SOG EP 1636 BONUS: “This Led to My Divorce” How Toxic Masculinity is Destroying This Generation! | Scott Galloway EP 671

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1:01on page 49 in your book you say that the most important economic decision you'll make in your life is not what you major in where you work what stock you buy or where you live it's who you partner with and when someone is wanting to choose the right partner yeah a lot of people my past was choosing based on chemical bonding, you know, sexual attraction, chemical bonding, feeling good, and not really asking those courageous questions about the future, about financial decisions, about spending, saving, all these different things. What would you say are three questions that young people should be asking each other when they're entering a relationship to see if the potential for a healthy and happy long-term relationship is even possible, knowing that 37 % of the problems in divorce is around money challenges?

1:55Yeah, well, you sort of got to one of the answers. So the first is, and young people are very good at asking this question over and over, is sex and affection. That basically says, I choose you. It's really important. And young people are very good at determining whether that works or not. The second is values. Weird stuff like where do you expect to be living in five years? My ex-wife expected to be or wanted to be living very close to her parents. I had not considered that. I did not think about that. Do you want to live in a city? What's your approach to religion? There's just a lot of questions around values.

2:33And then the third one you referenced that people talk about is money. 70 % of divorce filings are filed by women. We have a tendency see to stereotype women as being these doughy victims that have no agency. And men is like dopey predators, right? It's Marge Simpson, incredibly high character, never makes a mistake. And it's Homer Simpson, who is an idiot, but deep down an okay guy. And the whole, the whole, all life is Homer coming over his idiocy while Marge is just this incredibly high character person. And I can statistically prove that there's a lot of good women and there's a lot of good men.

3:09And there's some bad women and some bad men. But women, I believe, and we don't like to talk about this openly and honestly, value economic security more in a mate than men do. 75 % of women say that economic viability is a key criteria in a mate. For men, it's only 25%. Wanting the woman to make money or have security. Or that it's important. In the relationship. Yeah, in some, women are much more attracted to a man because of his financial security than a man would be to a woman because of her financial security. and then it gets speedball and online dating which is where everyone is meeting them and the problem is that people don't give each other enough chance if you talk to married couples 75 of them will say that initially one was less attracted or interested in the other and it's almost always that the woman was less attracted to the man women have a much finer filter than men because the downside of sex is much greater for women and they have a much stronger instinct to find someone who can protect their young.

4:05And so they are much choosier than men. So guys are driven by aesthetics initially online, but they're less choosy. Oh, she looks cute. Or she looks nice. Or she looks like she works out. Swipe right, swipe right, swipe right. Women are choosier. In addition, we have this unfortunate trend in society where young men are falling further, faster than in any time in history. And women, generally speaking, meet horizontally and up socioeconomically, men horizontally and down. And the pool of men horizontal and up is shrinking. Meanwhile, and this is wonderful, no group of people has ascended faster globally than women.

4:43There are more women seeking tertiary education now than men globally. And when you look at some nations don't like women going to college, that's a remarkable stat. The number of women elected to parliament globally, the elected body, has doubled in the last 30 years. There are more women, single women in the U.S. now that own homes than single men. There's going to be potentially nearly two to one female to male college grads in the next five years. And by the way, we don't want to do anything that gets in the way of that. That's amazing. But what we also have to acknowledge is that if we don't figure out a way to produce more economically and emotionally viable young men, we're going to have a lack of household formation.

5:24Because regardless of the Hallmark Channel movie you see, women, generally speaking, aren't interested in men who aren't socioeconomically at the same level or superior to them. Interesting. Oh, there's all kinds of... When the woman starts making, or the wife in the relationship starts making more money than the man, the guy is three times more likely to be on erectile dysfunction drugs. Really? And a lot of that is his own issue, his own weird sense of masculinity, and his own insecurity. But again, those 70 % of divorce filings filed by women, we never want to have an honest conversation about this, right?

5:58Because anything that in any way might portray one sex as not being our vision of how the sex is portrayed in media means you're anti-women. I don't think that's true at all. 70 % of those divorce filings, and the number one source of that divorce filing, there's really three things. He has an emotional breakdown, he loses his business, or some story declares bankruptcy. That's the biggest cause for women wanting to file for a divorce. When he's no longer a viable provider. Wow. People think it's values or infidelity. It's not. It's almost always related to money. Wow. Money creates kind of opportunistic infection.

6:30It's sort of like there's just more likely. And most anger, most households coming apart, financial stress usually is creating the context of anger. It's the underlying issue behind why someone's resentful or angry or stressed or overwhelmed. It lowers the immunity system of everybody around the household.

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