SOG EP 1612 BONUS: Neuroscientist: “I’ll Tell You What I Do!” Do THIS Every Morning to MAXIMIZE Manifestation! Dr. Doty

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11What is the number one thought and number one emotion that blocks us from the ability to manifest greater? Fear. What type of fear? Well, it's insecurity. It's shame. This results in you limiting your beliefs. In some ways, what we're talking about here actually is a decision between fear and love. And when you're fearful, this stimulates your sympathetic nervous system with all the negative aspects of it. When you love, you're open, you're generous, you're thoughtful, you're kind because you've engaged the parasympathetic nervous system. And you have a choice. You meet people, I'm sure, who say, my life's miserable, my life's horrible.

0:56While you meet other people go, well, it's tough right now, but I'm optimistic it's going to get better. Or I know if I do this, it's going to get better. These are completely oppositional attitudes that have a profound, profound effect, depending on what you're believing. Yes. But how does someone shift their attitude into positive when they're in a suffering state and they feel like they're a victim to so many different things happening to them? Sure. Well, I can't sit here and say, you do this and your life's going to be perfect. There are some situations either because of, as an example, structural racism that's built into the system or chronic poverty.

1:37Because throughout the world and even in America, the ability to overcome poverty, for most, it's highly unlikely that's going to happen. So, yes, you do have power, but it's not necessarily I'm going to change it and everything's going to be perfect for me. That being said, what we do know is there are certain practices and rules, and if you are going to get out of something or if you are going to change things, then the best way to do that, which has the highest likelihood of success, is to go through some of the things that we're talking about here. As an example, there is a tendency for us to want to achieve, right?

2:22And if you're an athlete, you have a goal you set there. Goals are fine, but if you focus only on the goal and have no concern about any of the other things that are going on. The process. Yeah. Then you reach the goal and there's nothing there. Yeah. Yet what we do know, the greatest cause of suffering is what? It's attachment and craving. Desires. Yeah. Yeah. And the thing is, when that is your absolute focus, and we can't all get these things, you're going to be highly disappointed. And you've ignored all the people in your life as you focus solely on that. And unfortunately, many people learn that lesson far along after they've destroyed their families.

3:10They've been through multiple marriages. Their kids don't like them. Right? Because they've been chasing a result or a goal or a dream, but neglecting everything else. Yeah, because again, as I was saying even about myself, I thought, well, if I just do this, my shame and insecurity will go away. I'll be loved by everybody and my life will be perfect. Yet at every one of those peaks, all I had was disappointment. And while everyone told me life was great, I did not feel that inside because I had not understood that I was the only one who had the key to the self-created prison. and until you realize that you're on a very difficult path.

3:51So if we're coming from a place of insecurity, fear or lack and we're saying you know what I want to manifest I want to create more for myself and I start to apply some of the the practices of manifesting and creating more abundance in my life but if I create those external results and I haven't shifted the insecurities of the shame, what happens next? Well, you end up the way I did, which is you have everything and you're incredibly unhappy. Yeah. So you can still manifest and attract what you want and create what you want and accomplish goals, but it's not going to make you feel different about yourself.

4:31It might make you actually make you feel worse. Exactly. And this is why I was telling you about the story about the woman, because I was 12. So at 12, she said, I want you to write down 10 things that you want. Well, again, unfortunately, in Western capitalist society, and a 12-year-old, you sit there and think of what people want. I want money. I want cars. I want girls. I want... Well, yeah. I wanted a Rolex watch. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Because a friend of mine's father had one, and it looked so amazing to me, right? I wanted a silver Porsche Targa. I wanted a mansion overlooking the ocean, et cetera, et cetera.

5:07And I got absolutely every one of those things. And I was more miserable than I had ever been. Really? And the interesting thing about that is that the average person thinks they know what they want. They don't understand what they need. And that's the critical aspect here. What's the difference between knowing what we want and having what we need? So, as you know, there's what we call hedonic happiness. So the list I just gave you relates to pleasure and hedonic happiness. I want, it will make me feel good about myself, I, I, I. That is the worst thing you can do if you want to manifest the best.

5:50Really? Yes. When you make it about self. Yes, because in some ways, you're talking about insecurity. The driver of that is insecurity, fear, right? And not enough. And not enough. And especially poor people look through the lens of not enough. And so when you're acting by a belief based on fear, that has a negative effect on these cognitive brain networks. Now, it doesn't mean it's not possible. It just means that you're limiting yourself. And so we talk about this idea of hedonic or selfish happiness. And this is transitory. It's shallow. It doesn't last long, right? Euda-monic happiness is a sense of purpose and that actually is in terms of benefiting others.

6:41It's not about yourself. And the key to that, though, is that when you look through the lens, and we're talking about looking through the lens of compassion, what happens is that you then change how you see the world and what you need not what you want interesting right you see and that changes everything because you you realize when you're of service when you're caring for others you don't necessarily need the having that big house or the porsche isn't going to make you whole right and so you probably don't chase that anymore because It's a chimera that you're focused on because you think it's going to help get rid of the shame and the emptiness.

7:20Right. You see, so it's a different mindset. So when you shift to the parasympathetic nervous system, that activates all of your brain networks and allows them to sync together, if you will, and then has the highest likelihood of manifesting.

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