Silencing Doubters & Finding Inner Strength to Pursue Your Path | Evy Poumpouras

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0:38Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.

0:50How did you learn to feel empowered when people were trying to force you to quit? They wanted you to be humiliated. They wanted you to look bad. They were happy if you failed. How did you stay, I guess, confident or believing that you were above it and create an environment of I'm okay no matter what they think? So there's kind of two lanes. One lane is it's people that love you and care about you but don't support you. And then the other lane is people that maybe envy you or jealous of you, do want your harm. This lane here, they need to not be in your life. And the moment you realize that, you don't have to tell them, but you should start to fade out you know who those folks are and you don't need to be like hey you know what save it save it because you need that energy so that you can go do what you need to do right the point is to fade out and then before you know it they you're not there anymore and they're like where'd she go i've been gone months right right right

1:58the other lane is that people that you really want to support you and you want them to do that for you but they forgive them my parents were immigrants my mother grew up in a village like literally a village dirt poor I mean the bathroom was in the forest and when I was a kid and I would go visit, like it was a hole in the ground and a shock next to the chicken coop, right? And so my mother grew up dirt poor, my father grew up very poor, dirt poor. They were from Greece. So they couldn't... So they couldn't understand what I was doing. They didn't understand it. My brother, he's like, you can go be a cop, you know?

2:44He didn't like cops. I didn't even like them. but life takes you in a weird path. So I just learned like forgive them but you know, I'm going to be transparent with you. Like you can't look to other people to support you for you to go do something. It's nice if you can get it but like if you're saying you need to give me this so I can do this, they're not the problem. Your thinking is the problem. Can you explain more of that?

3:20It is, I'm not going to do this because I don't have support. My mom's not behind me. My dad's not behind me. This person is supporting me. My friends are making fun of me. So what I just did is I made these external factors, the deciding factors of whether I do something or not. And then, you know, and we've all been there. We listen to other people, myself included. And then we are pissed. Why did I listen to this person? and then we're mad at them uh-uh we have to be mad at ourselves and be like i chose to listen and so i i had to learn over time don't listen and you also know intuitively if it feels like you need to go this way then just go and if you're wrong you're wrong like if you fail you fail i'll share the story with you because as you were talking i was thinking about when you were sharing all the ways in which you failed or you didn't feel right.

4:16Before I went to the NYPD, I actually took a test to be a probationary, not a police officer, to work as a probation officer. And I started leaning into law enforcement. I really wanted the job. It was going to be my first real job out of college. And I was like, so I get a date and time to go take the test. I go to Brooklyn. I won't forget it. I'm super nervous because I'm like, wow, this is like a real job. You know, Again, I came from a very labor background, my parents. And so I show up to take this test. And I'm really, really nervous to take this test. And I'm taking the test. And they ask us a question.

4:53I had to write an essay, but I was so nervous. I had a hard time writing my essay. Time's up. I didn't do a good job. And I knew it. I'm like, I failed this thing. And sure enough, I failed it. Fast forward a couple of months, a couple of maybe weeks ahead. the woman who gave it to us there was a woman who gave us the test like the proctor I go to a wedding and I see her now she's a probationary officer and I see her at a wedding and I'm like oh my gosh that's the woman that gave me the test so I muster up my courage because I felt shame because I failed it she failed you she failed me but I failed myself because I didn't do a good job on that test so I go up to her and I'm like hi I'm so and so I took the test a couple of weeks ago I didn't do very well hopefully I'll get a second chance but I just wanted to come over and say hello despite feeling that shame and I turn you know she shakes my hand she gives me one of those I turn around I walk away now my mom who's seated at a table across my mom's like a very I don't want to say naive but like she's just not she doesn't look for negative things I go back and my mom says to me come here who was that and I said oh that was a woman who proctored the exam, she was the recruiter, the one that didn't do well.

6:12She's like, the moment you turned your back, she was laughing at you with her table and saying stuff about you. Why? And I remember, I remember I was like, because I failed and I didn't do well on that test. And she's probably looking at like, who's this ditz who thinks she's going to go into this field? You know, so can that crush you? Sure. I'd be lying if I didn't say like I felt shame, But then there's also this other part of you that's just like onward, you know? And so from that, I became a Secret Service agent. So there you go.

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