Sarah Jakes Roberts: Reclaim Your Power - From Fear to Fearless Living | EP 870

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11for someone that thinks that they've never been enough that they don't believe they're enough or they don't believe they're worthy or deserving of their own power what are three things that you think maybe from your book power moves that that they could start to apply today to feel more enough and more powerful? So I've spent almost as much time feeling like I was powerless than I have flowing in this level of power. Really? Yeah. And I will say that part of the reason why so many of us end up feeling powerless is because we have not fully sized up our opponent. So if you have fear, if you have shame, if you have doubt and you have worry, We say these words so casually and so frequently that they have become normalized.

1:04The only problem with normalizing our insecurities, our fears, the abandonment, the rejection issues is that they don't really have the same level of power that they need to have in order for us to overcome it. And by that, I mean fear is powerful. Shame is powerful. Our doubt is powerful. It's powerful enough to keep you stuck in relationships. Relationships is powerful enough to keep you alone, to keep you from pursuing your purpose and a business deal, whatever. It's got power, too. And if you're going to have power, you got to have the right target. And instead of trying to target something that's going to make you feel better about those things, we have to face off with the fear.

1:45We have to face off with the doubt and with the shame. We've got to look that thing in the eye and say, at the end of the day, I no longer want to be controlled by you any longer. You've had my name for far too long. You've dictated my destiny for far too long. I want to be better than who fear says I am. I want to be better than what shame says that I am. And in order to direct our power in the right direction, we got to know who our opponent is. And so I would say to anyone who believes that I don't have what it takes or I don't have enough worth that as long as you believe that it is true. What we need to be saying instead is that I need enough power to finally get out of this pattern of thinking that has kept me stuck, that has kept me feeling defeated.

2:29And that is a stronger belief. And I believe that anyone who's going to introduce a stronger belief has to be able to say, I am this and that. Like I may be a teen mom, but I'm still a girl who has dreams. I may have come from a broken home, but I still want to pursue this. I do not want these statistics to end up defining who I am for the rest of my life. And so just because I'm this doesn't mean that I won't be that either. And so being able to live in this duality so that fear doesn't convince us that who we were yesterday defines who we're going to be tomorrow. So identifying it first, facing it.

3:05This thing has real power. It has enough power to keep me from moving, enough power to keep me from growing. Now that I have identified that it actually has power, I want to talk about how I want to extract the power, reclaim the power that fear has, that shame has, and point it in a direction that will allow me to experience wholeness and joy and peace and confidence. power moves is all about really reclaiming power from fear from our shame from our past and recognizing that power moves just because it had enough power to stop you in your past doesn't mean that it gets to keep that power when you reclaim it you can begin moving in the direction of transformation from the inside out not just because I want to get a new job or I want to build something on the outside when power moves in you then power can move through you wow okay Okay, I love this.

4:02So when you identify it and you face it, as opposed to, I guess, running away from it or just allowing it to consume you, what would be the next step? How do we move that power into a direction that supports and serves and empowers us? I love that you asked this because then we need to study how does it show up in my life? So I, in my intimate relationships, I would never speak up. so if someone projected something onto me and said oh you know Sarah doesn't want to do this or hey we're going to do this and say I would never use my voice even if I disagreed I would just go with the flow I didn't want to be a disruptor I didn't want to detract from anyone even if it was a major decision and so I recognized that the power of fear was showing up in keeping me from actually using my voice and so I have identified it now I've seen how it shows up in my life to go to the end of the day and to reconcile.

4:56How did the power of fear, the power of shame show up? It determined what I put on. It determined whether or not I spoke up in the meeting. It made me shut down. I got angry. Like, how did this show up in my life? And what do I wish I would have done instead? What would have been the power move that I did instead? What do we in the beautiful thing about this is when you're reconciling it within yourself, you can say whatever you want to say to yourself. Like you may not this may not be what I was have said in the meeting. Like I wish I had told her to shut up and say that may not be what you say in the meeting.

5:29But start practicing what it feels like to use your voice, to show up in power, to do the opposite of what fear and anxiety and doubt. Do the opposite of that, even if you're only doing it within yourself, because you have to exercise using your own power within. Because the next time there's a moment like this, you get to capture and say, wait a minute. this is a moment where I get to choose to have faith or I get to choose to have fear and because I've already practiced how I want to show up in this space this may be the moment where I dip my toe in the water and begin to show up a little bit right right boundary or say no that doesn't work for me right now let me think about that yeah as opposed to just going along with what you would always your past identity would always do I guess for sure so it's almost like create a rehearsal and practice with yourself first once you identify and you're aware of it I'm hearing you say like, how would you reflect on something you would have done earlier that day that you wish you had the power to do and start practicing it on your own?

6:27So at the end of each chapter, we literally have this like marinate, activate prayer. So it's like these three sections where it's like, let's marinate on how you would have wanted to do something differently. And then let's activate it. The next time you're doing X, Y, and Z, try and show up in a way that allows power to move through you. And then a prayer to help you in those moments, because it does create changes. Not always easy, even when we know it needs to be implemented.

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