Take Back Your Life By Healing Inner Wounds | Jay Shetty EP 253

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0:53How does someone find purpose in chaos when they can't even get out of the thinking because they're just trying to survive? Beautiful question. My biggest answer is, first of all, I empathize with anyone who's been in that situation. I can't ever say I've been in that situation in the same way, but I've experienced similar things. And I've seen my mom go through stuff like that. I know that my mom worked really hard to raise me and my sister while working, while running around. And I've seen my mom be that incredible powerhouse of a person. And the main thing I would say is what you can do right now is find meaning in what you do.

1:29Make what you do meaningful, passionate and purposeful You don't need to suddenly look to become an entrepreneur Or start a side hustle Or find some more time Find meaning And the way you find meaning As you genuinely stop Press pause for a second And go What am I living for? Like what am I living for right now? And if you're living for your child And if you're living to provide and put food on the table That is a beautiful thing that we should celebrate more And sometimes it takes us a moment to stop and celebrate that Because you can't always find happiness. You can't always find positivity.

2:01But you can always find meaning in that position. So I'll give an example. Like I lost someone really important to me, a mentor, a few days back. I can't be positive about that. You can't be happy about that. Yeah. It's hurtful. You feel sad. You feel lost. But guess what? I can find meaning in it. Because I can make a list of every lesson he taught me and make a plan to try and live every one of those lessons. Wow, that's beautiful. And so if you're in a really tough situation right now, don't look for positivity. Don't look for happiness. Look for meaning. And not trying to get yourself out of pain too quickly or discomfort or frustration, which I've been in the guilt of being like, just be positive or whatever to people.

2:39But I think it's like, you know, have your experience. Live your experience and find meaning as quickly as possible. And create a commitment to how you want to use that meaning moving forward. And when you start doing those small things with love and kindness, so much more opens up. It's like when you're when you can be trusted in the small things in the small moments You get trusted with more and more and more and it's in those painful moments that you realize how powerful you are We all know that like you've really recognized it And and what you said was beautiful about not rushing through the pain because and and you know I this example is probably been shared before but if you have a wound and you've cut yourself It's like you can't rush The healing there's no videos you can watch there's nothing you can listen to but our challenge is we try and rush through the pain Rather than reflect through the pain.

3:26We try to rush the healing process. Try to rush the healing. And you can't rush healing. And healing is meant to be slow because it buys you time. It buys you reflection. It gives you so much space. To slow down. To slow down. And that's what your body is calling out for. And this is our emergency. Like, how many times have you heard it? Where you slow down. You slow down. And that's when you fall ill. Because guess what? Your body has been trying to tell you to slow down. Pain makes you pay attention. Yeah. That's what pain is for. Pain is not... Notice this. Notice this. Look at me. Notice me.

3:56Look at me. It's like a crying baby craving for attention. When a baby's crying, you don't just go, oh, I was crying. You don't just go, oh, yeah, we'll just put it in another room and forget about it, right? You go to it and you find its needs. Whereas with our pain, when something's painful, we're just like, oh, yeah, I'll just forget about it. I'll escape from it. I'll do something else. You have to go into that pain. I'll numb the pain. I'll numb the pain. That's it. With alcohol or whatever. 100%. That's usually our response is, what can I do to numb this? Work more, have sex more, drink more, drugs more.

4:23whatever it is. Rather than let me actually become alert. And guess what? The pain just gets higher and higher and higher and higher because unfortunately, until it really hurts, we don't stop.

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