Overcome Your Fear & Welcome True Happiness | Gabby Bernstein EP 369

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0:55If you're unwilling to look at your fear head on and honor it, I always say, if you don't show up for what's up, it will keep showing up. So looking and saying, you know, I witnessed my resistance and you see that fear as resistance. Fear is a resistance to what it is that you desire. And in the absence of resistance, you become a magnet for what you desire. And when you let go of that fear and you transcend that fear, that's when you start to become a super attractor. That's when you start to let what is truly of essence for you into your life, what is truly of service for you into your life, what is true happiness into your life.

1:29Looking at the fear, witnessing it, calling it by its name. And even if you don't have the tools yet, what happens is when you look at the fear and you're like, oh, I see this fear. I see this resistance. I see how it's blocking my life. And I choose to see it differently. You crack open your consciousness to find solutions rather than find problems. And so when you're not looking at the fear, you're just living in the fear and you're believing in the problem. But when you witness the fear and you're willing to see it differently, you start living in the solution. So it's acknowledging that you're experiencing the fear, that you're being held back, that you're resistant to growth or whatever it is you're looking for.

1:59Not judging it. You know, look at the fear without any more judgment. So don't beat yourself up. Don't say, oh, I see it and I'm such an idiot. I'm such a loser. No, be proud of yourself for looking at it. Be proud of yourself. And being aware. And then start, you know, using an affirmation or a prayer that says, I'm willing to see this differently. Show me what to do. And that's when you're going to be led to the book or the author or the yoga teacher or the therapist or whatever it is that you need to transcend that fear. And I believe that the universe works through people. So when you say yes to healing, the healing is presented to you in very profound ways that you could never imagine.

2:32And it comes through because you open up your awareness for it. That's powerful. Is there anything you have yet to heal? Yeah, I'm still healing this trauma stuff. I mean, it's like, like I said, I'm in such early recovery. I'm in like the infant stages of this recovery. And while I'm out of the weeds, I've got stuff to deal with people. and I have stuff to deal with with my physical body and my sexual energy. And, you know, it's like it's brutal. And speaking to anyone that's been through this, it's like I have so much compassion and it ruins people's lives. And so I have to rebuild my life. And so I'm going to not be the victim.

3:12I'm going to be the survivor and someone who's going to thrive as a result of this knowing and heal people through knowing. but um it's work it's not like it's easy the next step in healing fear is that if you you know ask for guidance you say i witnessed my problem and i fear and i need guidance and the guidance shows up you better say yes to it you have to say yes to it once you see the tools or the teacher take action and people don't you know they can come in and they should say no that's too much i feel like we need we need to be challenged more in life you know i feel like we need to be called to a challenge.

3:47And I think teachers or books or podcasts or whatever allow us to create that challenge where someone keeps you accountable to something you should be doing, a challenge for yourself, some type of game. I like to make things into a game. I talk about this a lot in here. When I was a teenager, I was scared to talk to girls, but I wanted to have a girlfriend, right? And so I gave myself a challenge going into my junior year. I said, okay, I'm sick and tired of feeling scared around every single girl that I'm attracted to. I'm tired of this. I'm tired of this feeling of not knowing what to say. I was just like feeling like an idiot.

4:17Like I'm, I'm over it. So I said, every time I go outside during the summer and I see a girl that gives me butterflies, I have to go up and say hi to her. Just say hi. And then a high turned into asking for a number into like meeting up later. And by the end of the summer, I was like, I could talk to anyone. Yeah. You know, it didn't matter if they like turn me down or didn't talk back to me. I was just like, all right, whatever onto the next. And I was able to transform my fear by just practicing. By doing it. Acknowledging, okay, I'm afraid. And then practicing different things. And just try again.

4:47There's a lot in the book about just showing up. Yeah. Just start showing up. And trusting in the process of showing up. Trusting that there's, even when you mess up, you're showing up. Yeah, absolutely.

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