Overcome The Negative Thoughts & Find Peace | Muniba Mazari EP 783

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11You know, I've always prayed for those who see their failure in my success. Those who hate you today, they were once dreamers who gave up on their dreams. Oh, wow. Haters were once dreamers. They just gave up. So when they see a woman in a wheelchair doing something, they have to hate me. You know, a lot of people say that, oh, just because she's in the wheelchair, she got the chance to do all this. Dude, you're walking around. You had the chance too, but you were too busy hating on people who missed the chance. I'm an empath. I understand why is that hatred coming? Pray for those who see their failure in your success.

0:54Hating is not easy. It's exhausting. I mean, I will be posting all the good stuff on my social media, You will be posting all the amazing stuff you're doing on social media. And they're just sitting in the room doing nothing and just hating. Who is the sufferer? We are not suffering. They are. So they need empathy and kindness. I was always a very grateful person. You know, not before the accident. You know, I used to crib a lot. Because I was too young. And I was too naive. But you know, with time, yes, with time I realized that everyone is fighting an unseen battle, Lewis. Everyone. and we are so good at the art of concealing the pain that we are in.

1:36All of us. The methodology changes. You know, there are certain ways that we conceal pain. Sometimes we share, sometimes we don't. But we all are going through something in life every day, you know. And I realize that if I think that I'm the one who's the most broken one, no. I have traveled around the world. I have met so many people and they had shared their very personal stories of how broken they are. And let me tell you, none of them were in the wheelchair. So there are so many people who are walking around who are perfectly fine. They are running their businesses. They are so broken from within.

2:13All they want is to be understood. They want someone who can understand their pain. You know, and I feel so blessed that when people look at me, when they see me in the wheelchair, Maybe, you know, they just think that because she is in pain, we can talk to her because she can understand what we are going through. We want to get into a relationship because we want happiness. We want to feel complete, right? Soulmates. No, you are your own soulmate, period. If you are not in a good relationship with yourself, you will be miserable, even if you are in a relationship with someone. That's why people are broken.

2:54My happiness cannot be taken by someone because my happiness does not come from someone. Nobody is giving me my joy. I am the reason of my own joy. If we manage to understand this tiny little truth about life, we will heal. And time doesn't heal you. You heal you. You need to sit down with yourself and think, do you love yourself enough? And if you love yourself enough and you believe in self-love, no external force will ever be able to break you. I always say when wrong people leave, right things start to happen. And we all are living a life story. You have your own story. I have my story. My brothers have their story.

3:39My mother has her own story. And when you find yourself in the wrong story, just leave. If someone is not adding value to your life story, or if you are not adding value to someone's life story, leave. Sometimes it takes letting go to realize we're holding on to nothing. We are too busy clinging on to those relationships, which are not meant to be in our journey. And that's why I say that these people are so toxic. With time, they become so toxic for you that, you know what? your presence in their life is their only definition and they will never want you to leave because they are so weak they want to stay in your shadow so you need to pick and choose this person is toxic leave liberate yourself by setting all these extra people free who do not belong to your journey you know and these people will always weigh you down and if there's something is weighing you down, how will you fly high?

4:42You know, and fear of abandonment, if you can manage to overcome this fear, again, when you are on your own completely, that is where you will understand that solitude is very powerful. Because even in that silence, you're having a conversation. There is no energy vampire around me. I'm on my own and I'm manifesting the best things for myself. I would never trade my solitude to anything because when I am alone on my own, I am the best version of myself. Really? Because I'm kind to myself. Yes. So I have this really cool habit. I switch off. So even when I'm surrounded by a lot of people, I'm actually not there most of the times.

5:34Really? Yes. I'm just thinking. You know what? Recently, I was thinking about something that when I was talking about that, how, you know, this beautiful balance of strength and vulnerability makes us who we are. I was thinking about it the other day that I experience this balance on daily basis. You know, when I see my social media, you know, when I read emails and people sending beautiful messages that, you know, how your words have empowered us. And, you know, because of you, we're not never going to give up. It gives me so much strength, you know. and I say to myself, oh my God, I'm so strong.

6:09And then at the nighttime, when I'm thirsty, I'm unable to get up and get a glass of water for myself, right? That's my reality. And how vulnerable I am at that moment. So this strength and this vulnerability makes us who we are. So I need to have my own moment with myself where I am willing to understand myself better. that if I am vulnerable, that's okay. I'm strong too. And the perfect balance of these two things make me who I am. I remember when I gave my very first talk, that was TEDx. And it actually happened when I decided and I manifested that I'm going to overcome the fear of facing people.

6:53It's so ironic that a public speaker was once scared of facing people. So what happened was, so I gave my very first TED talk. And after my TED talk, a girl from the audience, she came to me and she was crying and she said, can I give you a hug? And I said, sure. So she gave me a hug and she said, your 10 minute TED talk has solved 10 problems of my life. And she said, today you made me realize that those 10 problems never existed. They were just in my head and I was overthinking. And because of you, I'm never going to give up. In that moment, in the flashback, I could hear my mother saying, one day God will show you how did he choose you out of so many for this test.

7:36And that was the moment of realization that, you know what, if my words can change someone's perspective, maybe this is my true calling in life. You know, and as they say that in the end, what matters is how many lives you have touched.

8:01I am so excited for you to finish the rest of your day strong. If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to click the link in the description and it'll take you to the full episode of my other show, The School of Greatness. Make sure to come back tomorrow for another episode of The Daily Motivation Show.

8:27Thank you.