance that the even the announcers would say it like the only way he's gonna lose is if he gets hurt that's a madden curse you know like oh it happened so the inevitable happened because eventually we all get hurt you get hurt or someone's something younger yeah but i was on a roll i thought i was really gonna win 10 of these things consecutive oh yeah so if you didn't get hurt you think you would have won 10 for sure i I already had it bookmarked.

3:24I was like, I already know how this is going to play out. I know how to strategize this. Even through 2018, I was like, if I win this one, I'm going to have to get the surgery. I'm going to know how to come back. Maybe I still sit out 2019 and I'm going to come back even better and then win that ninth one and I'm going to go for 10. And I'm going to call it the decade of dominance. I'm going to write a book. I'm going to go on tour. I'm going to go non-stop. I'm going to hire freaking PR people. We're going to travel the world. I'm going to go do seminars. I'm going to do everything. Because I was already doing stuff with Make-A-Wish.

3:51I was already doing stuff with the USO. I was already doing stuff, you know, like around, you know, I was doing all these cool things. But then what stopped me? I stopped me because I lost. I stopped my own damn momentum because I was hurt. So I had to learn that. And even in the past couple years, I had to learn that. I thought I was done in 2018. I was like, you know what? I watched the 2018 Olympia in Denver because I wanted to know what it felt like to not go to the show. After you got second, the next year you didn't go. I didn't even go. Everybody was like, dude, you should still go. I was like, why?

4:24Because you weren't going to compete. I wasn't going to compete. So why do I need to go? You weren't ready to compete yet. No. And actually, I probably could have. But there was something about me, like in the mind and the spirit, that it just wasn't. Because to me, I have to have all of that going on. It can't just be for the money. It can't just be, you know, it can't just be for ego. It has to like really make sense. And I also needed to know, I was trying to find answers. Is this what I'm supposed to be? Like, God, is this where, like, I'm trying to be humble about this. Like, how about I just take a time out?

4:53because I felt like the first surgery was four months. Second one, six months. So why put that type of stress on yourself? Recover, get a full recovery. Yeah, get a real recovery. See what that feels like. And honestly, see what it feels like to be home and if you really love it. If you miss it. If you miss it, yeah. But be away from it. And also see if people miss you. I would have been going to the Olympia in 2019 just to prove to people that I'm tough enough to sit there and watch it. And it's like, I sit there and watch it. I'm going to be a fish in a fishbowl. They're going to stare at me, stare at my girl.

5:22they're going to analyze every reaction to everything. Why put us through that? That's more stressful. Why not just, we sat around, we went to a Mexican restaurant, we sat around and put the phone up and I was like, this is like... So then in 2020 came... Did you think you could have won it that year watching it on TV? Hell yeah. Really? Hell yeah. But that's how I feel though, right? Were you physically, was your body ready? The problem is that I wasn't training for it, so I don't know. But if you would have taken the three months before and really trained. You might have. Who knows? Should have, could have, would have.

5:55We're all champions in our own mind. Yeah, yeah. I can still throw that football to the mountains. Yeah, exactly. Rico type of talk, right? So, you know, and that's disrespectful to everybody competing too. So I thought, you know what? View this as a real spiritual, emotional timeout because you already got the physical part. This is a real timeout. Let's figure out who you are as a man. You decide to come back. After watching that Olympia, I was like, let's just do it. but then when March 2020 came, I was like, well, how the hell am I going to do this? But then I thought, this would be even better because what if I do win during a pandemic and you're filming this, it's already being documented.

6:34Wow. What would your story be of triumph? And if you lose, and this was really cool because I remember meeting up with Dwayne. So he had, he gave me some really good advice and he was like, you know, like you have to, you have to figure out why you're really doing this. Why are you coming back? Yeah. And it might have to be, this is your last one. It might have to be that way. You might have to put yourself in that mindset. That's what he said to you. Yeah, because there's other goals that you have that may not coexist. They may not coincide with one another. They may not work. But then I started figuring out the upside.

7:06What's the upside? If I win, I'm one of the greatest comebacks in history. If I lose, it'll depend how you lose and how you honor yourself. Because they've not seen you for now 27 months.

7:26I am so excited for you to finish the rest of your day strong. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to click the link in the description and it'll take you to the full episode of my other show, The School of Greatness. Make sure to come back tomorrow for another episode of The Daily Motivation Show.