Stop Fighting For Survival, Start Fighting For This | Brendon Burchard

0:00We just confirmed that Andrew Huberman is coming to the Summit of Greatness, along with some other amazing speakers. We've got Dr. Tara Sward, Brendan Burchard, Gabby Bernstein, Amy Purdy, and some huge entertainers and performers. Make sure to get your tickets right now. Summit of Greatness is happening September 12th and 13th here in Hollywood. I can't wait to see you there. Hi, my name is Lewis Howes, and welcome to The Daily Motivation Show.

0:35I look over and I see the woman I love sleeping under the weight of my bills. Wow. Literally, she's sleeping under my bills. And it was like, it like, you know, it snapped something. None of us want to be the cause of financial insecurity for someone we love. and I'd been faking it for several weeks, pretending to write, not getting much done, and that night seeing that, it just, it hurts so much. I was like, you know what? I got to get this done. So I wrote, and I wrote, and I wrote, and the next day she went to work, and I was still writing. The next day, I'm writing, I'm writing, I'm writing, I'm writing.

1:2118 days later, boom, book is done. 18 days later, bam, number one on Amazon. Write another, write another, bam, bam, Bam, bam. Six books, number one on every list imaginable. Millions of copies, you know, build this huge empire of courses and memberships and eight big seminars a year all around the country for 15 years straight. And here's why. You need to find someone to fight for. If you're broke, you're fighting for survival. If you're going to break through, you're fighting for somebody else. Wow. you need to find somebody or something to fight for that is beyond you and when you find that when you find that that's when the breakthrough happens that's when the real breakthroughs happen i love his show because he asked that question to everybody you know at the end about greatness and everybody basically says in some way some type of pursuit of their potential and developing themselves but in pursuit of that for others and so at some point you go from i need to just survive to I need to be in service of something bigger that will demand something of me and if you don't like the language of you need something to fight for somebody to fight for then just replace it with love you need to love somebody or love something of beyond yourself otherwise you'll only be in survival mode how do you not go back into self-doubt when okay you get excited to fight for someone or something greater and you're you're living in that space but then something doesn't work out or then it doesn't hit number one or people continue to laugh at you or you're the money's not coming you should have seen how he looked at me people continue to laugh how do you how do you not fall back into survival um or self-doubt or insecurity or self-judgment or just don't stop pretending those are going to go away.

3:26Doubt's not the problem. Stopping is. A lot of people have doubt, but they keep going. If doubt becomes a signal to stop, you'll always fail. If doubt is a signal to learn and to try again, now you're in the scientific method and you win. So doubt should be a signal to learn and to try something new. But even doubt's not the problem. Catastrophizing is a problem. What does that mean? Catastrophizing is where a lot of learned helplessness comes from. It's where you worry about ruin in your life, which is one of the great fears we have as humans. If I do this, I'll be ruined. I'll be ruined. Everything will go away and they'll reject me and I won't be able to handle it.

4:14So I'll be inadequate too. And so here's what, write this down. If you ever want to understand your negative thinking, write this acronym I'm going to give you down. Zaps, Z-A-P-S. You guys will be having success and then you'll zap yourself. And when you zap yourself, you'll stop. Zap, Z-A-P-S. The Z stands for zoom in. Problem happens, you zoom in on it. Difficulty, you zoom in on it. You failed, you zoom in on it. They made fun of you, you zoom in on it. then the A is you attach self. You attach identity to the problem. You attach identity to the ruin. The failure. Yes, I am the failure. Now it's not just a bad thing happened.

4:56I am impacted by it. I am. You zoom in on what's wrong. You got to stop that. You got to zoom in on what's possible. Yeah. You got to zoom in on blessings. You got to zoom in on grace. You got to open up that perspective. You got to open up that aperture. so you zoom in on what's wrong you attach personality or identity to the problem then p is then you punish yourself oh man i used to do that all the time yeah you punish yourself you shut yourself down you speak terribly to yourself procrastination is punishment drugs alcohol drugs alcohol abuse whatever neglect all of these things you punish yourself you neglect and you don't just punish yourself with the bad, you neglect yourself from the good.

5:44You rob yourself of blessings. Yeah. Because you don't believe you're deserving of those things. That's right.

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