The Highest Level of Generosity Has Nothing To Do With Money | Ryan Leak

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0:42How do you know when to give or who to give to? Yeah. So for us, we have several and being a speaker is kind of nice because you get to meet so many different kinds of people doing all sorts of different things. and you know if it's a cause you know there's somebody on our team she helps raise money for single moms and I was like that's so awesome and she had just joined our team and so I just I looked at my wife I said I said hey what do you what do you think about this organ say hey could you send me the website we send the website and we just we just give scripture talks about not letting the left hand know what the right hand's doing when it comes to generosity like the the more you're involved in it, the, the, the more your ego can get involved.

1:30In fact, in Jewish culture, we're getting deep into generosity. There was eight levels of generosity. Really? Yeah. Eight levels. The first level was where you, um, you give, but you give with a grudge. Begrudgingly. Yeah. I mean, yeah, you can have it. Yeah. Frustrated. Yeah. But it goes all the way to, um, each level has a different level of ego attached to it. Sometimes you can give with a smile on your face, but you don't give enough. You need 100, I go, hey, here's Siphi. But I smile, I got you. But then there were actually like rabbis that would walk around towns and they would keep coins on the back of their robes.

2:09So people, the poor could actually grab money off of their robes, but they didn't actually know who it was. They kept moving. Wow, interesting. And then there were other times, different levels of generosity, where they would actually put coins in poor people's mailboxes back then, if you will. So they knew who the receiver was, but the receiver didn't know. Very interesting. So you don't know that it's me. Then there's anonymous giving. So we like to do anonymous giving where our friends get supported. They're like, man, you won't believe what happened. I'm like, I do believe what happened. But it's like the more you're involved, the more ego that is there, the highest level of generosity is actually not giving them money.

2:49it's putting them in a position to make money themselves. That's the highest level of generosity. It is not giving them fish, it's teaching them how to fish. Sometimes people don't want to learn how to fish. No. They say they want to, but really the work and time and energy that it takes to invest in generating fish, generating money, they want the easy relief now. Yes. That's the hard thing, though. It's like, how do you know if someone in your life for people aren't willing to learn how to fish for themselves. And they're always coming back for more. How do you navigate that from being an enabler to someone who's empowering?

3:29Totally. You know, for me, I'm always, I mean, again, it goes back to peace or pause. There's people that we've given to on one month, and then the next month they ask, but just say, hey, no, not this time. And that's just peace or pause for us. sometimes I'll tell a friend you don't need my money you need my mind if I gave you an hour of my time the money you're asking for you're asking the wrong question to the wrong person if you have somebody like my phone number in attention you should be asking me for 30 minutes does that make sense that goes back to them even if they took it they may not act on it you know what I mean they may not act on the wisdom So they have to be ready for that.

4:14You know, they have to want it and seek it out. That's what my friend calls an ask hole. An ask hole is somebody that asks the same questions over and over again. Doesn't. But doesn't do anything about it. Yeah. I got some ask holes in my life, for sure. But, man, I just, I think where my posture towards humanity and other people, the chill nature of that, I think, comes from the fact that, And so many people in my life gave me a shot when they shouldn't have. They gave me a pass. And so it's hard for me to hold people to the letter of the law. It's not that I don't get mad or I don't get bothered.

4:57It's just that I know that there was somebody that should have been mad at me and wasn't. And talked to me in a tone that was respectful. and showed me a lot of grace. So it's hard for me to hold people to the letter of the law when I've been given so much that I could go on forever telling you stories about, like when my dad had a stroke, I was at that private school. We were getting ready to leave that private school because we couldn't afford to be there anymore. And there was a freshman English teacher named Mrs. Holstead who came to my mom and she says, hey, me and my husband see your boy's potential.

5:34We'll pay for their tuition. Wow.

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