The Goal You're Chasing Will Never Make You Happy | Peter Sage

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0:42So, why do the dogs run? They run because they're chasing a mechanical rabbit. The question is, do they ever catch the rabbit? No. What if they run really fast? No. They speed up the rabbit. Speed up the rabbit. What if they have a better trainer? Yeah. Speed of the rabbit still, yeah. Sleep in a bed of kennel? No, right? So the reason the dogs don't catch the rabbit is because by design, they can never catch the rabbit. Now, replace greyhound with entrepreneur or achiever. Replace rabbit with the goal you think is going to make you happy. Now, if you look at the dogs at the end of a race, you ever see a greyhound at the end of the race?

1:25They're ecstatic. Why? Because they got to run. That's what greyhounds are born to do. Entrepreneurs, we are built and born to build businesses. That's what we do. But if we're linking our success to catching the rabbit, you can just imagine at the end of the race, the greyhound turns to his friend and says, hey, listen, I ran three races this week. Won two of them. Still haven't caught that damn rabbit. I quit. Yeah, yeah. Right? No. They get to run. And so if you're building a business in order to catch the rabbit, your next quarterly goal or your shareholders report or whatever it may be, and you think, when I get there, and of course, have you noticed that the rabbit always just seems that little bit ahead, and I'm almost there, right?

2:04What happens when you do actually get your goal? How happy are most people for how long? They're not actually happy. Maybe a day or two, but then it's like, oh, what next? 100%. That's the curse of the white rabbit. And why are they relieved at least for a short while. Why? Because they're no longer chasing. So I say, when I get my first million on my first Ferrari, I'll be happy. I was 25, I bought my first Ferrari for cash. And I was happy for about a week. And I make my first million, then I'll be happy. What happens? You make your first million and you're not happy. And then you finally realize why.

2:42Of course. Answer's simple. It's because I need two million in case I lose the first. Right, right, right. Oh, it shouldn't be a Ferrari. It should be a McLaren. That will make me happy. That goes on forever. Yeah. Or now I'm hanging out with people that make 10 million and now I'm at the bottom of the rung. I've worked with people worth 700 million who are on antidepressants because they're not a billionaire. Really? Oh, yeah. Come on. That game never ends. Yeah. It's the curse of the white rabbits. How do you break that? Well, understand that in order to do it, it doesn't require a new hack, a new 10x this, a new ice bath routine.

3:16All of that's outer world stuff. Outer world follows in the world. That's just buy me hacks on how to run faster east to find your sunset. Instead, if you realize, ultimately, and some people just, they're not ready to hear this, but they will at some point. You break the curse of the white rabbit by understanding the reality that you already are that which you seek. What does that mean? What are you really after? for the Ferraris or the money or the body or the house or whatever? It's probably a feeling for most people. A feeling. There isn't a feeling that at your age or most ages by the time you're 20, your brain doesn't neurologically understand or hasn't experienced at some point.

4:02You know how to create it. So what you're really saying is that in By Me, and this is kind of the curse of By Me, the white rabbit, is that when I achieve a certain level that I have internally, arbitrarily set as a point, I will then give myself permission to feel a feeling that I could actually feel now. But I'm refusing to do that because my rules for what has to happen for me to have that permission are set in some sort of achievement criteria externally. Instead of just being now. Here's a great analogy. Let's say you win a round-the-world trip. You enter the competition, And if you're in a waiting room, you got bored, you're online, you entered something, and a month later, you get a notification.

4:46You've won on all expenses, round-the-world trip, dream trip, 20 different destinations, everything on your bucket list. The Northern Lights, the Pyramids, Antarctica, Angawatt in Cambodia, all of these things. First class, you've got jets, you've got cruise ships, you've got everything. You are so excited. And you can take one person with you. Obviously, if you would be Martha. right but you call your friend and you say oh my goodness you're not going to believe this yeah we're emotional creatures we're designed to share we experience emotion through connection so you call a friend or you're talking i've just won this amazing round the world trip yeah i'm just looking through the itinerary and before you can get to the second place that you're going to your friend cuts you off and says oh what's your final destination like well i'll get to that but yeah we're also going here and we're going to well no i don't care what's your final destination you know i haven't even looked that far ahead i just want to enjoy the trip.

5:40That's life. So many people are trying to race to what they think is a final destination that'll make them happy. When I get this house or that car or this status or that amount of followers or this many likes on my breakfast or whatever crap that goes on. You already are that which you seek. And when you realize that if I can give myself permission to be happy now and what is happy, don't complicate it. Happiness is a byproduct of thinking happy thoughts. Case closed. So if I can give myself permission now, I can go and chase the dream, build the business, do what have you from a very different place of giving more of who I am to the world and the venture and everything else, rather than give less of me because I feel less than until I've got it.

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