SOG EP 1618 BONUS: #1 Reason You’re Unhappy: Do This to Overcome Anxiety & Unlock Emotional Peace w/GaryVee

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:11So what would you say to someone in their 20s who maybe wants to accomplish a lot and maybe didn't have it that hard growing up and they feel like it's going to come easily to them? Force the hard. Create the struggle. Why is that necessary? I said it to a friend. You know, it's crazy. My friends I grew up with, like in our era, their kids now are 18. I'm now having the craziest talks like ever I knew this kid when he was two and I'm talking to him now like my audience and I tell a lot of these kids and a lot of them especially the ones I was close with and we did a lot of business some of these parents really make money you know like those early Facebook and Twitter and like you know like so these kids are bougie I had a very very real conversation two weeks ago I said bro you got two choices here you take mommy and daddy's money and create some sort of fake picture and all the real ones know so you're not tricking winners and you're tricking 98 % of the losing players and you can live that life and many do.

1:12That's the easy way. Or if you're telling me because the kid had good words coming out of his mouth. I'm like, if you mean it, well then you need to go work at a company and work your ass off and you need to get three roommates instead of your own place. If you do not take the money, then you can do it. So if you were fully taken care of your whole life. You are allowed to say mom, dad, no. You're allowed. The problem is too many people like to talk out of both sides of their mouth. They want to mom and dad but they want the unlimited credit card. They like that they bought them an apartment. How are you teaching your kids about life?

1:51I'm doing it right now. My kids can watch this. They're going to watch it. Think about this. No kid listens to their parents. No, no. In the way that I'm saying it They're fully saying it. They're like, it's dad. Yeah, of course. They're not about, they didn't find me on the For You page and be like, who's this cool guy? They're like, no way, bro. I'm not listening to you and I'm smart enough. I don't know if smart's the right word. I'm aware enough to know like, I'm not gonna be, listen, I'm dad. And every dad and mom have obnoxious impact on their kid. But I'm gonna be dad to them, which means an outside voice.

2:27Like I'm able to be a contributor to so many. I can't be that for my kids because I'm the main thing. That's interesting. So other people have to be contributors. Right. But it's cool because I understand it. I'm pretty fortunate. I know a lot of people that I think are really positive contributors to the conversation. The last four years have been phenomenal, especially five years because of TikTok because it even started a little bit earlier. There isn't a week that doesn't go by that a business acquaintance all the way, you know, that's over here to you, to the inner circle, right? that my social grab that I won't get a text and be like and like it's so funny because it's happening so common it always the same thing you'll never believe this and at first I didn't know what it was and then a couple years in I was like what but I knew and I would smile but now I reply immediately I'm like your kids follow me on tiktok and they think I'm cool they're like how'd you know I'm like you know I'm like that's how day training attention works you know it's really really cool i can't wait for my son in who's 11 in like four years six years text me like dad do you know who lewis houses or dad how do you know lewis house or dad you've known him since taking a picture of us at world cost plus market right um that's gonna be interesting but i'm aware that i'm dad so i'm trying to give them all the i believe in but i know it's a different version than what Gary Vee is because they're going to have supplement compliment voices to their world and it'll be interesting to see what they gravitate towards they may be like many kids they may gravitate away from my message notice how I'm saying that I'm not scared of that when you love when you try when you have intent when you're ready for it it's like a game it's like business I'm ready for the trials and tribulation of fatherhood I'm ready for the trials and tribulation of a human being.

4:21I anticipate heartbreak. I anticipate my parents passing away because it will happen. It would be very good for my parents to pass away before I pass away. Mainly because I wouldn't want that for them. Right? So like, I mean like, you know, but those things don't cripple me. Those things, I actually are the enhancer of me enjoying a day like this. It is a good day. Everybody I love is good. You know what I mean? What does cripple you? Not much, brother. I think the thing that cripples me is I haven't had the extreme heartbreak of losing a family member that's within my inner six or seven. Yeah.

4:58You know? That scares the shit out of me. Yeah, it's tough. I couldn't comprehend losing a sibling, a parent, a niece, a nephew, a child. That just, it's, I'm not ready for that game. I really, my heart cries deeply for every human that has ever had to taste the sorrow of losing a child. Yeah. And then for the people that are lucky, like me, who are deeply grateful in love with their parents, that's also a crusher. Right? Again, now I'm 48. I have so many 60, 70-year-old friends. Like, it's really fascinating. You can see it. I mean, I have friends who I can see it on their face. they genuinely, not that they want their mom or dad to die, but that relationship is so not good that there's a part of them that's a cleansing.

5:48And like they kind of... Like a freeing of, yeah. They kind of like, you know, they definitely don't think about it the way I do, which is like, please God, don't let it happen for another 40 years. You know what I mean? Yeah, of course.

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