SOG EP 1620 BONUS: The Business Expert: The 3 Worst Financial Habits That Keep You Poor! w/ Dean Graziosi

0:00Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

0:12When people think, well, I don't know the right people, I don't have the right connections, I don't know people who have money, how can people get out of that mindset and start thinking about how to find the who in different ways? How do they enroll people in giving them time, energy? I love it. I love it. I've been on this earth long enough that when I was a kid, there were no podcasts. There were no digital books. I had dyslexia, so reading was brutal before I could listen to an audio, right? We didn't have access to information, access to AI now, access to amazing books, access to amazing podcasts.

0:43You can go back in all your years of interviewing, how many great interviews have you had about money? Probably. A bunch. I've had a handful. Yeah, yeah. Think about going through your old podcast and finding the ones about money, about wealth. Go find others that are respected and have depth and breadth. They're not just the guy that's telling you how to get rich for five minutes because he's actually getting rich helping people think they can get rich, right? Like the person who's actually done the thing and just start absorbing it. When there's a will, there's a way. Duh, like you've been saying that for a while.

1:13But when you want to learn something, the teacher is there, right? And then as you start learning, as you start developing and you're watching podcasts and you're taking notes and you get to correlate and then you maybe go to AI and go, I learned these three things. How does that all tie together? and AI helps you bring it together. And then you might say, hey, I'm going to start reaching out to some of these people because they're going to feel my passion, my desire, my interest. I mean, I have done interviews with people that aren't big podcasters, that didn't go anywhere, where people just wrote me the nice enough message my team sent to me and go, this kid or this woman, she's just a hustler.

1:46Would you give her 20 minutes? I'm like, I will, right? And that only happens, though, when you feel someone's passion. So the teacher's there. Good attitude, passion, all these different things. I heard you say online one time that the only thing standing between you and your next level is the story you tell yourself on why you can't get there. If someone has just had a challenging life, you know, growing up where it just felt like everything was against them, and they have a belief system, memories, and stories that are proof and evidence of why they're not good enough, talented enough, or capable of finding the right people, going after what they want, or whatever circumstance or situation they might have.

2:28It's strong evidence showing that it's not possible to get to the next level. How can someone start to tell a different story that they can actually believe it's possible to get out of a challenging situation, personally, financially, relationship, into a better situation? You know, it's probably because, I don't want to answer this too simply. This is a really great question. it's probably because I try to absorb as much wisdom as I can from others who have done it before and I see the mismatch or the mismatch of personal experiences and trauma and things that go wrong with so many successful people you get to see it every day right when you and I get the opportunity when we've mastermind together and really talk deep when no one's around like I feel like I'm at this phase where I want to if I had the chance to sit down with everybody individually I could look at him and go no no no all of that crap happened because it needed to form the woman you are yeah that's the good stuff you wouldn't be the man you are if you weren't on the couch if you didn't think like all of those things built this guy who's lewis house that you can be this amazing man to your partner right now that you can look like all of those things had to happen but it's so hard when you're in it like oh really I had to get cheated on I had to lose this relationship my business partner had to steal my money right unfortunately yes because you can look at it any way you want.

3:44I'll share this. I go back to personal stories just so I hope it relates. 12 years old, I moved in with my dad. Very confrontational. My dad was the youngest of 12. He was physically abused, sexually abused. It's okay with me sharing that. And old school Italian, didn't get help. New York guy. Scared away every wife. My sister hasn't talked to him in 25 years. So scared and didn't talk to one of his brothers and sisters. Right? He had 12. and he doesn't talk to any of them. It was just a dysfunctional family. So he decided, I'm going to be a better dad, but he couldn't, he didn't get any help.

4:17He had the tools. He was rough. So all the women ran, everybody ran away from him. At 12 years old, he terrorized my mom so much. I said, when will you leave my mother alone, right? He said, move in with me, I'll never bug her again. So I moved in with this guy. My mom was devastated. And she's like, you can't. I'm like, I am. I wouldn't tell her how. Why? Because I knew she wouldn't let me. So I move in with this guy. You're 12? I'm 12. He's living alone. He's living in a tiny little place. The heat's barely on in the place. We had a little electric heater that kept the place warm. It was a nightmare.

4:48I left my mom. We lived in a Kola sack. I had a Mongoose BMX bike. I'm moving to the sky, and he's a mess. Like, I'm older now. I can see it. Just a disaster. This guy is bipolar, or somebody can diagnose it better than that. But some days he's super dead, letting me drive at 12 years old, taking me fishing. And other days I'm vomiting blood because I have a bleeding ulcer because I'm so afraid He's gonna get violent with people get arrested again and do all this stuff, right? So I got this guy that is my hero and the guy I'm scared to death of but by the time I was 15 I Started understanding emotions and I understand how he would feel I understood how it came from I started to have empathy for him and I could watch him come in with like Terrorizing his name is Paul.

5:30He's an amazing guy. He's 87 now and he's in a beautiful space but I saw Paul the terrorizer the one that my mom was afraid of and everybody was afraid of come in I could spin that guy and I could get him to be that loving dad to take the fishing now when I was in my 20s and probably late teens early 20s I remember thinking how could I ever be successful like all the things I went through and the divorces and the crazy dad but there was a time that flipped and if I look at my life now and you've watched me go on stage in front of yes I I mean, with Conahe, we had a half a million people live at the same time.

6:04Amazing. And I can go and I can, I believe I can feel people's hearts. Wow. I can read them and I can adjust what I'm doing and I can present with confidence. That was all crafted by the crazy Paul because it was the protection. So I could stop having a bleeding ulcer. I got off the bus and threw up blood at 13 years old. Wow. And I had a little blood on my mouth in debt. My father was like, what is on your lip? I couldn't tell him because in his head, if I had a bleeding ulcer, it was because my mom left him. when I was three. It was all my mom's fault. If she didn't leave me, we'd have no divorce.

6:35She'd be a happy kid. He didn't realize it was his craziness. And he'd take a baseball bat and drive to my mom's house and knock all the windows out of her car and her house. They'd call the cops and they'd be fighting and I'd be in the car shaking, right? So all those things happen. I only say that because that could have been, and this sounds like I'm just talking, look how great I am. I just want to share, I was able to convert that from how could that happen to a kid to thank god it happened to me now for a living i can i can use this empathy i can use this compassion i can impact others i can get up on stage even though i'm an introvert and be able to talk to people and go i'm going to throw away the presentation i had because this crowd needs this i learned all of that from that crazy guy all of it so i'm only sharing i don't want to make it simple life happens for us not to us that's tony robbins and i love that saying i don't want to just make that a simple little throwaway life already happened for us and if you had crappy stuff I'm so sorry.

7:28But you get to make the decision today and go, I can't change any of it because that was the ingredients that got me here today to be who I am. So I have to say, I'm thankful for it. Yeah. I have to.

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